Listen you fat assed bitch.

[KentuckyWoman]

One of my sisters was about 5 feet and at her max, topped out at about 300 pounds when she died. The reasons are many. Some she could have controlled better than she did. Some she had no control over whatsoever.

In her 30's she was about 80 pounds overweight and had a run in with a lab tech who wasn't very good at her job. Before it was over, the lab tech yelled at my sister ... "Listen you fat assed bitch." I don't remember what came after it. I shot out of my chair, gathered up my crying sister and we left.

She took a lot of shit before she would even stand up for herself. She was always like that. She would stand up and take shit to protect someone else too. In the end, she was carrying almost 200 pounds of other people's shit.

Despite the prevalence of obesity in the country, we just love to fat shame. It is insane. I watched TV for about an hour yesterday and the commercials were fast food ads, diabetes med ads, and Pelaton. But mostly fast food. Medical people are not excluded looking down their noses at overweight patients. It is assumed they just don't care, aren't worth the trouble... aren't ... worth ...

Here on the DU some of us have no trouble including Donnie Boy's weight as one of our slams. No place is immune from those who will engage. We act as if fat people can't feel pain. We assume they are sturdy enough to take all the rude we want to dish out.

Today is the 40th anniversary of my sister's death. She was 43 years old. I miss her every damn day. The world is a darker place without her in it. She died of a rare cancer that was in no way related to her weight and could have been cured by surgery if gotten when she first felt bad. She died because she could not stand the thought of "that" look from doctors because of her weight.


The next time you come across someone ridiculously overweight, be kind. Chances are they got that big trying to cope with the abuse that came before you.

Thank you for reading.