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MrsCoffee

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196. I did no such thing.

Mon Feb 25, 2019, 01:22 PM

Feb 2019

But nice try.

Guess what, I've had many women bosses that were the total opposite, kind and caring and smart and organized, but I didn't come in here and say that all women would make great bosses like you claim no women are going to be your allies. That is full fledged vilification.

If you can't see the difference or find a way to look at the bigger picture, that is on you, not all women.

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67 year old woman here..long and varied work history...Most of my female bosses were horrid. [View all] jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 OP

Women bosses can be really shitty to other women, men bosses can be shitty to women and men, elleng Feb 2019 #1

That statement got me thinking... BigmanPigman Feb 2019 #2

My women bosses were absent and my worst male boss was afraid mahina Feb 2019 #4

In men dominated businesses, women have to prove themselves and do much more to be viewed on par. TheBlackAdder Feb 2019 #21

HUMANS (male & female) CAN BE "REAL SHITTY" TO WILDLIFE! WARNING GRAPHIC IMAGE: Jeffersons Ghost Feb 2019 #30

Why did you post this here? procon Feb 2019 #47

This message was self-deleted by its author tenderfoot Feb 2019 #84

Thanks 'so much' for your non-responsive reply. elleng Feb 2019 #138

Please remove this image. It has absolutely nothing to do with this thread. n/r Ms. Toad Feb 2019 #154

I've alerted on it Frank Leemydear Feb 2019 #226

Chinese satellites preventing concentration on topic at hand? LanternWaste Feb 2019 #199

That's nice obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #3

Lucky duck. mahina Feb 2019 #5

That's good. Croney Feb 2019 #65

My teenaged daughter and I just watched that janterry Feb 2019 #115

Thanks Pixar. Pretty good ! mahina Feb 2019 #129

Right. Laffy Kat Feb 2019 #6

I wasn't raised to judge bosses...my mom or Nanas never worked... jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #11

whatever obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #43

????? elias7 Feb 2019 #46

Any one makes claims that the OP did is dealing in women bashing in my opinon...what is there to Demsrule86 Feb 2019 #51

I agree. What could possibly be the aim here, other than to say that women don't make Squinch Feb 2019 #53

It sure is...your sex does not determine you ability to be a boss or president for that matter. Demsrule86 Feb 2019 #54

No one is saying that gender determines ability to lead elias7 Feb 2019 #185

Change the word "woman" to "Black or Latina" and think about it. Demsrule86 Feb 2019 #186

The OP is perpetuating sexist bullshit, based on anecdotal experience. This is the same kind of still_one Feb 2019 #156

I know, right? To be so dismissive of a woman's opinion and... Beartracks Feb 2019 #122

Spot on. Tipperary Feb 2019 #24

So the OP is incapable of identifying difficult people on her own? Beartracks Feb 2019 #121

I worked for close to 50 years, a mix of men and women, and I couldn't characterize... George II Feb 2019 #161

What is the point of the OP and the conversation in the first place? Eliot Rosewater Feb 2019 #201

Well spotted, Eliot Hekate Feb 2019 #218

This nt lillypaddle Feb 2019 #215

Some of my best bosses were women, some of the worst Drahthaardogs Feb 2019 #7

I've had two female bosses my entire life. Glamrock Feb 2019 #8

I can't think of a woman boss I have had that was bad. And some were fabulous. I have had Squinch Feb 2019 #9

For the last 15 years of my job I knew more than all my bosses and supervisors lunatica Feb 2019 #10

I had one lady boss at an Ins Agency when I was early 20s jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #12

I've had very few female bosses, but they rank among the worst I've ever had. milestogo Feb 2019 #13

A long time ago, I worked in a bank. My supervisor was a woman, and her boss was, too. Aristus Feb 2019 #14

My best boss was a woman and my worst boss was a woman. jalan48 Feb 2019 #15

Only had one woman boss, a sweet grandma when I was a a just-divorced 33 yo.... Hekate Feb 2019 #16

I've heard that ismnotwasm Feb 2019 #17

Some women nurses are really difficult with women doctors RockCreek Feb 2019 #37

This is a thing treestar Feb 2019 #88

Had great female and male bosses and many that weren't so great Jake Stern Feb 2019 #18

Totally agree nt Raine Feb 2019 #19

I think some people are just corrupt with how they use power Beringia Feb 2019 #20

Sure, tell the truth, but be up front. Don't hide behind anonymity question everything Feb 2019 #22

I've had 3 female bosses; 2 bad and 1 good. n/t area51 Feb 2019 #23

So...based on your personal experiences JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #79

What triggered you to write this OP? Are you writing a memoire? SharonClark Feb 2019 #25

Title: betsuni Feb 2019 #29

perhaps you have writing talent, also !! jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #35

... betsuni Feb 2019 #48

what language are you speaking here... jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #52

LOL betsuni Feb 2019 #62

That's pretty nasty LiberalLovinLug Feb 2019 #153

Oh dear me! NurseJackie Feb 2019 #205

Unbelievable...I hate this post and it pisses me off to see such a post from a liberal Demsrule86 Feb 2019 #41

tone it down there kid... jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #59

Say what you want but this discourages women as bosses and as presidential candidates... I have to Demsrule86 Feb 2019 #61

once again my post was MY personal history jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #94

You are saying that women bosses are shitty...using your personal history.There is a difference. Demsrule86 Feb 2019 #98

what part of MY experiences are you not getting? jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #100

100% this obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #42

BINGO sorcrow Feb 2019 #49

Nailed it. Tipperary Feb 2019 #50

Same here. LakeArenal Feb 2019 #105

My thinking exactly. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2019 #159

Agreed, I have a "friend" who has 6 bothers and siters who all "all mean" womanofthehills Feb 2019 #181

I am a writer jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #34

Are you? What do you write? I would love to read some of your work. PTWB Feb 2019 #109

I doubt you will get an answer. Tipperary Feb 2019 #165

Here is some of her work: demmiblue Feb 2019 #182

Wow. Just wow. PTWB Feb 2019 #208

Plagiarism seems a habit lillypaddle Feb 2019 #216

I'm sorry to have to say this, but a good writer does not use ellipses the way you do. athena Feb 2019 #114

Thank you. I was just debating whether to post something to that effect. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #123

Thank you. Tipperary Feb 2019 #166

Maybe because it is in the news now. What a rude question. nt USALiberal Feb 2019 #85

Just another "Not THAT woman" screed. n/m RhodeIslandOne Feb 2019 #189

Female bosses? They're still bosses. dchill Feb 2019 #26

'Lady boss': horrid, jealous, crazy, petty, nasty, pathetic, shitty, bullies. betsuni Feb 2019 #27

My Mom said this to me AT THE TIME..I was in my 30s jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #32

Funny, I rarely see male bosses subjected to such ...like wow male bossess are really shitty. Demsrule86 Feb 2019 #40

Yes it does Bradshaw3 Feb 2019 #82

Yeah, I am with you on this one. Tipperary Feb 2019 #39

If absolutely all your female bosses were awful, KitSileya Feb 2019 #28

good on you jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #33

My take also was your post was about Amy Klobuchar, however, my wife would second c-rational Feb 2019 #56

This isn't sexist drivel.... Dorian Gray Feb 2019 #31

Well it was a mixed bag for me, duforsure Feb 2019 #36

It is hard to see such a post my liberal women. I have had shitty bosses of both sexes. Demsrule86 Feb 2019 #38

Thank you. nt raccoon Feb 2019 #168

Yeah - not so much these days JustAnotherGen Feb 2019 #44

My two worst bosses get the red out Feb 2019 #45

177 IQ? PTWB Feb 2019 #55

Somehow, when a person actually posts the words "I am very bright," Croney Feb 2019 #68

Must be a very stable genius with JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #77

+1000 smirkymonkey Feb 2019 #127

I always had good female bosses. MuseRider Feb 2019 #57

Generalization snowybirdie Feb 2019 #58

Nearly every boss and supervisor was pretty good on average. Tetrachloride Feb 2019 #60

Interestingly, almost all my bosses mrs_p Feb 2019 #63

I'm 69 and had the same experience The Blue Flower Feb 2019 #64

I think you're right about that peggysue2 Feb 2019 #179

I was the most beautiful of all the women..... and my IQ ...higher than all of you............ womanofthehills Feb 2019 #184

This thread makes me want to leave DU JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #66

Good article. Croney Feb 2019 #70

Exactly. Tipperary Feb 2019 #71

This kind of thinking is why we have a despot in the WH JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #73

No kidding. Even a woman with an "IQ of 177" apparently is not in favor of breaking that ceiling. Tipperary Feb 2019 #74

The "1" in front of the number JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #75

Lol, I just got what you said, but then my IQ is not 177. Tipperary Feb 2019 #169

I AGREE Demsrule86 Feb 2019 #96

another anecdotal experience from my wife age 64 at140 Feb 2019 #108

My first company commander was a woman... Blanks Feb 2019 #67

Thank you. I left a job in December after 90 days... GreenEyedLefty Feb 2019 #69

When your complaint is about how the story was released... brooklynite Feb 2019 #72

So are you in favor of a woman president? Tipperary Feb 2019 #76

177 IQ, eh? Heddi Feb 2019 #78

I currently have a male boss for the first time since 2007 underpants Feb 2019 #80

My worst boss was male crazycatlady Feb 2019 #81

This message was self-deleted by its author tenderfoot Feb 2019 #83

What constitutes "horrible" might be in the eye of the beholder to some extent, The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #86

"To some extent"? JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #93

Why is it sexist to suggest that a female boss can be horrible? Male bosses can be horrible; The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #95

This was your sentence: JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #101

Again, how is that sexist? The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #103

Not what you said. JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #107

If I had said female bosses *are* objectively horrible, that would have been sexist and false. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #116

""But female bosses can be objectively horrible." JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #120

One more try and then I'm giving up. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #125

Give up. That's not what you said. JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #130

+1 Croney Feb 2019 #126

WOW! You have an IQ of 177? cwydro Feb 2019 #87

Even neater Heddi Feb 2019 #91

my youngest sibling is near 200 jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #97

Interesting, but not especially meaningful. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #111

I was just responding to a nameless faceless person on here doubting my IQ jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #118

An IQ of 177 would make you 1 in 3.5 million people muriel_volestrangler Feb 2019 #152

So with that level of intelligence - why so many bosses? Why were you not the boss? Tipperary Feb 2019 #209

You forgot to add in the photographic memory. MrsCoffee Feb 2019 #221

Especially since the Stanford-Binet test tops out at 170. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #113

Really really cool forklift Feb 2019 #193

I am 70 HockeyMom Feb 2019 #89

STEPHEN HAWKING IQ: PHYSICIST CALLED PEOPLE WHO BOAST ABOUT SCORE 'LOSERS' Heddi Feb 2019 #90

They had to increase the score ceiling because of Trump. Oneironaut Feb 2019 #112

Actually, there are several different IQ tests, with different "highest" scores... Hekate Feb 2019 #225

I'm surprised that most have been awful. I haven't had Hortensis Feb 2019 #92

This is such a strange post - I'm not sure what to take from it nini Feb 2019 #99

I think the only thing we can take from it is that the OP had bad experiences The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #106

I'm taking from it that too many DU'ers are sexist JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #110

+1 obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #211

Anecdotes aren't data. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #102

It might just have been the times, bad luck janterry Feb 2019 #104

This post is a beautiful demonstration of why Trump is president today. athena Feb 2019 #117

You are so right! lunamagica Feb 2019 #131

Thank you for telling the truth. Baitball Blogger Feb 2019 #119

What truth exactly? JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #124

I never said that women should not be in management positions. That is your wrongful interpretation Baitball Blogger Feb 2019 #134

This is one of the most sexist posts in JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #136

Our experiences are different. That's all. Baitball Blogger Feb 2019 #137

That's a cop-out excuse JenniferJuniper Feb 2019 #140

Omigod. Baitball Blogger Feb 2019 #143

Uh... You didn't say we shouldn't glorify them you vilified them. MrsCoffee Feb 2019 #190

And you glorified them. Baitball Blogger Feb 2019 #194

I did no such thing. MrsCoffee Feb 2019 #196

My apologies. I was following the thread of conversation, and not the poster. Baitball Blogger Feb 2019 #206

"Yes, to think that women are going to be our allies out here, is a fantasy." demmiblue Feb 2019 #142

It's my experiences. Baitball Blogger Feb 2019 #144

Most humans can see beyond their personal experiences in order to understand the broader picture. demmiblue Feb 2019 #147

I don't think you would apply that as a "universal truth", would you? Baitball Blogger Feb 2019 #149

"Yes, to think that women are going to be our allies out here, is a fantasy." demmiblue Feb 2019 #150

Let's get specific. Baitball Blogger Feb 2019 #151

All my bosses have been women. Great people. IluvPitties Feb 2019 #128

So, you don't think a woman should be POTUS? lunamagica Feb 2019 #132

They were jelous of your 177 IQ? How did they know about it?? lunamagica Feb 2019 #133

I said that MAY have been a reason jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #135

An IQ of 177 and you say you're "smarter than *them*"? The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #145

But my question was, how did they know what you IQ was? lunamagica Feb 2019 #162

Post removed Post removed Feb 2019 #163

"I will bet you are a WOMAN" obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #174

I, too, wondered how many people get tested... Phentex Feb 2019 #207

It's totally trumpian. Also James Woods and Sharon Stone love to brag about their high IQs, but what lunamagica Feb 2019 #213

hahhahahahhahahaha obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #172

FWIW, I'm male and have had good and bad women bosses. brush Feb 2019 #139

brush, I got a strong feeling that most jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #148

Just wow. MrsCoffee Feb 2019 #178

Bye. Don't let the door hit you on the way out... Hekate Feb 2019 #224

I'm a man and I worked 19 years at my last company. MicaelS Feb 2019 #141

A mixed bag of bad bosses happybird Feb 2019 #146

anecdotal evidence is meaningless. I have had a varied career of over 30 years from Chemist in the still_one Feb 2019 #155

Now I'm reminiscing about some 40 years of bosses, bad and good. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2019 #157

My mother was one of those southern... Duppers Feb 2019 #158

"Nothing sexist?" jcgoldie Feb 2019 #160

then you would be wrong jodymarie aimee Feb 2019 #164

No, I guess you vote with your "IQ of 177." Right? Tipperary Feb 2019 #167

"I don't vote with my vagina." obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #170

Post removed Post removed Feb 2019 #175

Are you saying you are "gender blind?" (nt) ehrnst Feb 2019 #176

Jody why are you using that phrase? irisblue Feb 2019 #180

HAHAHAHHA I was wondering what Post Removed obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #192

I freaking hate that phrase. 👹👹👹👹👹 irisblue Feb 2019 #197

Same! obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #212

Goodbye. NurseJackie Feb 2019 #204

I'd offer people donuts, but she took the box when she left. lapucelle Feb 2019 #222

A small price. NurseJackie Feb 2019 #223

+1 obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #171

I bet your very pretty, 177 IQ self was just a dream to work with TexasBushwhacker Feb 2019 #173

I have had some really good female bosses. Mosby Feb 2019 #177

FFR177. n/t demmiblue Feb 2019 #183

Well deserved! n/t seaglass Feb 2019 #187

FINALLY obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #191

Oh dear. Lol. Tipperary Feb 2019 #210

My current boss is a woman RhodeIslandOne Feb 2019 #188

I don't think I have had any really shitty bosses. Male or female. LiberalFighter Feb 2019 #195

Well at least no one asked if they should wear a swim suit. MrsCoffee Feb 2019 #198

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ still_one Feb 2019 #202

I'm in my 50s NewJeffCT Feb 2019 #200

61 year old woman here & I have always preferred to work with & for women. CrispyQ Feb 2019 #203

Most "bosses," i.e., managers lillypaddle Feb 2019 #214

Most of my black bosses were horrid obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #217

Amazing isnt it. Eliot Rosewater Feb 2019 #219

It makes my head spin, man! obamanut2012 Feb 2019 #220

I have had both Male and Female bosses - both bad and good bosses....Whether they were good or bad Pachamama Feb 2019 #227

What the fresh hell is this? liberalmuse Feb 2019 #228

"Long and varied work history." Not what most employers consider a good work record. Tipperary Feb 2019 #229