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ChazII

(6,205 posts)
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 12:40 PM Mar 2020

My son passed

March 6, 2020. He had the same type of brain cancer that Senators Kennedy and McCain had. His was in the thalamus and grew into the brain stem. His brain is being donated to Ivy Brain Tumor Center at Barrow Neurological Institute in Phoenix.

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My son passed (Original Post) ChazII Mar 2020 OP
My deepest condolences. 50 Shades Of Blue Mar 2020 #1
I am so sorry for your loss. essaynnc Mar 2020 #2
My deepest sympathy on your loss. CrispyQ Mar 2020 #3
I am so deeply sorry.😔 dewsgirl Mar 2020 #4
I'm so sorry for your loss. MelissaB Mar 2020 #5
So very sorry LiberalBrooke Mar 2020 #6
Sending you my deepest sympathies... and virtual hugs. InAbLuEsTaTe Mar 2020 #7
Oh I am so sorry, Kali Mar 2020 #8
Condolences, ChazII on the loss of your beloved son. gademocrat7 Mar 2020 #9
I am so sorry pandr32 Mar 2020 #10
I'm so sorry for your loss. My sympathy to you, the family and all livetohike Mar 2020 #11
I am so sorry. May you find the strength to persevere. LoisB Mar 2020 #12
My deepest sympathy and condolences, dear ChazII Leghorn21 Mar 2020 #13
So hard to see one's child pass. So sorry empedocles Mar 2020 #14
So sorry for you and your family. Paz RestoreAmerica2020 Mar 2020 #15
i'm so sorry. barbtries Mar 2020 #16
✨✨Hugs✨✨ OhNo-Really Mar 2020 #17
Deepest sympathies to you and your family. Duncan Grant Mar 2020 #18
Oh God vercetti2021 Mar 2020 #19
My condolences Faux pas Mar 2020 #20
virtual hugs cyclonefence Mar 2020 #21
So very sorry to hear this. TruckFump Mar 2020 #22
So sorry for your loss, hoping you can find peace. ancianita Mar 2020 #23
I'm so sorry Bettie Mar 2020 #24
So sorry Jarqui Mar 2020 #25
damn, I am so sorry for your loss RT Atlanta Mar 2020 #26
I am so sorry. I can't imagine the pain you're going through. AJT Mar 2020 #27
I am very sorry. madaboutharry Mar 2020 #28
I'm so sorry. SunSeeker Mar 2020 #29
So sorry. matt819 Mar 2020 #30
My sincere condolences. Mr.Bill Mar 2020 #31
I'm so sorry, I can't imagine losing a son. Ohiogal Mar 2020 #32
I am sorry for your loss Stuart G Mar 2020 #33
I'm so very sorry janterry Mar 2020 #34
I'm so sorry wryter2000 Mar 2020 #35
I'm so, so sorry. CaptainTruth Mar 2020 #36
I'm sorry for your loss as a parent myself. I can't imagine what yonder Mar 2020 #37
So, so sorry. democrank Mar 2020 #38
Hard to imagine anything harder than a mother to lose her child. I am so sorry you FailureToCommunicate Mar 2020 #39
Our deepest condolences flying-skeleton Mar 2020 #40
Deep condolences Richard D Mar 2020 #41
My heart aches for you. True Blue American Mar 2020 #45
I wish I could say or do something for you Botany Mar 2020 #42
Holding you and your family in the Light. TygrBright Mar 2020 #43
I am so sorry. Maraya1969 Mar 2020 #44
My deepest condolences, Chaz. SergeStorms Mar 2020 #46
I am so sorry. emmaverybo Mar 2020 #47
So very, very sorry for your loss. Freedomofspeech Mar 2020 #48
My deepest condolences. ohtransplant Mar 2020 #49
I am sorry you have lost your son. AllyCat Mar 2020 #50
So sorry. SammyWinstonJack Mar 2020 #51
Thinking of you and your family 💫 MLAA Mar 2020 #52
I am so sorry Chainfire Mar 2020 #53
I'm so sorry! redwitch Mar 2020 #54
Hugs to you and your family lunatica Mar 2020 #55
I'm so sorry. Condolences to you and your family. dawg day Mar 2020 #56
My Deepest Condolences to You OldManTarHeel Mar 2020 #57
SO sorry to hear bucolic_frolic Mar 2020 #58
so very sorry handmade34 Mar 2020 #59
Aw, I'm so sorry for your loss. AirmensMom Mar 2020 #60
Lost my son 10 years ago. I know what you're going thru. Butterflylady Mar 2020 #61
Omg I'm so sorry. PCIntern Mar 2020 #62
I am so touched you chose to share this with us. tavernier Mar 2020 #63
Bless your heart... Raster Mar 2020 #64
So sorry Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Mar 2020 #65
So sorry to hear this Drifter Mar 2020 #66
My heart weeps for your loss of your son. riverbendviewgal Mar 2020 #67
And Neil Peart, the drummer and lyricist for Rush ms liberty Mar 2020 #197
Thank you for caring riverbendviewgal Mar 2020 #235
I am so sorry for your loss. brer cat Mar 2020 #68
I am so very sorry for your loss. onecaliberal Mar 2020 #69
Have had your message up in a tab for a while Mersky Mar 2020 #70
Words cannot express my sorrow for you. colorado_ufo Mar 2020 #71
Keep us posted on his progress. Duppers Mar 2020 #101
So kind, thank you! colorado_ufo Mar 2020 #167
Yes, please keep us posted ChazII Mar 2020 #206
I'm so very sorry. catbyte Mar 2020 #72
Deepest Condolences, I am so sorry for your dreadful loss irisblue Mar 2020 #73
So sorry for your loss ... CatMor Mar 2020 #74
So sorry for your loss zeusdogmom Mar 2020 #75
I'm sorry, and thank you for your courage in donating his brain. LisaM Mar 2020 #76
I'm so very sorry for your loss dlk Mar 2020 #77
So very sorry for your loss still_one Mar 2020 #78
I am so very sorry for byour loss. TwistedTinkerbelle Mar 2020 #79
I'm so sorry my deepest condolences. nt live love laugh Mar 2020 #80
Deepest condolences to you and your family Hekate Mar 2020 #81
I can't even begin to imagine. marble falls Mar 2020 #82
I am so very sorry from the bottom of my heart. FM123 Mar 2020 #83
So very sorry DownriverDem Mar 2020 #84
My deepest condolence vishnura Mar 2020 #85
I'm so, so very sorry. StarryNite Mar 2020 #86
I have no words...just a tears and a heavy heart sdfernando Mar 2020 #87
so sorry to hear this:( Trueblue Texan Mar 2020 #88
I am so very sorry for your loss Fresh_Start Mar 2020 #89
My condolences on your loss. Moostache Mar 2020 #90
I am very sorry. IADEMO2004 Mar 2020 #91
I can only imagine your pain. I am so sorry. Atticus Mar 2020 #92
I am very sorry. murielm99 Mar 2020 #93
Oh my lillypaddle Mar 2020 #94
I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved son and the difficult siege Tanuki Mar 2020 #95
So very sorry. Duppers Mar 2020 #96
I'm so sorry for your terrible loss. sinkingfeeling Mar 2020 #97
Very sorry for your loss JPPaverage Mar 2020 #98
So very sorry for your loss. Scarsdale Mar 2020 #99
My deepest, most heartfelt condolences to you and yours. flying_wahini Mar 2020 #100
sincerest condolences nt steve2470 Mar 2020 #102
So sorry you son passed angstlessk Mar 2020 #103
I am so sorry ChazII peacebuzzard Mar 2020 #104
I am so sorry KT2000 Mar 2020 #105
I'm sorry for your loss. LaurenOlimina Mar 2020 #106
Chazll, I'm profoundly sorry for your loss. Dem2theMax Mar 2020 #107
I am so sorry for your loss, ChazII. sheshe2 Mar 2020 #108
My deepest sympathy. mfcorey1 Mar 2020 #109
Sorry for your loss. Prosper Mar 2020 #110
Peace and calm on you and your son. SayItLoud Mar 2020 #111
So very sorry, ChazII. Granny M Mar 2020 #112
Deepest condolences, ChazII sarge43 Mar 2020 #113
I'm so sorry Danmel Mar 2020 #114
I am so very sorry for your loss. CaptYossarian Mar 2020 #115
Wishing you peace. peacefreak2.0 Mar 2020 #116
. ismnotwasm Mar 2020 #117
I am so sorry gopiscrap Mar 2020 #118
So very sorry. May you find peace. No Vested Interest Mar 2020 #119
I am so sorry. Jim__ Mar 2020 #120
I'm so sorry, CHAZII. snacker Mar 2020 #121
I'm so sorry Andy Canuck Mar 2020 #122
I am so sorry to read this. thucythucy Mar 2020 #123
Pardon my curiosity ChazII Mar 2020 #137
It was in both hemispheres thucythucy Mar 2020 #143
Jay's tumor was in his thalamus as previous stated ChazII Mar 2020 #173
Parents should never have to bury their own babies.... Bayard Mar 2020 #124
Hugs to you all TEB Mar 2020 #125
Deepest of condolences to you polmaven Mar 2020 #126
Deepest condolences. DonaldsRump Mar 2020 #127
I'm so sorry for your loss. happy feet Mar 2020 #128
He'll live in your heart and soul Harker Mar 2020 #129
I'm so sorry Dukkha Mar 2020 #130
I wish you love and light. My deepest condolences. 58Sunliner Mar 2020 #131
Such a sad loss! PJMcK Mar 2020 #132
Thank you, DU family ChazII Mar 2020 #133
Oh, I Am So Very Sorry DarthDem Mar 2020 #134
My deepest condolences for your loss. greatauntoftriplets Mar 2020 #135
Oh My God I'm so sorry budkin Mar 2020 #136
I am so very sorry. mac56 Mar 2020 #138
Very sorry ... jb5150 Mar 2020 #139
So sorry for your loss Captain Zero Mar 2020 #140
I'm very sorry for your loss. bluedigger Mar 2020 #141
I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you, your family, and your son's friends. keopeli Mar 2020 #142
I am so sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family. Mazeltov Cocktail Mar 2020 #144
It's hard to imagine the pain--so sorry panader0 Mar 2020 #145
My heart goes out to you and your family. Hugs. nt iluvtennis Mar 2020 #146
I am so very sorry for your loss Gothmog Mar 2020 #147
I'm so very sorry to hear this. ailsagirl Mar 2020 #148
You have my most sincere condolences. joost5 Mar 2020 #149
My deepest condolences bdamomma Mar 2020 #150
May time begin to heal your broken heart radical noodle Mar 2020 #151
May you and your family find peace. riversedge Mar 2020 #152
Very sorry for you and your famliy. n/t Peregrine Took Mar 2020 #153
Condolences iwannaknow Mar 2020 #154
My heart goes to you and your family. Doreen Mar 2020 #155
So deeply sorry. volstork Mar 2020 #156
I'm so sorry. Chellee Mar 2020 #157
So sorry for your loss. tazkcmo Mar 2020 #158
My deepest sympathy. BadgerMom Mar 2020 #159
May those that grieve be comforted. My condolences on your loss. Backseat Driver Mar 2020 #160
The worst loss for anyone is a child rurallib Mar 2020 #161
Peace to you and your family world wide wally Mar 2020 #162
My most sincere condolences Nac Mac Feegle Mar 2020 #163
I'm very sorry to hear this. NurseJackie Mar 2020 #164
So sorry. FuzzyRabbit Mar 2020 #165
I'm so sorry to hear this. JohnnyLib2 Mar 2020 #166
So sorry to hear of your son's passing. May you be comforted by your family and friends. treefarmers Mar 2020 #168
No words...just hugs N_E_1 for Tennis Mar 2020 #169
My frien's sister had a brain tumor BigmanPigman Mar 2020 #170
Losing a child has to be one of the worst things that can happen to anyone. I have no words. DFW Mar 2020 #171
True. When we were told 15 months to live ChazII Mar 2020 #207
Thinking of you voteearlyvoteoften Mar 2020 #172
Oh, no. So sorry to hear. ramen Mar 2020 #174
We are so sorry Dave in VA Mar 2020 #175
Heartbreaking. Sending empathy and hugs. apcalc Mar 2020 #176
My condolences to you and yours. denbot Mar 2020 #177
((ChazII)) blm Mar 2020 #178
My heart breaks for your loss,ChazII stuffmatters Mar 2020 #179
I am so sorry. Parents aren't supposed to outlive their children. OregonBlue Mar 2020 #180
May you find comfort and peace, so sorry for your loss Miigwech Mar 2020 #181
I'm so very sorry for your loss. femmedem Mar 2020 #182
My deepest condolences for you loss Soph0571 Mar 2020 #183
I'm so sorry sellitman Mar 2020 #184
Sending love cp Mar 2020 #185
I'm so sorry for your loss. LiberalLoner Mar 2020 #186
My condolences... Uben Mar 2020 #187
I am so sorry! raging moderate Mar 2020 #188
Oh, man, ChazII ... I'm so sorry to hear this. calimary Mar 2020 #189
I lost a son in 1993. The hurt never go away, but it does Dustlawyer Mar 2020 #190
I lost my 25 year old son locks Mar 2020 #191
Oh Lord, I am so sorry for you and your family. Fla Dem Mar 2020 #192
I'm so sorry DesertRat Mar 2020 #193
I am so sorry. warmfeet Mar 2020 #194
I am so sorry iamateacher Mar 2020 #195
So sorry... mithnanthy Mar 2020 #196
And Neil Peart, the drummer and lyricist for Rush, who died Jan 7, 2020 ms liberty Mar 2020 #198
I can barely imagine your pain. Pacifist Patriot Mar 2020 #199
My deepest condolences The Polack MSgt Mar 2020 #200
(((hugs))) samnsara Mar 2020 #201
There are no words for the loss of a child. Frustratedlady Mar 2020 #202
Deepest condolences and peace to you and your family, Chaz. skylucy Mar 2020 #203
I'm so sorry. I'll say a prayer for your family. Ilsa Mar 2020 #204
My sympathies as well. ON THE PLUS SIDE.. AZ8theist Mar 2020 #205
It is good to hear that Barrow was ChazII Mar 2020 #208
They cured me. AZ8theist Mar 2020 #217
(((Hugs))) bless you for donating Sea Turtle Mar 2020 #209
I am so sorry for your loss. (eom) StevieM Mar 2020 #210
I am sorry jimlup Mar 2020 #211
I am so so sorry for your loss Tumbulu Mar 2020 #212
I am so sorry for your loss Dan Mar 2020 #213
I am so sorry ChazII. montana_hazeleyes Mar 2020 #214
Sincere condolences to you and your family, ChazII. pazzyanne Mar 2020 #215
So sorry to hear this peggysue2 Mar 2020 #216
Oh man, ChazzII, wishing you comfort and peace mahina Mar 2020 #218
My condolences. nt Progressive Jones Mar 2020 #219
My deepest condolences.... Heartstrings Mar 2020 #220
I'm sorry for your loss. samir.g Mar 2020 #221
I'm so very sorry. cate94 Mar 2020 #222
Terribly sorry. maryallen Mar 2020 #223
I am an only child and Jay was also an only child. ChazII Mar 2020 #237
I am so, so sorry to hear this wackadoo wabbit Mar 2020 #224
All of the hugs ChazII Mar 2020 #238
May he rest in power. MrScorpio Mar 2020 #225
I'm so sorry. Squinch Mar 2020 #226
Heartfelt condolences to you and everyone who loved him... PAMod Mar 2020 #227
So sorry snowybirdie Mar 2020 #228
So sorry, a tragic loss Meowmee Mar 2020 #229
I am so sorry for your loss and his suffering. no_hypocrisy Mar 2020 #230
I'm so very sorry for this terrible loss. Jane Austin Mar 2020 #231
My sincerest condolences on your loss. CentralMass Mar 2020 #232
My sincere condolences for your loss. Dennis Donovan Mar 2020 #233
I am so sorry for your loss. Tarheel_Dem Mar 2020 #234
Too sad malaise Mar 2020 #236
I am so sorry for your loss. denvine Mar 2020 #239
Deep condolenes and cilla4progress Mar 2020 #240
Words fall so short of being comforting, or even useful. BobTheSubgenius Mar 2020 #241
Your words, Bob, do bring comfort. ChazII Mar 2020 #242

livetohike

(22,157 posts)
11. I'm so sorry for your loss. My sympathy to you, the family and all
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 12:49 PM
Mar 2020

who knew and loved your son. May every good memory comfort you .

Leghorn21

(13,526 posts)
13. My deepest sympathy and condolences, dear ChazII
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 12:53 PM
Mar 2020

And I am so very pleased to see that your son's brain will keep moving forward to help other people who become afflicted with this cancer.



THANK YOU

barbtries

(28,810 posts)
16. i'm so sorry.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:01 PM
Mar 2020

If you want to talk, DM me with your number. My daughter died in 2001; sometimes during this wretched time of grief it can be helpful to talk with people who have also experienced the loss of a child. it can be so lonely. crying for you and wishing you strength and peace down the road,


Bettie

(16,120 posts)
24. I'm so sorry
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:16 PM
Mar 2020

I hope you and your family can find some peace in the coming days, be gentle with yourself.

RT Atlanta

(2,517 posts)
26. damn, I am so sorry for your loss
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:17 PM
Mar 2020

thank you and your family for making the donation to the institute as this will certainly help others.

hugs!

matt819

(10,749 posts)
30. So sorry.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:19 PM
Mar 2020

No parent should survive their children. It's every parent's fear. My mother had to bury her oldest son, my brother, who died six years ago of brain cancer (though I don't know they type), which had dogged him for more than 20 years.

So sorry for your loss.

Mr.Bill

(24,317 posts)
31. My sincere condolences.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:19 PM
Mar 2020

My wife's sister died from this a few years ago. She was 56 and the youngest of five siblings.

yonder

(9,669 posts)
37. I'm sorry for your loss as a parent myself. I can't imagine what
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:25 PM
Mar 2020

you're going through and offer my condolences.

FailureToCommunicate

(14,020 posts)
39. Hard to imagine anything harder than a mother to lose her child. I am so sorry you
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:27 PM
Mar 2020

have to go thru this.

May you find the strength to go on someday, sometime.

My younger brother passed away from cancer.

Cancer sucks.

TygrBright

(20,763 posts)
43. Holding you and your family in the Light.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:31 PM
Mar 2020

The pain of losing a child is beyond words.

It's not even "understandable." But it is so real and so overwhelming.

sadly,
Bright

SergeStorms

(19,204 posts)
46. My deepest condolences, Chaz.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:32 PM
Mar 2020

I can't imagine the pain of losing a son or daughter. Stay strong, my friend, and stay connected to your DU family. We're always here for you.

ohtransplant

(1,488 posts)
49. My deepest condolences.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:36 PM
Mar 2020

God bless him, you and your loved ones. Words are insufficient.

I'm at Brain Tumor survivor myself. If there's any way I can help, feel free to pm me.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
55. Hugs to you and your family
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:41 PM
Mar 2020

I lost my son a few years ago so I know what you’re going through. It’s good that you donated his brain to study this disease. Many lives will be saved because of it.

In time your memories of him will be the mostly joyful ones.

bucolic_frolic

(43,257 posts)
58. SO sorry to hear
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:43 PM
Mar 2020

and brave of you to post. Try to recall the good times, and thanks for helping research.

handmade34

(22,757 posts)
59. so very sorry
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:43 PM
Mar 2020
thank you for donating his brain

we lost a son last year and another was in an accident with a TBI...

I always think of Joe Biden's words when talking to families that have lost a child... "...when thinking of your loved one...there will come a day when a smile comes to your lips before a tear to your eye"

I still cry a bit when that smile comes


tavernier

(12,396 posts)
63. I am so touched you chose to share this with us.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:45 PM
Mar 2020

I hope that you can feel and accept our wishes of love and healing and light for you in this your darkest time.

Drifter

(4,751 posts)
66. So sorry to hear this
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:46 PM
Mar 2020

I lost my daughter in an accident last November.
There is nothing I can say that will ease your pain.
I can only urge you to surround yourself with loving friends and family, and most importantly take care of yourself and your family.

My Deepest Sympathy
Drifter

riverbendviewgal

(4,253 posts)
67. My heart weeps for your loss of your son.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:46 PM
Mar 2020

I can feel your pain because my son died when he was 26. He had glioblastoma multiform, the same as your son, Ted Kennedy, beau Biden and Gord Downie of the Tragically hip. Downie had the same doctor of my son.

In time the deepest hurt will subside but it hurts intensely like now for me being aware of your son's passing. I hope he passed peacefully.

ms liberty

(8,592 posts)
197. And Neil Peart, the drummer and lyricist for Rush
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 08:25 PM
Mar 2020

Died January 7th, 2020 of the same thing, a glioblastoma. None of us as fans knew until after bc he was a really private person, but he may have been diagnosed before Gord died I think, and the bands were acquainted from what I've read. Rush made a public donation to the cause around that time, before Gord passed.
I am so sorry for your loss. My MIL lost her daughter and I know it changes a mother forever to live thru such a tragedy.

brer cat

(24,592 posts)
68. I am so sorry for your loss.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:46 PM
Mar 2020

My nephew died from the same cancer. I hope your son is at peace and free from suffering.

Mersky

(4,986 posts)
70. Have had your message up in a tab for a while
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:50 PM
Mar 2020

Just thinking of what to say, and it’s hard cuz it’s one of those turns in life that isn’t fair. I’m mournful with you. Am sorry for your loss and what you must be going through right now. Is also a reminder to be kind to those we encounter, as you never know what folks are dealing with at any given time. Made a small donation to the institute you mentioned, as I am thankful for those striving to find a cure, which includes your family.

colorado_ufo

(5,737 posts)
71. Words cannot express my sorrow for you.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:50 PM
Mar 2020

My son is fighting Stage IV cancer, a different and very rare kind. On a clinical trial now.

LisaM

(27,827 posts)
76. I'm sorry, and thank you for your courage in donating his brain.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:51 PM
Mar 2020

What a terrible thing to happen to you. Again, I'm very sorry.

TwistedTinkerbelle

(137 posts)
79. I am so very sorry for byour loss.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 01:57 PM
Mar 2020

As one who has known the pain of losing two children my heart and prayers are with you and yours. May you find comfort and healing from the words on this thread and the days to come.

DownriverDem

(6,231 posts)
84. So very sorry
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:00 PM
Mar 2020

My brother passed from cancer of the brain. His was related to lung cancer that they blamed on Agent Orange exposure in Viet Nam.

Trueblue Texan

(2,440 posts)
88. so sorry to hear this:(
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:06 PM
Mar 2020

My thoughts are with you and hoping you are surrounded by love, healing, and comfort from the pain of your loss.

Moostache

(9,897 posts)
90. My condolences on your loss.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:10 PM
Mar 2020

Thank you to your family for donating his brain for research.
In a small way, his loss will benefit the future and that is a priceless gift...

Tanuki

(14,920 posts)
95. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved son and the difficult siege
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:25 PM
Mar 2020

you, he, and all your loved ones have been through. I am certain you did everything possible to support him and that he knew how thoroughly he was loved. He will always be a part of you. Your donation to Barrow will help light the way for future treatment. Blessed be his memory forever.

JPPaverage

(510 posts)
98. Very sorry for your loss
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:25 PM
Mar 2020

Losing a loved one is never easy. May your so rest in peace and let's hope that some good will come out of this. And I sincerely hope you will persevere as well.

Scarsdale

(9,426 posts)
99. So very sorry for your loss.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:26 PM
Mar 2020

I lost my younger son in 2010. The hurt never leaves. We never expect to lose one of our children before us. As Sylvester Stallone said when he lost his son "I have joined a club that nobody wants to join" Please accept my deepest sympathy over your loss. We just have to go on, one day at a time.

angstlessk

(11,862 posts)
103. So sorry you son passed
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:30 PM
Mar 2020

Parents don't even contemplate this, when it does, it's devastating, so very sorry for you have this grief.

Dem2theMax

(9,653 posts)
107. Chazll, I'm profoundly sorry for your loss.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:34 PM
Mar 2020

I know that nothing can take away the pain and grief you are feeling. Please surround yourself with people who love you. And please take care of yourself.

When I lost my parents, I finally learned that I had to be kind to my soul.

So you be kind to your soul. I wish I could give you a real hug.

SayItLoud

(1,702 posts)
111. Peace and calm on you and your son.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:38 PM
Mar 2020

Today I will take some of you both with me in my thoughts and life.

thucythucy

(8,086 posts)
123. I am so sorry to read this.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:50 PM
Mar 2020

My lifelong partner died last year of the same awful disease.

You have my heartfelt sympathy.

ChazII

(6,205 posts)
137. Pardon my curiosity
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 03:04 PM
Mar 2020

but where in the brain was the tumor. We have a friend who also has the tumor in the thalamus and met someone whose tumor is in their frontal lobe.

I am sorry for your loss as well.

thucythucy

(8,086 posts)
143. It was in both hemispheres
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 03:09 PM
Mar 2020

of her frontal lobes, a so-called "butterfly tumor."

Its location affected memory and impulse control. Radiation and chemo kept it stable for almost four years, but then stopped working.

She died at home, for which I'm grateful. We had excellent medical care, and then an excellent hospice team.

The grief is still overwhelming at times. But I'm also grateful for having had her in my life.

ChazII

(6,205 posts)
173. Jay's tumor was in his thalamus as previous stated
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 04:58 PM
Mar 2020

but grew to brainstem. He was at home as well. Being in the thalamus his speech, breathing, eating, etc... were effected. His uncle and I took care of him for the past year. He also had excellent palliative and hospice team. Like your partner, Jay did here at home with me holding his hand as he took his last breaths.

I helped get him into the body bag and his uncle helped take the body from the hospital bed to the gurney.

Bayard

(22,128 posts)
124. Parents should never have to bury their own babies....
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:50 PM
Mar 2020

I am so sorry. I hope, after awhile, you can celebrate his life.

Dukkha

(7,341 posts)
130. I'm so sorry
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 02:57 PM
Mar 2020

I just lost my mother to the same glioblastoma brain tumor two weeks ago. It is a very difficult time your going through. Avail yourself to the support here it will help. I can't offer you words to beguile you from the grief of a loss so overwhelming it will still linger but I hope it helps to know others empathize with your situation.

PJMcK

(22,045 posts)
132. Such a sad loss!
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 03:01 PM
Mar 2020

My heart goes out to you, ChazII. My son is 24 and healthy and I've often lived in fear of the terrible things that could befall him.

You must be heartbroken! I hope you and your family will find peace.

ChazII

(6,205 posts)
133. Thank you, DU family
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 03:01 PM
Mar 2020

for your kinds words of encouragement and support.

I am also a member of Eastern Star which is part of the Masonic family. Instead of flowers I have requested that donations be made to the Shriners Transportation fund. This fund helps pay expenses for the families that travel out of state for their child's care.

Captain Zero

(6,823 posts)
140. So sorry for your loss
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 03:07 PM
Mar 2020

I will hope that time and your reflections can bring the comfort you will seek.

Mazeltov Cocktail

(569 posts)
144. I am so sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 03:12 PM
Mar 2020

Thank you for your courage in allowing organ donation for research. It says so much about you, that you think of others during this time.

radical noodle

(8,012 posts)
151. May time begin to heal your broken heart
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 03:27 PM
Mar 2020

by filling the emptiness there with happy memories of him.

Hugs of comfort.

tazkcmo

(7,300 posts)
158. So sorry for your loss.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 03:39 PM
Mar 2020

The passing of our children hurts the most and longest, imo. Hang in there and sending you all the positive energy I have.

JohnnyLib2

(11,212 posts)
166. I'm so sorry to hear this.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 04:15 PM
Mar 2020


May you find comfort in memories of better times, and in the contribution to potential cures.

BigmanPigman

(51,623 posts)
170. My frien's sister had a brain tumor
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 04:31 PM
Mar 2020

and they were grateful her pain finally stopped. They focused on that to bet through it. Very sad. Take care of yourself.

DFW

(54,436 posts)
171. Losing a child has to be one of the worst things that can happen to anyone. I have no words.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 04:38 PM
Mar 2020

I lost a cousin, an aunt, and a brother-in-law to glioblastoma. It has no mercy.

ChazII

(6,205 posts)
207. True. When we were told 15 months to live
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 10:13 PM
Mar 2020

we were shocked. He did not make it to the one year diagnosis.

sellitman

(11,607 posts)
184. I'm so sorry
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 06:21 PM
Mar 2020

My oldest had two brain tumor operations. The original removed a tumor the size of a small tangerine.

Both were benign. Both were encapsulated. You could say we were lucky. In hindsight we were.

I know somewhat of what you have been through. I cannot imagine your outcome.

My deepest regards to you and your family and friends.

Kevin

Uben

(7,719 posts)
187. My condolences...
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 06:41 PM
Mar 2020

….that's tough one. I lost a niece this week to a traffic accident. Semi ran into her from behind...instant death.

calimary

(81,437 posts)
189. Oh, man, ChazII ... I'm so sorry to hear this.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 07:11 PM
Mar 2020

I’m so sorry to hear this. You’ve made sure to allow him to make a contribution of the most selfless kind, that will help others in a future he’ll never see. That is love of the purest and most generous kind.

Dustlawyer

(10,497 posts)
190. I lost a son in 1993. The hurt never go away, but it does
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 07:14 PM
Mar 2020

get better over time.

There will come a time when thinking of him will bring a smile instead of a tear. Hang in there to smile again!

locks

(2,012 posts)
191. I lost my 25 year old son
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 07:21 PM
Mar 2020

35 years ago. He would be 60 this year. I will never forget the joy he brought to our family and though I wish I was playing with great grandkids he never had I am so thankful for the time we had with him.
May you find comfort in your memories.

iamateacher

(1,089 posts)
195. I am so sorry
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 07:53 PM
Mar 2020

My wonderful friend died from brain cancer and also my mentor in my internship has it--and is 3 months over what they told her to expect. My sincere condolences.

ms liberty

(8,592 posts)
198. And Neil Peart, the drummer and lyricist for Rush, who died Jan 7, 2020
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 08:31 PM
Mar 2020

I am so sorry for your loss. May you find peace and healing.

samnsara

(17,634 posts)
201. (((hugs)))
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 09:18 PM
Mar 2020

..please let us know how you are doing. My husbands father and brother passed of the same thing.



Damn Cancer.

AZ8theist

(5,487 posts)
205. My sympathies as well. ON THE PLUS SIDE..
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 09:35 PM
Mar 2020

Your selfless donation to the Barrow Institute in Phoenix is a wonderful way to commemorate your son. They are amazing people doing amazing work. If your son can help in any way towards advancing research, I applaud you for doing this.

I had brain surgery at Barrow in 2014 and the treatment, the people, the care and compassion was incredible. I, fortunately, was cured of my condition. Unfortunately, your son was unable to recover. Please be assured, however, that your incredible donation will advance the science and hopefully reduce another families distress in a time of need.

You are a saint for doing what you did. Again, my sincerest sympathies for your loss.

ChazII

(6,205 posts)
208. It is good to hear that Barrow was
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 10:19 PM
Mar 2020

able to help you. They truly are a wonderful place. We learned that the group called Research for Life will use Jay's entire body. Barrow will use his brain. Research for life will study my son's neurofibromatosis and because he also has kyphosis/scoliosis orthopedic studies will be done.

The only draw back for me because I love to learn is that I will not get any information on the studies his body is helping. I am hoping that Dr. Sanai, his neurosurgeon, will recognize Jay's brain. Dr. Sanai is doing research and Jay's body will be part of that research project.

AZ8theist

(5,487 posts)
217. They cured me.
Wed Mar 11, 2020, 12:18 AM
Mar 2020

I suffered for at least 6 years with trigeminal neuralgia. The attacks would cause excruciating pain. Facial pain that is indescribable. Pain that would knock a 250lb man to his knees. Medication wasn't working anymore. I eventually elected to have MVD surgery at Barrow. It changed my life. It was a cure.
While I grieve with you (I have a 23 yr old son and can't imagine what you're going through) I am teary eyed with pride due to your sacrifice and donation. Please be comforted in knowing that your son will help others. While you may not ever know what contribution your son made to the advancement of science and medicine, rest assured HE WILL CONTRIBUTE.

Best wishes,
Your friend, AZ8theist

Sea Turtle

(69 posts)
209. (((Hugs))) bless you for donating
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 10:20 PM
Mar 2020

His brain so that doctors can learn how to help others. More (((hugs))) I am so sorry for your loss.

Dan

(3,579 posts)
213. I am so sorry for your loss
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 11:34 PM
Mar 2020

As I get older, I better understand the pain that comes with losing someone. I am so sorry for you and your family, while the pain will never go away - at least you will have the memories of times shared.

pazzyanne

(6,556 posts)
215. Sincere condolences to you and your family, ChazII.
Tue Mar 10, 2020, 11:53 PM
Mar 2020

What a wonderful gift to help solve this horrible cancer. Thank you!

Hugs and prayers for you all!

peggysue2

(10,839 posts)
216. So sorry to hear this
Wed Mar 11, 2020, 12:09 AM
Mar 2020

My husband and I had a good friend who died with glioblastoma last January. Hard loss. But for a son? Devastating. We nearly lost our youngest son, so I can only imagine the depth of your loss. Btw, I think your donation to the Brain Tumor Center is extraordinarily generous and brave.

The best to you and your family.

maryallen

(2,172 posts)
223. Terribly sorry.
Wed Mar 11, 2020, 02:18 AM
Mar 2020

My daughter was killed in an automobile accident when she was 17. You never get over it, but as time passes, the pain does not dominate every waking moment of your life. If you have other children, you realize that they need you, so you gradually heal and slowly learn how to carry on.



ChazII

(6,205 posts)
237. I am an only child and Jay was also an only child.
Wed Mar 11, 2020, 11:21 AM
Mar 2020

Your words bring comfort and wisdom. Jay's Godmother still has her parents who are in the early 90's, her brothers who are in their early 60's and her one son who is four years younger than Jay. Losing Jay is her first major loss. Your words will help me remember that she needs me as much as I need her.

wackadoo wabbit

(1,167 posts)
224. I am so, so sorry to hear this
Wed Mar 11, 2020, 02:23 AM
Mar 2020

I was hoping, for your sake and his, that maybe there'd be a miracle.

I'm sending you a virtual hug (I wish it were real). Please know that I'm thinking of you and your son.


denvine

(802 posts)
239. I am so sorry for your loss.
Wed Mar 11, 2020, 12:00 PM
Mar 2020

May he R.I.P. and I hope time will slowly heal your broken heart. With deepest sympathy!

BobTheSubgenius

(11,564 posts)
241. Words fall so short of being comforting, or even useful.
Wed Mar 11, 2020, 01:03 PM
Mar 2020

As it's all I have, though, I want to tell you I'm on the verge of tears. I wish I had more.

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