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kerry-is-my-prez

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129. Psych social worker here: you are in the depression state of grief and need to work on getting into the anger stage.

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Fri Jul 4, 2025, 03:26 PM

Jul 4

Anger is turned outward at others and is energizing and motivating. Depression is denial or anger turned inward and makes you sad and helpless. I would get on some Prozac and read inspirational books/articles about people who have fought for causes - maybe find a counselor. I’m retired for a few years but I’m trying to bone up on my counseling skills again to try to help people who are going to need my help.

I actually try to feel sort of privileged instead of unfortunate that I am witnessing a huge event in world history at 70 - it’s fascinating. It does help being towards the ending decades of my life and only having to put up with this for a while. We were fortunate to see JFK become president and LBJ and Obama kicking ass. I figured I lived a good life.

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I hope somebody can help me out of this. I feel absolutely HEARTSICK. [View all] calimary Jul 3 OP

... SheltieLover Jul 3 #1

Psych social worker here: you are in the depression state of grief and need to work on getting into the anger stage. kerry-is-my-prez Jul 4 #129

All I can offer is a 🫂, and the faint hope that this will eventually end. mwmisses4289 Jul 3 #2

Hugggggggs. Other than moral support, I have nothing to offer today. niyad Jul 3 #3

"I am one stubborn witch/bitch and my goal is to outlast as many of the bastards as I can, LoisB Jul 3 #46

Yes, niyad's post and your comments apply to me, too. wordstroken Jul 4 #107

Niyad's posts are always inspirational for me. LoisB Jul 4 #109

IKR!! wordstroken Jul 4 #112

Yep. I've continued my anger state of grief and refuse to become depressed. kerry-is-my-prez Jul 4 #126

Agree 100%!! kerry-is-my-prez Jul 4 #131

I am almost 75 and I feel exactly the same way. Never thought I would see this in so many areas walkingman Jul 3 #4

Maybe it won't take another 3.5 years to be rid of the fuck-stain. Jack Valentino Jul 4 #81

Thing is, HE is not the problem. He is just the poster boy and unwitting tool Attilatheblond Jul 4 #110

I agree 100%, Jack! wordstroken Jul 4 #111

I think you'll feel better if you become active and involved. Ocelot II Jul 3 #5

Some terrific ideas here, Ocelot II! calimary Jul 3 #68

Did you listen to the Indivisible What's the plan call today? If not it will be up on You Tube shortly if it isnt' yet. Amaryllis Jul 3 #6

My Indivisible group usually takes over the sidewalks of a big local intersection, every Friday. calimary Jul 3 #48

Thanks, Amaryllis Easterncedar Jul 3 #78

Amaryllis ........ Upthevibe Jul 4 #134

Ditto sister berniesandersmittens Jul 3 #7

I feel your pain Mossfern Jul 3 #8

You've also lived through incredible positive changes EdmondDantes_ Jul 3 #9

That's the reason the trump era hurts so much -- born at midcentury, we participated in progress... Hekate Jul 3 #17

Yes It hurts. I feel you there Silver Gaia Jul 4 #89

Exactly what I've been feeling. Dixiegrrrl Jul 4 #113

Those gains are being wiped away Bettie Jul 4 #99

We come into this very much the same. MuseRider Jul 3 #10

I'm really sad too Laurelin Jul 3 #11

Great advice...suggestions. c-rational Jul 3 #26

Definitely good advice. THANKS. Laurelin! calimary Jul 3 #37

🌺 Hekate Jul 3 #12

By not stopping this bill, Democrats have not rescued Turbineguy Jul 3 #13

I'll say this for the Democratic members of Congress- Prof. Toru Tanaka Jul 3 #33

Me too, Most DEFINITELY!!! calimary Jul 3 #38

How could they have stopped it? Boomerproud Jul 3 #70

I always remember this small aspect of my life. Abstractartist Jul 3 #14

Thank you Hekate Jul 3 #18

I thought that was Walter Cronkite who said that. llmart Jul 3 #19

https://www.jfklibrary.org/archives/other-resources/john-f-kennedy-speeches/liberal-party-nomination-nyc-19600914 Abstractartist Jul 3 #20

Thanks for looking that up. Here's a good one from Walter... llmart Jul 3 #24

🤙🏻 Walter Cronkite was very liberal, but fair.....as in journalistic. Abstractartist Jul 3 #34

Ain't that the effing truth! 3catwoman3 Jul 3 #35

Oh I've seen, read, and loved that quote, Abstractartist! calimary Jul 3 #41

If you are 70, ForgedCrank Jul 3 #15

Find a local group that's doing work you find important and join in. Feeding the hungry, sheltering the homeless, WhiskeyGrinder Jul 3 #16

That's the thing that helps me get through this bs questionseverything Jul 3 #31

I'm Numb right now, calimary.. the only Cha Jul 3 #21

I'm right there with you, calimary. llmart Jul 3 #22

Well said! maddiemom Jul 3 #65

We go back a ways A-Schwarzenegger Jul 3 #23

I was young in the 60s and my mom feared for her life LittleGirl Jul 3 #25

Exactly, i am guessing, but I bet most of us are white 1WorldHope Jul 3 #42

All I got is stay sane... MiHale Jul 3 #27

I'm looking for some small glimmer of hope, PatSeg Jul 3 #28

Another DITTO. elleng Jul 3 #29

Yes. I feel the same way cally Jul 3 #30

I got nothing Picaro Jul 3 #32

Go out and enjoy nature, read a good book, listen to music. The world keeps turning Demovictory9 Jul 3 #36

Hope springs eternal William769 Jul 3 #39

Such a cool photo! calimary Jul 4 #83

Thanks. William769 Jul 4 #88

This is a dark day for me too but MadameButterfly Jul 3 #40

Something well worth visualizing, MadameButterfly! calimary Jul 3 #44

Your post helped me connect to the training to MadameButterfly Jul 3 #55

I hope if I'm REALLY lucky that I wind up in the same trenches with you, my friend! calimary Jul 3 #67

thank you MadameButterfly Jul 4 #96

"The evolution of us as a people..." Trueblue Texan Jul 4 #101

I wish I could help you DENVERPOPS Jul 3 #43

"If you're not outraged, you're not paying attention." sop Jul 3 #53

The programming worked. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jul 4 #93

The whole thing sounds like a big scam to me. valleyrogue Jul 3 #45

I'm with you. This is chaos theater, and as the party of SANITY, we will always do clean up of the destruction, ancianita Jul 3 #58

This post deserves a thread of its own, ancianita. calimary Jul 3 #66

Thanks, calimary. DU'ers aggregated all this! The MAIN point being that our party is badass at governing for The People. ancianita Jul 3 #69

Holy shit. That's a lot of stuff you've collected. allegorical oracle Jul 3 #73

Yo, it a lot of badass stuff WE Democrats and our President Biden DID! ancianita Jul 3 #74

Boy! No Kidding!!! calimary Jul 4 #82

Biden came the closest blubunyip Jul 4 #121

The GOP idiots are so bent on creating resentment against the poor, valleyrogue Jul 3 #77

You are exactly right! Stargazer99 Jul 4 #119

My last resort attitude is what I call "the Winston Churchill." rzemanfl Jul 3 #47

Oh MAN! That is excruciatingly delicious!!! calimary Jul 3 #49

Thank you. n/t rzemanfl Jul 3 #50

All I can offer are hugs dear calimary. alwaysinasnit Jul 3 #51

You not alone. Delmette2.0 Jul 3 #52

From another Boomer BeneteauBum Jul 3 #54

I wish I had more to offer than moral support. I don't. I do have a little advice. flashman13 Jul 3 #56

I feel exactly as you do DeeDeeNY Jul 3 #57

This time is different kevinore Jul 3 #59

This is going to seem a weird analogy--but I feel the US average voter is the 1970's American car industry crimycarny Jul 3 #60

Look at Germany in 1940 quakerboy Jul 3 #61

we thought we saw it all marti Jul 3 #62

You know that saying, sometimes you have to take a step back to move forward? Native Jul 3 #63

I feel it's just a matter of time until it is proven the 2024 election was stolen annielion Jul 3 #64

annielion.......... Upthevibe Jul 4 #135

Know where you're coming from. I live in the middle of nowhere and am allegorical oracle Jul 3 #71

I am so sorry. Cannot moonscape Jul 3 #75

USA is doomed Humanityfirst Jul 3 #72

I'm 67 markodochartaigh Jul 3 #76

Your Grandmother was wise and wonderful - and eminently quotable! calimary Jul 4 #85

(((big hug))) proud patriot Jul 3 #79

There's a Democrat in Texas who firmly believes that Trump won't live out this year, Jack Valentino Jul 4 #80

Sending you hugs. Solly Mack Jul 4 #84

Thank you SO Much, Solly Mack. calimary Jul 4 #86

When it gets to that point, take a holiday from politics thought crime Jul 4 #87

I'm your age stollen Jul 4 #90

Bookmarked for all the great suggestions Alice Kramden Jul 4 #91

You're not alone calimary. democrank Jul 4 #92

Try getting angry. pwb Jul 4 #94

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so depressed et tu Jul 4 #97

I can only say this Glaisne Jul 4 #98

Hey, I really like that phrase of yours: "FDR roots"! calimary Jul 4 #123

You are clearly not alone. Prairie_Seagull Jul 4 #100

Imagine the feeling of the country in the years and months before the Civil War. Ol Janx Spirit Jul 4 #102

Thinking of you and sending good vibes of endurance! MLAA Jul 4 #103

I have a feeling hopelessness and depression are on a meteoric rise in America right now. NoMoreRepugs Jul 4 #104

The GOP just turned the vast majority of our country against them annielion Jul 4 #105

Same here. I wish I had inspirational words. Hakeem used MLK's "Press on" as what we need to do. He was amazing. Evolve Dammit Jul 4 #106

Me, I'm pissed off. CanonRay Jul 4 #108

I share your frustration, Calimary. Lonestarblue Jul 4 #114

I'm sorry but I'm right there with you mountain grammy Jul 4 #115

Join the group. Beowulf42 Jul 4 #116

As we get older, it becomes much more difficult to live with these threats. kentuck Jul 4 #117

We are about the same age... hwmnbn Jul 4 #118

Hey hwmnbn, YES, that helps. calimary Jul 4 #125

So, I've foolishly stayed up all night watching political stuff on YouTube. Dark n Stormy Knight Jul 4 #120

Am 68. No, but I'll keep you company. mjvpi Jul 4 #122

I'm 57. GaYellowDawg Jul 4 #124

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Hi Calimary, being up here in Canada gives me an outside perspective yobrault1 Jul 4 #128

I wish I could say something uplifting. 58Sunliner Jul 4 #130

I am 81 rambler_american Jul 4 #132

Don't let the bastards win . . . cenacle Jul 4 #133

And MUCH LOVE and SOLIDARITY to EVERYBODY here! calimary Jul 5 #136