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MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 01:05 PM Nov 2016

Here's a scene from multiple Republican living rooms everywhere:

Husband: You ARE voting for Trump, right?
Wife: Oh, of course, dear...(fingers crossed behind back)
Husband: I'm serious. Trump has to win. He'll make America Great Again!
Wife: He sure will, dear...(rolls eyes after turning away)
Husband: Well, that's good. No wife of mine would ever vote for Clinton.
Wife: Yes, I'm sure that's true, dear...(repeats divorce lawyer's number silently to self)
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Here's a scene from multiple Republican living rooms everywhere: (Original Post) MineralMan Nov 2016 OP
Makes me glad to be lez. OhZone Nov 2016 #1
me too irisblue Nov 2016 #18
not to worry rtracey Nov 2016 #26
There are advantages to being single. LiberalFighter Nov 2016 #51
I just miss my Gabby. :( nt OhZone Nov 2016 #52
Draw the cartoon now. Coyotl Nov 2016 #2
I wish I could. I'm terrible at drawing, though. MineralMan Nov 2016 #6
There is a house in my neighborhood with both Hillary and Donald yard signs. progressoid Nov 2016 #3
LOL Lucinda Nov 2016 #4
It was stressful enough with me being a Bernie guy and my wife for Hillary. progressoid Nov 2016 #32
How are you guys getting along now? pnwmom Nov 2016 #48
It's all good. We even go canvasing together for Hillary and local Dems. progressoid Nov 2016 #53
At least it's out in the open. MineralMan Nov 2016 #7
A couple times while canvassing, I've wondered if the women I've contacted were holding back. progressoid Nov 2016 #33
Ha I saw one in Ohio with both as well! flygal Nov 2016 #23
My ex sister n law just married a republican marlakay Nov 2016 #44
I know an older women down the street-fits your OP--cept she riversedge Nov 2016 #5
bwahahahaha DemonGoddess Nov 2016 #8
This will result in divorces, no doubt, where divisions Hortensis Nov 2016 #9
Wondering if there might be a spike in domestic abuse, like when a sports team loses, FailureToCommunicate Nov 2016 #11
I don't know. I suspect that many Republican women will MineralMan Nov 2016 #12
Does anyone vote the way their spouse wants them to anymore? alarimer Nov 2016 #13
Actually, I suspect that strong pressure to vote a certain MineralMan Nov 2016 #14
apropos to "fundamentalists who still believe women have no brains".. an ogden nash poem annabanana Nov 2016 #16
My wife comes from one of the reddest areas of FL GatorDem82 Nov 2016 #30
Well some people are influenced by their spouse. Especially if they are the stronger TrekLuver Nov 2016 #71
Sounds like a family spat yellerpup Nov 2016 #15
We guys are counting on you, women! world wide wally Nov 2016 #17
Volunteer at a Food Pantry and usually politics don't come up. Fla Dem Nov 2016 #19
Not in my living room DFW Nov 2016 #21
+1 Buzz Clik Nov 2016 #22
Did I? Hmm... MineralMan Nov 2016 #24
The last line PJMcK Nov 2016 #27
LOL! MineralMan Nov 2016 #29
News Alert: Donald Trump opens quick divorces aid across the US. Donald says, RKP5637 Nov 2016 #31
This is the REAL hidden vote scheming daemons Nov 2016 #34
Yes it is, I believe. MineralMan Nov 2016 #35
There may be some offset in Democratic living rooms Jim Lane Nov 2016 #36
that's funny! I though know only 2 couples closely where one is hardcore for Trump - BOTH are female Divine Discontent Nov 2016 #37
I bet this is exactly what's happening paulkienitz Nov 2016 #38
In this household my wife has decided to vote for Trump GusBob Nov 2016 #39
I can't respect her... cactusfractal Nov 2016 #62
Thank you for your kind words GusBob Nov 2016 #65
This convo would NEVER occur in my house! We MsMAC Nov 2016 #40
I predict a hugh number of divorces randr Nov 2016 #41
k & r. nt NC Civilian Nov 2016 #42
Makes me glad my wife is a foreign national and can't vote. But she hates Trump as much as I do. Feeling the Bern Nov 2016 #45
That's why vote selfies should be illegal lindysalsagal Nov 2016 #47
I wonder if this election would increase divorces IronLionZion Nov 2016 #49
I can say that ... relayerbob Nov 2016 #54
Yesterday I spoke with a right wing woman who's right wing husband isn't going to vote. Nitram Nov 2016 #56
Why repub women are voting for Trump DownriverDem Nov 2016 #57
SOME Republican women. MineralMan Nov 2016 #58
IF THAT HAPPENED IN MY LIVING ROOM... cactusfractal Nov 2016 #59
So maybe this explains 28% of Registered Republicans voting for Hillary in Florida...? electron_blue Nov 2016 #60
Yup. I think so. MineralMan Nov 2016 #64
So glad my hubby and I are on exactly the same page, supporting Hillary! MoonRiver Nov 2016 #61
It was a test in our household Lifelong Protester Nov 2016 #66
My husband is a Trump supporter... HeartlandDem Nov 2016 #67
Someone alerted on this ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2016 #68
Thanks for the heads up. MineralMan Nov 2016 #69
Alerted about what? TrekLuver Nov 2016 #72
Too many recs. And because MineralMan. MineralMan Nov 2016 #75
Hey to the idiots who keep alerting on this Coolest Ranger Nov 2016 #73
Thanks. MineralMan Nov 2016 #74
I know but no one and I mean NO ONE Coolest Ranger Nov 2016 #77
Agreed. If this thread got an alert I guess I better be on my very best behavior. TrekLuver Nov 2016 #78
I have a happy marriage C_U_L8R Nov 2016 #76
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LiberalFighter

(50,942 posts)
51. There are advantages to being single.
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 09:17 PM
Nov 2016

But there are also advantages to being married or at least in cohabitation.

progressoid

(49,991 posts)
3. There is a house in my neighborhood with both Hillary and Donald yard signs.
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 01:19 PM
Nov 2016

That has to be an interesting household.

progressoid

(49,991 posts)
32. It was stressful enough with me being a Bernie guy and my wife for Hillary.
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 03:19 PM
Nov 2016

NO WAY I could deal with a Trump spouse!

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
7. At least it's out in the open.
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 01:34 PM
Nov 2016

I suspect there are many families like the one in my OP, though, where the difference is not openly recognized.

progressoid

(49,991 posts)
33. A couple times while canvassing, I've wondered if the women I've contacted were holding back.
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 03:24 PM
Nov 2016

I got this feeling that they didn't want to say out loud that they would support Hillary. No way to prove it. Just a feeling.

marlakay

(11,470 posts)
44. My ex sister n law just married a republican
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 06:39 PM
Nov 2016

She said they crossed each other out on everything. Only reason its not a issue is newlyweds in love lots of sex...ha ha

She lives at more conservative area but works at college with liberals. Should have met a husband there.

riversedge

(70,239 posts)
5. I know an older women down the street-fits your OP--cept she
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 01:31 PM
Nov 2016

would not do the divorce thing but she indicated--privately--that she would vote for Hillary

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
9. This will result in divorces, no doubt, where divisions
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 01:47 PM
Nov 2016

that were being papered over finally rip open for the last time.

Fortunately, most people do not make the mistake of marrying people of a very different personality orientation, though. I.e., liberals marry liberals, conservatives marry conservatives, even if they're so young they can't describe a difference and even if they never care about politics.

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
12. I don't know. I suspect that many Republican women will
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 01:59 PM
Nov 2016

just vote for Hillary and say nothing about it. That's sort of what the surveys of early voters is showing, I think.

alarimer

(16,245 posts)
13. Does anyone vote the way their spouse wants them to anymore?
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 02:00 PM
Nov 2016

I hadn't realize that's still a (backwards) thing.

Well, I suppose fundamentalists who still believe women have no brains might do this, but even semi-enlightened folks elsewhere don't put up with this crap.

No way I would anyway. My partner and I don't disagree on much but we agree to disagree (like on whether Peter Thiel's destruction of Gawker was a good thing. He thinks it was, because Gawker was no better than any other tabloid, while I think it sets a dangerous precedent. At the time, I'm not sure either of us knew just how big an asshole Peter Thiel really is.)

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
14. Actually, I suspect that strong pressure to vote a certain
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 02:03 PM
Nov 2016

way exists in a lot of households. As I look at the faces of Trump supporters at his rallies, I see a lot of men who are probably authoritarians in their relationships. Not everyone lives in relationships that are well-balanced and independent.

annabanana

(52,791 posts)
16. apropos to "fundamentalists who still believe women have no brains".. an ogden nash poem
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 02:07 PM
Nov 2016
"The easy way", in one man's book,
is to be a bit smarter than you look

I've found the easiest way by far
is to look a bit stupider than you are.


The man in one of those households probably has no clue that his wife has an inner dialogue of her own, and it may not jibe with his preferences!

GatorDem82

(36 posts)
30. My wife comes from one of the reddest areas of FL
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 03:15 PM
Nov 2016

and from a family full of RW nutters and I would never tell her how to vote. I think it's fine for couples to support different parties though I think that really only works out well if the GOP supporter was your traditional Repug and not one of todays crazy Teapub or deranged DT supporter types. Thankfully she's the oddball of the family (really she's the normal one ) and cannot stand the stuff the Right espouses. She gets mad at me for even having MSNBC on she hates DT so much.

 

TrekLuver

(2,573 posts)
71. Well some people are influenced by their spouse. Especially if they are the stronger
Fri Nov 4, 2016, 12:24 PM
Nov 2016

personality etc. This describes my sister. She used to be quite liberal but over the years of hearing her husband she has gradually moved to his views. I tell her that she sounds just like her husband...who doesn't even vote LOL. She was all on board the Trump train but has gotten off a few stops. She hates Hillary but now also thinks Trump is a skank. My last argument to her (we haven't talked about politics in weeks because we end up fighting) was listen...I know you are Republican but you do agree that we shouldn't repeal rights for women regarding abortions. So for that reason alone you should vote the Democratic ticket. If you can't bring yourself to do that then leave the top of the ticket blank or write someone in.

I figure I've won if I can at least get her to NOT VOTE for Trashbag.

Fla Dem

(23,677 posts)
19. Volunteer at a Food Pantry and usually politics don't come up.
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 02:39 PM
Nov 2016

Really not sure how it started, but I mentioned something good about Hillary. A very delightful woman said oh no, I don't think so or something to that effect, meaning she disapproved of her. I asked her why not, and she said, "My husband said......"

I know this is very vague, it was a very short conversation and I don't remember the specifics. I just remember mentally shaking my head and thinking, "in how many households is this exact same scenario being played out."

DFW

(54,397 posts)
21. Not in my living room
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 02:55 PM
Nov 2016

But my living room is half Democratic and half SPD. Not a Republican to be found.

PJMcK

(22,037 posts)
27. The last line
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 03:11 PM
Nov 2016
Husband: Hey, could ya bring me a beer and fetch my slippers?

(Sorry for adding to your scene, MineralMan!)

RKP5637

(67,109 posts)
31. News Alert: Donald Trump opens quick divorces aid across the US. Donald says,
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 03:16 PM
Nov 2016

"you know, that's a great business channel for me! I am the greatest, I have experience!"

 

Jim Lane

(11,175 posts)
36. There may be some offset in Democratic living rooms
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 03:35 PM
Nov 2016

I suspect there are some men, mainly older ones, who are lifelong Democrats, whose social circle is all Democrats, where it's just assumed everyone is voting for Clinton... but silently the man is feeling uncomfortable with a woman trying to stand up to Putin. At least a few such men will vote Trump or leave the line blank. Nevertheless, knowing that their outright sexism is no longer tolerated, they'll lie about their vote to friends and family.

I suspect and hope that your scenario is more common.

Divine Discontent

(21,056 posts)
37. that's funny! I though know only 2 couples closely where one is hardcore for Trump - BOTH are female
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 03:39 PM
Nov 2016

one of the husbands is progressive, and the other is right center, and used to vote Dem but sides with his wife now.

paulkienitz

(1,296 posts)
38. I bet this is exactly what's happening
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 03:50 PM
Nov 2016

I think this is how we can reconcile the fairly dismal poll numbers with the apparently heavy democratic advantage in early voting: the difference is coming from republican wives.

GusBob

(7,286 posts)
39. In this household my wife has decided to vote for Trump
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 03:53 PM
Nov 2016

I respect her decision as she is a strong willed and independent woman.

Highly educated so I am sure she has her reasons.

Although I think the health insurance premiums increase that just crushed her business had something to do with it.

Based on their Facebook posts, a lot of her female friends and family are or have voted for Trump as well.

cactusfractal

(496 posts)
62. I can't respect her...
Fri Nov 4, 2016, 10:16 AM
Nov 2016

And really, anyone who believes that festering orange heap of toupeed blustering insecurity belongs in the White House deserves whatever bad things happen to them.

Obviously "highly educated" in this case doesn't appear to have imparted a speck of discernment.

Best to you.

Worst to her.

I hope she and the scum with whom she shares XX chromosomes (and delusions) don't live in a swing state.

MsMAC

(91 posts)
40. This convo would NEVER occur in my house! We
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 05:13 PM
Nov 2016

are both for Clinton and even if he were a tRUMP supporter, I wouldn't mind saying, 'Oh hell no!" should he ask if I'm one!

IronLionZion

(45,447 posts)
49. I wonder if this election would increase divorces
Thu Nov 3, 2016, 09:12 PM
Nov 2016

there may be data available on this soon.

It certainly causes violence all over the place.

electron_blue

(3,592 posts)
60. So maybe this explains 28% of Registered Republicans voting for Hillary in Florida...?
Fri Nov 4, 2016, 09:55 AM
Nov 2016

That's what I'm thinking.

Lifelong Protester

(8,421 posts)
66. It was a test in our household
Fri Nov 4, 2016, 11:58 AM
Nov 2016

before we got married, my spouse said: "you had better sit down. I voted for Michael Dukakis". Then we could get married!

His family referred to Eleanor Roosevelt as "that woman" - not by name at all.

HeartlandDem

(80 posts)
67. My husband is a Trump supporter...
Fri Nov 4, 2016, 12:02 PM
Nov 2016

and yes, it gets pretty crazy around here after a few glasses of wine, never boring though. Divorce? almost after I voted twice for Bill Clinton! "W" almost did me in too, but we're still together! Husband knew I was a feminist when he married me and that there is no way he gets to tell me how to do anything! LOL! We are also Christians so I think that helps us to keep from killing each other

ProudToBeBlueInRhody

(16,399 posts)
68. Someone alerted on this
Fri Nov 4, 2016, 12:09 PM
Nov 2016

For the record, I said the alerter was making a clear attempt at disruption and not good faith.

Coolest Ranger

(2,034 posts)
77. I know but no one and I mean NO ONE
Fri Nov 4, 2016, 12:43 PM
Nov 2016

messes with my Mineral Man. I'll cut a bitch oh who am I kidding, I can't throw a punch

 

TrekLuver

(2,573 posts)
78. Agreed. If this thread got an alert I guess I better be on my very best behavior.
Fri Nov 4, 2016, 12:45 PM
Nov 2016

It doesn't seem to take much to get alerted and "told" on. I always go along with if you don't like the thread just don't click it and certainly don't post to it.

But the subject of this thread, as much as we don't like it.... is a fact.

It also goes the other way too (although not as often) where the women are the one dominating the relationship. Just ask my brother about that, or actually you should ask his wife....LOL.

C_U_L8R

(45,002 posts)
76. I have a happy marriage
Fri Nov 4, 2016, 12:39 PM
Nov 2016

and we are enthusiastically for Hillary !!!

And of all the Republicans I know, only two are sticking with Trump.
The rest are voting, without hesitation, for Hillary too.

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