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Swede

(36,432 posts)
Sat May 31, 2025, 04:48 PM May 31

I believe I had some kind of flashback today.

Many years ago, I was visiting friends and their little boy was killed when he ran onto the street. Worst day of my life. I have difficulty speaking of it to this day.

This morning in a mall parking lot, I heard a woman screaming. This wasn't kids fooling around, and I walked toward the screaming. A woman was screaming. I had heard those god awful screams only once before. I asked her what happened. "My son was murdered. My baby, my baby." She collapsed onto the pavement. A lady (who turns out is her grama) got out of a vehicle and told me she just told her granddaughter that her son had been killed. Soon 3 ladies passing by stopped and we tried console her, she was in agony. The grama decided to take her granddaughter to a hospital.
I went back to my car, shaking and the memory of that day rolling through my mind. Another god awful day.

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I believe I had some kind of flashback today. (Original Post) Swede May 31 OP
I'm... JoeOtterbein May 31 #1
You are in my thoughts ZDU May 31 #2
Flashbacks are entirely normal, my dear Swede. I'm so sorry about today and days past. CaliforniaPeggy May 31 #3
This is very painful but entirely normal. Irish_Dem May 31 #4
I'm so sorry that happened to you. yardwork May 31 #5
Healing vibes on the way to you, Swede SheltieLover May 31 #6
Calming comfort to you Swede Clouds Passing May 31 #7
Thank you DUers for the shoulder to cry on. Swede Jun 1 #8

CaliforniaPeggy

(154,172 posts)
3. Flashbacks are entirely normal, my dear Swede. I'm so sorry about today and days past.
Sat May 31, 2025, 05:05 PM
May 31

I hold you tightly in my arms.

Please be good to yourself.

Irish_Dem

(70,755 posts)
4. This is very painful but entirely normal.
Sat May 31, 2025, 05:19 PM
May 31

It is the body and mind's reaction to a past trauma.
Which was activated by the similarity to today's events.
You will feel like you are re-living the original trauma.

Some things that might help:
Self soothing, self care, grounding exercise.

Physical activity.
Music, food, touching objects to feel grounded, deep breathing, reaching out to friends.
Warm bath, warm blanket, music, favorite movie, etc.

It will pass.

Swede

(36,432 posts)
8. Thank you DUers for the shoulder to cry on.
Sun Jun 1, 2025, 08:03 AM
Jun 1

It was very helpful, and I have processed the days events. I'm feeling normal after a long nights sleep.

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