Photo of Woman in Underwear is an Open Invitation for the Entire Internet to Judge

[redqueen]

http://jezebel.com/5954067/photo-of-woman-in-a-underwear-is-an-open-invitation-for-the-entire-internet-to-judge


Student and blogger Stella Boonshoft experienced an Internet-sized outpouring of love when photographer Brandon Staunton posted a bra-and-panty-clad photo of her on his popular Humans of New York Facebook page. Unfortunately, with the good, comes the ugly, and because she's a woman, there were plenty of comments about her body, and because she is not a thin woman, a lot of them were about her size. That's the thing, if she had a Barbie body (whatever the fuck that means? maybe big breasts, broken back?), the comments would've been about her fake boobs and fuckability, and if she'd been super thin, it woulda been about her lackof boobs and her fuckability; but because she's not skinny, it's about how she's fat and her fuckability. Doesn't matter, ladies, just know that if you are being seen, that you are also on display, and if your image is broadcast into the world at large, just know that you will be commented on and judged by the grossest bunch of idiot cowards who could ever wish to have the social skills to get witchu. It's just all so damn predictable.

Recently, Boonshoft met photographer Staunton in NYC, and recognized him from his hugely-popular Facebook page. She asked to take his photo, and then asked him to take hers for his page. Cool, cool, everything seems legit, it's just two people taking pictures of each other, nothing to see here. Then, they discussed her body-lovin' blog, The Body Love Blog, and Staunton said he was interested in learning more. When Boonshoft got home later that day, she emailed him the link, and went on with her life. So, she was surprised, when the next thing she knew, a photo from her blog showing her in her underwear blog showed up on his Facebook page — with its almost 367,000 likes.

"I expected him to post the CLOTHED picture of me, and link to my blog, so anyone who was interested could check it out," she wrote. "So needless to say I was a little surprised when I saw my half-naked self on Facebook, getting thousands of likes every minute."

Side note: Am I the only one who's a little annoyed at the photographer for snapping one photo and posting a different one? I understand that she talked to him abut her sizeism project, but it still strikes me as kind-of dickish — or at least very inconsiderate — to post a photo of a woman in her undergarments without asking first. That's just courtesy, right? We didn't bone and this isn't for your private enjoyment, so, without my express consent, nope. But maybe I am showing my gentile modesty jkjk I'm blogging in the buff.

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I flippin LOVE the way she handled this. This is the example more moms need to show their daughters.

And side note: Yeah, that guy is a jerk. Typical misogynist crap. The pics are nice, but the constant reminders that he's down with society's obsession with objectification got to be too much for me personally.

[Bonobo]

1. Start a thread about Michael Moore or Christ Christie and you get the same thing. nt

[seabeyond]

3. we discuss moore and christies fuckability? nt

[Bonobo]

4. You must know what I meant. But that was funny anyway. nt

[seabeyond]

6. what? they go after them cause they are overweight? ya, i get that. but, i think the real point

of the thread is about the fuckability.

but, i am glad you got a giggle. that is always fun....

[ismnotwasm]

5. And that has to do with the specific topic of feminism, how, exactly?

[redqueen]

7. Some people somehow seem to honestly believe

that when it comes to judging on appearance, there is no difference in the way men and women are treated.

It's fascinating, really. It's like thinking the media treats liberals and conservatives the same. (Hopefully this doesn't need to be spelled out, but just in case: I am not comparing anyone to conservatives. I am saying that the lack of perception of the different treatment is similar. That is all.)

[seabeyond]

8. "some people" would be men. and since they seem to have a tough time wrapping their brain

around the fuckability issue, a way they could see it is IF a woman ALWAYS looked at their dress and outside indicators to judge IF their wallet is big enough for them to be considered. ALWAYS. every time a woman looked at a man it was all about whether he could give her enough.

that is the only think that i could see would allow SOME men to understand what is being said.

[redqueen]

9. Ah but many women are just as oblivious.

Our new visitor yesterday was convinced that men were similarly judged on their appearance but they struggled and compensated, and overcame it.