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Attilatheblond

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62. To make your point re male ignorance: Had a male gyn tell me, with a straight face & total conviction:

Wed Aug 14, 2024, 08:21 PM

Aug 14

"I don't believe in PMS."

That's right, a male gyn told me HE doesn't believe in a condition most females know personally does exist, and therefore my 'issues' are all in my head. No, I did not choose this troglodyte, it was a hospital situation and I had no voice in who showed up. But in less than 3 minutes, I knew why he didn't have a private practice.

Wanted to kick him in the balls and let him know that 'It's all in your head. Balls don't have feelings!'

Best GYN I ever had was a FEMALE, board certified GYN & board certified endocrinologist. Let me tell ya all, THAT is the sort of physician a Peri-menopausal or menopausal woman really needs.

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My experience with the deeply rooted misogyny of men in general and medicine particularly [View all] Coventina Aug 14 OP

Vance don't know shite 617Blue Aug 14 #1

Exactly birdographer Aug 14 #9

He's been elevated to theoretically one-heartbeat away from the most powerful position in the world Coventina Aug 14 #12

Shady-pants is a little, little man. Little men have been putting down women since Kittycatkat Aug 14 #67

They demean everyone who doesn't fit into their world view Tadpole Raisin Aug 14 #2

I'm sorry all of that happened to you senseandsensibility Aug 14 #3

yep, well said.... democratsruletheday Aug 14 #4

True senseandsensibility Aug 14 #5

WITH YOU. I'm fucking livid... OneGrassRoot Aug 14 #6

What an unfeeling asshole. I'm glad you never went back to him. raccoon Aug 15 #83

Ever notice how birdographer Aug 14 #7

Yes yes and yes! N/t Lulu KC Aug 14 #16

I'm with you. I'm so sick of the patriarchy and male selfishness and control on a societal scale. Sky Jewels Aug 14 #8

Love to you dear person! Hope22 Aug 14 #10

So sorry for your pain Maeve Aug 14 #11

I am not going to defend the male doctors that treated you.... Dan Aug 14 #13

To make your point re male ignorance: Had a male gyn tell me, with a straight face & total conviction: Attilatheblond Aug 14 #62

How about no -archy, ... returnee Aug 14 #14

No! Cailinrain Aug 15 #79

Kick and rec. Torchlight Aug 14 #15

Me, too SARose Aug 14 #17

A lot of states have markodochartaigh Aug 14 #18

Hopefully that doesn't happen, but thankfully I live abroad róisín_dubh Aug 15 #82

Great post! KT2000 Aug 14 #19

This makes me purple with anger. I wonder if people like Vance have the same disrespect for the women in LoisB Aug 14 #20

Huge kick and recommend. love_katz Aug 14 #21

one male doctor seeing that I had had 2 spontaneous abortions (miscarriages) chewed me out demigoddess Aug 14 #22

I'm constantly surprised by the meat golems that pass for men these days. nt Xipe Totec Aug 14 #24

Oh MAN, this reminded me of the last "visit" to the gynecologist I USED TO have. calimary Aug 14 #54

calimary, did you ever find out what that contraption was? dmr Aug 15 #74

I think it was some kind of cryosurgery. calimary Aug 15 #76

We are nothing but breeding stock to them. StarryNite Aug 14 #23

or as my mother liked to say, barbtries Aug 14 #28

Texas has made it clear that we can just go bleed to death. Livestock are too valuable to allow that. Hekate Aug 14 #30

That's a good point. They would save the cow but let a woman or girl die. StarryNite Aug 14 #31

k&r Hermit-The-Prog Aug 14 #25

I'm with you, Coventina! evolves Aug 14 #26

they totally should have known barbtries Aug 14 #27

What's really awful is running into a female doctor who was trained by men Warpy Aug 14 #29

yes!!!!!!!!! bluboid Aug 14 #32

the man is excelling in the role of sexist pig stopdiggin Aug 14 #33

They are stuck with that smug hillbilly Entrepreneur want to be. gordianot Aug 14 #34

Juvenile Delinquent (JD) BattleRow Aug 14 #42

At some point, most women have had misogynistic experiences with modern medicine dlk Aug 14 #35

Proud to be your 100th. rec. tavernier Aug 14 #36

Thank you for posting this, Coventina. Permanut Aug 14 #37

It's like he wants to enrage every woman of every age everywhere. Too bad women fought and won the vote, you sorry POS. Timeflyer Aug 14 #38

As a man, let me just say: robbob Aug 14 #39

Uh,just a thought,but BattleRow Aug 14 #40

It's okay when they're sterile Zoomie1986 Aug 14 #45

It's all momma's fault BattleRow Aug 14 #47

My fortyish female OBGYN told me that at my age I don't need hormones. Never went back. nature-lover Aug 14 #41

There are many Men Who shouldn't have kids IbogaProject Aug 14 #43

UR Beautiful! Jean Genie Aug 14 #44

Us post meno women get to be the Marthas onlyadream Aug 14 #46

The future is women like you. That gives me more hope than you can imagine. Aristus Aug 14 #48

You're living proof that women are good for LOTS of things. Not just child-related. calimary Aug 14 #49

Your life is OBVIOUSLY valuable to you and others. Scrivener7 Aug 14 #50

Vance's purpose geniph Aug 15 #75

Ewwwwwwwwwww! Scrivener7 Aug 15 #80

amen sister BlueWaveNeverEnd Aug 14 #51

Hopefully new awareness is taking hold Sympthsical Aug 14 #52

Apology Jazz Jon Aug 14 #53

DOWN WITH THE PATRIARCHY IS RIGHT! ShazzieB Aug 14 #55

I had bad uterine fibroids too mcar Aug 14 #56

Preach sister!!!!!!! blondebanshee Aug 14 #57

I just lost my shit very publicly after reading that. Pacifist Patriot Aug 14 #58

Pretty sure Vance jerks off SomedayKindaLove Aug 14 #59

Wonderful well written rant. I enjoyed the power flowing through it. . . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Aug 14 #60

I had endometriosis so bad iwillalwayswonderwhy Aug 14 #61

Yes VGuerra276 Aug 14 #63

Can't argue with you on this... GiqueCee Aug 14 #64

It's ironic, to produce 10 singleton children in.a year requires 10 women and 1 man lostnfound Aug 14 #65

That little fuckwad hillbilly Vance has no business telling women what they should or shouldn't be doing. llmart Aug 14 #66

Remember this.. raising2moredems Aug 14 #68

Women outlive men GopherGal Aug 14 #69

For a man supposedly so well-educated... Trueblue Texan Aug 14 #70

just because you go to Harvard or Yale lapfog_1 Aug 15 #77

Melania Trump is post menopause Farmer-Rick Aug 14 #71

Going to challenge that just a bit, but I get your point oregonjen Aug 14 #72

This message was self-deleted by its author Farmer-Rick Aug 15 #89

This is their last gasp. Blue Full Moon Aug 15 #73

+1... myohmy2 Aug 15 #78

Did you see this? AKwannabe Aug 15 #81

I'd like to hear what he thinks about 50+ year old men mainer Aug 15 #84

For most of human history, average life expectancy was well under 40 years. Not a lot of time for grandparenting. eppur_se_muova Aug 15 #85

Done with the patriarchy! Clouds Passing Aug 15 #86

Amen, sister. I wrote 6 books as a postmenapausal woman. So, as they say, "How do you like those apples?" Joinfortmill Aug 15 #87

Shady is an INCEL, plain and simple... GoldenMezzoDiva Aug 15 #88

Stories like yours are why Elessar Zappa Aug 15 #90

Sorry my gender can be such blind idiots at times and Prairie_Seagull Aug 15 #91

I was agreeing with you until 'The future is female' Amishman Aug 15 #92

that is not true Cirsium Aug 15 #95

Thank you for proving my point Amishman Aug 15 #98

OK Cirsium Aug 15 #100

What a superb post! Wild blueberry Aug 15 #93

male is the 'norm', we are abnormal. but hey, we don't have to poop daily. pansypoo53219 Aug 15 #94

How the hell does his wife live with him???? onlyadream Aug 15 #96

The grandparents who raised Vance TexasBushwhacker Aug 15 #97

I love you! This is a great post. Dark n Stormy Knight Aug 15 #99

Great post and superb comments Diamond_Dog Aug 15 #101

Men don't get to tell women or girls what their purpose in life is at any stage. Women/girls can decide for themselves. CousinIT Aug 15 #102

I am so sorry for your experience. Behind the Aegis Aug 15 #103

Sorry for your loss, and glad you are speaking out against this kind of shit. mucholderthandirt Aug 16 #104