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ArizonaLib

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7. You have assessed the situation 1,000% correctly

Sat Mar 2, 2024, 09:19 AM

Mar 2

He radiates the worst of humankind. He lives and acts out of fear and misery and he needs company from those of limited compassion and limited weakness.

However, after finding myself married to a narcissist who still scares my teenaged daughters, I have found that joy and resolve to be compassionate scares the hell out her and her father and his friends who also resemble that Covid king's followers.

Between bouts of worry, spread your joy by being yourself among friends (including your DU friends) loved ones and strangers in public places. Anyone with any situational awareness is scared also. The other side is always scared or they would not be voting republican or preparing for war with our society whose founders agreed that our government exist for the purpose of 'the general welfare', was tops.

My former father in law, the outspoken patriarch of that family never got the best of me or felt I was a reliable member of his camp because I was always up front, respectful had the strength to accommodate his daughter and him without giving in to stupid crap. in sports terms I left everything on the field even till Covid. I had previously avoided divorce because I understood her father would get involved and I could lose my girls because he has much better resourced for it. When Covid hit, my ex isolated from her family and tensions grew among them and estrangement set in. She was able to avoid any shame or embarrassment and criticism from a deploying a sociopathic style divorce strategy, and was encouraged to do so by a close friend of hers. One of my daughters soon after left for out-of-state college, and I have the younger one with me, as she refuses to have anything to do with her mother by her own choice, because she is so afraid of her. So the 3 of us are now safe from all of my ex and her family. My mother for a long time lamented that the perfect storm of Covid, years of emotional abuse, which supported by in-laws - caused the pain of our household's destruction. But we now see it as saving us.

Remember also, conservatives, whenever they manage to collect enough fringe elements into their camps always blow it up. During the revolutionary war they supported the Tories. Later they supported the formation and preservation of the plantation system. After that, they supported the policies that caused the Depression of the 1930's. Since then, they have chipped away at everything that supported 'the general welfare'.

We come out better after each of these rebirths but in the moment it is scary. Feeling scared is different than conservative bullshit fear. So rest the best you can, distract yourself the best you can with things that exercise your joy and connect with loved ones. Show them you won't allow the other side to steal your spirit unwillingly. Our liberal community will still be around to pick up the pieces once again and the next time and each time after. We always clean up after the elephants when the circus leaves town.

I am scared, too. Hang in there!

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I've had very little peace [View all] samplegirl Mar 2 OP

I see and hear you. Hope22 Mar 2 #1

Thanks Hope samplegirl Mar 2 #20

You are very welcome. Hope22 Mar 2 #36

You're not alone... Think. Again. Mar 2 #2

I feel like all these years of samplegirl Mar 2 #21

Worry about what you can do. Let go of whatever is out of your hands Bernardo de La Paz Mar 2 #3

I'm trying samplegirl Mar 2 #22

For panic, breathe closer to normal. It dovetails with a classic meditation technique, which helps too Bernardo de La Paz Mar 2 #34

It is the same for me.... FarPoint Mar 2 #4

Yeah I feel like samplegirl Mar 2 #23

You have my sympathy Orrex Mar 2 #5

If you are stabbed in the neck, you can do something about it Bernardo de La Paz Mar 2 #9

But that's not the advice that people give Orrex Mar 2 #10

Not offering illusion, not attacking the analogy. There are people like that Bernardo de La Paz Mar 2 #14

That is not at all the kind of answer I was bracing to receive Orrex Mar 2 #18

Welcome. I didn't perceive your post as biting or cutting. No problem. . . . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Mar 2 #19

This. limbicnuminousity Mar 2 #15

2020 changed my view of many, if not most, of the people I know. shrike3 Mar 2 #17

My neighbor uses her dog samplegirl Mar 2 #25

Very sorry you are going through this BlueKota Mar 2 #6

You have assessed the situation 1,000% correctly ArizonaLib Mar 2 #7

Thank you for this samplegirl Mar 2 #26

Hey girl!!! hamsterjill Mar 2 #8

I've been horrible samplegirl Mar 2 #28

I don't let that POS keep me up at night. I will do my part to defeat him and his maga crew. Ferrets are Cool Mar 2 #11

I'm a worrier samplegirl Mar 2 #29

You know how kids use a magnifying glass? Basic LA Mar 2 #12

I try to enjoy watching samplegirl Mar 2 #30

Like climate change Kaleva Mar 2 #13

It's anything but samplegirl Mar 2 #31

Peace samplegirl. You are among tens of millions who share your experience these past 4 or 5 KPN Mar 2 #16

Yes and samplegirl Mar 2 #32

I feel Rebl2 Mar 2 #24

I've never really wished samplegirl Mar 2 #33

When I think about that nasty orange toad and all the idiots who worship him Diamond_Dog Mar 2 #27

Thank you friend samplegirl Mar 2 #35