Of course all men don’t hate women. But all men must know they benefit from sexism
These days, before we talk about misogyny, women are increasingly being asked to modify our language so we don’t hurt men’s feelings. Don’t say, “Men oppress women” – that’s sexism, as bad as any sexism women ever have to handle, possibly worse. Instead, say, “Some men oppress women.” Whatever you do, don’t generalise. That’s something men do. Not all men – just somemen.
This type of semantic squabbling is a very effective way of getting women to shut up. After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.
What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.
http://www.newstatesman.com/2013/08/laurie-penny/men-sexism
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i tip my hat to you
I thought, "This must be an old thread that popped to the top."
"After all, most of us grew up..." and
"Not the way my sisters were raised in the home I was raised in...
How precisely did you arrive at the conclusion that your own personal anecdotal experience is equivalent to "most"? Additionally, how precisely do you arrive at "universal" from "most"?
If it helps... "universal" and "most" are two different words. 'Most' means in the majority of instances (allowing for personal and anecdotal stories, alleged or not) to remain viable, whilst 'Universal' means pertaining to all or to the whole, and applicable in every instance.
Maybe you can see that conflating the two words is pretty much where your premise falls apart, and looks rather (to borrow from your learned lexicon) "silly" when stated as such.
I made no assertions. I merely asked you questions which remain unanswered... 
luvs ya always. lol,
i do not filter. i scare some. you are one awesome dude.
Exactly so. Allow me to share my wall paper
hear about rapes, molestation and discrimination. The social benefit for men is incalcuable.
still really really busy. i sent a son away.... 
my cleaning has reduced by 80%. 
. am i bad for recognizing and appreciating that?
thanks. and food.
and my youngest has had to step up with interesting conversation to fill older sons shoes. that is a good thing.
It is a good thing that the younger one has a chance to practice his conversational skills in the front seat, so to say.
It's good to see you back.
thank you....
Welcome back!!!!!! 
thank you. 
Still, strange brew if you know what I mean
