The War On Women Begins With Girls. It is time for fathers to speak out and combat sexism.

[seabeyond]

Daughters and fathers have been in the news recently. In his response to Rush Limbaugh calling Sandra Fluke a “slut,” President Obama said that he wanted his own daughters to grow up “to be able to speak their mind in a civil and thoughtful way…And I don’t want them attacked or called horrible names because they’re being good citizens.” A week later, John Ramsey expressed regret that he had entered his daughter, JonBenet, in beauty pageants and related events, including a parade just days before she was murdered. The need for fathers to help empower daughters is clear, since we still live in a world where some powerful men throw sexual slurs at adult women and girls are being sexualized and objectified at a younger and younger age. As dads of a combined 4 daughters (ranging in age from 1 to 21,) these recent events have made us pause and reflect on how to best encourage our daughters to combat these tendencies in our society.

But how do we do this as fathers? One of the most important ways is to break down the old stereotypes that men are rational and logical while women are emotional. We can free our daughters from the burden of that myth by expressing our own feelings and by respecting the intelligence, decisions, and leadership abilities of women. When they see us opening up and talking, they learn to do the same and to not remain silent when something doesn’t feel right. A father’s influence can help a girl find her own strong voice. We also need to listen to our daughters more instead of trying to always impart a lesson. Listening paves the way for girls to discover what they want to say and the inner strength to say it.

The other big thing dads can do is treat women the way we would want a partner to treat our daughters. We wish that it went without saying that daughters need their fathers to reject treating women as objects through sexist jokes, stares and comments on the street, and pornography. The sexualization of girls is perhaps the most disturbing aspect of sexism in our society, and it is time for fathers to speak out about it. Haven’t we evolved beyond the beauty pageant and similar spectacles such as prom queens, debutante balls, and a swath of reality TV that undermine girls’ power? The emphasis on appearance not only robs girls of the sense of being valued for who they are, but also leads to body image distortions and self-criticism. Less obvious is the way that external praise and judgment interferes with a girl’s development of inner confidence.

Finally, as fathers, we can use our relationship with our daughters to instill in them a strong feeling of being loved and cherished for who they are. Who they really are, beyond prettiness, niceness, and cuteness. When someone says, “Your daughter is so pretty,” we can respond by saying, “Yes, and powerful too!” The world is very ready to sexualize our daughters, but as fathers we can teach them that there is a world of physical touch that isn’t sexual or aggressive. We can do this by cuddling and nurturing them as babies, roughhousing with them as children, encouraging their physical strength and athleticism as they grow older, and hugging and putting our arm around their shoulder throughout their lives.

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http://ideas.time.com/2012/03/19/why-fathers-must-speak-out-against-sexis/

[Arkansas Granny]

1. Mothers and fathers both need to have that same talk with their boys, also.

Our society doesn't give our sons a realistic view of relationships between the sexes, and all too often they aren't taught to regard women with respect by their parents, either. If they are to grow up to have healthy relationships with the women in their lives, they need to learn these lessons while they are growing up, too.

[seabeyond]

3. you are so right on. having two sons, i know it is very very important.

further, it is not a tough one, jsut as this article suggest it really is not so hard to find the balanced and healthy for the daughter.

[kooljerk666]

2. If I had a daughter......

dance, team sports, gymnastics out

Kung Fu, Boxing & phillipino stick fighting IN....

any tool who played grab ass would be pounded into dirt.

Here is a great & funny example of big boys being beaten by the "victim", good for her & her parents.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/06/22/woman-beats-up-gropers_n_1619537.html

[seabeyond]

4. ya... i read that not long ago. thanks.

my oldest son was very lite, slim, articulate, intellectual, glasses.... lol, geekish in a way. i tried getting him interested in that. he had none.

i was concerned about the bullying thing and protect self. he figured out how to do it on his own. his ability to speak out, defend the bullied and being well liked was quite a dance.

he found his own sport. cross country. and it works for them.

we may not get what we want, but when they find their passion, they sure do benefit in so many ways.