And lord knows, the health of the mother means nothing... even if she has kids waiting for her to come home. Damn... if I didn't have some really good role models of men over my 70 years of life, I don't think I'd ever have anything to do with a man. This woman already had a pre-existing susceptibility to pre-eclampsia... and believe me, it would have affected her pregnancy at some point, if it didn't kill her first.
I had pre-eclampsia and it led to what the docs called at IUGR baby. Intrauterine growth retarded. Once she was born, we veered from one health crisis to another. Tests for hydranencephaly, tests for cerebral palsy; and other tests I can't even remember this long past the event. When she was about 7-1/2 months into conception, she stopped kicking. I told my ob on my next visit (which was about 2 weeks later), and he had me take some sort of test. Problem was, I was in complicated OB, on an Air Force Base, and never saw the same OB 2x in a row. When I went in two weeks after that first test, that attending OB had me repeat the SAME test. When I asked what the first one showed, his response was "what first one?"
My daughter was born ONE WEEK premature. They started labor on me to see how my daughter and I would handle it. When the nurse came out and asked if I felt "that"... I had no idea what she was talking about. I felt absolutely nothing... but my daughter's heart stopped beating. At that point, they did an emergency C-section. Like I said, she was ONE WEEK premature. She weighed 3 lbs 3 oz at birth. She spent the next 2 months in the neo-natal intensive care ward. When I brought her home, she barely weighed 5 pounds, and I dressed her in babydoll clothes. At her first checkup, the pediatrician told me she was behind on every measure, but that she'd "catch up" and by the time she started school, those lags would be gone. He was wrong. She's short, but so am I. And yes, I was a premie. I only weighed 4 pounds at birth. That's not such a big deal. But she is "off" mentally, emotionally, and socially. She's completely narcissistic and the whole world revolves around her. To this day, I believe that the issues in the womb left her with these life-long issues. We've been to docs, psychs, etc. I just finally accepted she is who she is and will do as she wants. period.
But that woman's doctor couldn't have been more off the farm if he tried. He lied to that woman. And THAT *should* be illegal. Unfortunately, because we're women, it just doesn't make any difference anymore.
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