My husband collapsed and died tonight.

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70. You are probably in shock

to have experienced the loss of your husband in such a sudden and brutal way. You may be flooded with feelings all of a sudden, or may be too numbed by the experience to not know what you feel for some time.
How to tell your friends and family is the next step. Don't be afraid to delegate. When my estranged husband of 33 years died suddenly --by his own hand--I had just sent Christmas/holiday cards/notes to people scattered all over the country. I made a two sided card--using Shutterfly --to create an In Memory Of announcement. I had my sons call family members. People will not know what to say and they can sometimes say things you won't want to hear. Don't be afraid to give yourself some space and let people help you with all the steps of formally saying goodbye to your husband if you decide to have a funeral or celebration of life gathering.
Breathe. Just breathe and know there is always someone here at DU to listen or engage in conversation.
I am so sorry for your loss.