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Tree Lady

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44. Hubby and I aren't with family this year

Mon Nov 24, 2025, 11:52 PM

17 hrs ago

So driving to Oregon coast tomorrow and staying with dog at ocean view hotel. Have reservations down the street for dinner Thursday. Looking forward to it. Sitting by the fire at hotel bar reading my book, so much better than trying to figure out what to say to family.

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NEW GOLDEN ERA! Thanksgiving hosts weigh the ethics of CHARGING THEIR GUESTS FOR DINNER. [View all] Miles Archer Yesterday OP

I think it's a good idea myself. Kingofalldems Yesterday #1

+1 leftstreet Yesterday #5

This message was self-deleted by its author Just_Vote_Dem Yesterday #10

. dalton99a Yesterday #2

$9.20 for 10 russet potatoes? Yikes! Diamond_Dog Yesterday #7

My store has an 8 # bag of russets for 3.99 with a loyalty card. Some niyad Yesterday #11

Prices vary a lot throughout the country (n/t) Retrograde 19 hrs ago #42

Having lived all over the country, I am, unsurprisingly, well aware of that. niyad 18 hrs ago #43

Who's paying $21 for a 10 lb frozen turkey? Prairie Gates Yesterday #15

"Pass the hat for our gracious hosts and cooks!" bucolic_frolic Yesterday #3

Or just have a potluck. Dulcinea Yesterday #4

I always cook the turkey, the taters, the turnips, the rolls, and one dessert. Scrivener7 Yesterday #16

Cluelessly rude is putting it mildly. 3catwoman3 Yesterday #31

It was so weird and shocking, I didn't really know how to react in the moment. Scrivener7 Yesterday #32

We always provide the pies Wednesdays Yesterday #21

Exactly! N/t TexasBushwhacker Yesterday #33

yes, yes, yes.... markie Yesterday #35

That is a much more reasonable solution PatSeg 4 hrs ago #50

I have no problem asking people to bring a dish, or wine or whatever. rsdsharp Yesterday #6

AYFKM??? Invite my friends, or be invited, and then tell/be told, "fork over"??? niyad Yesterday #8

Potluck works. Many hands makes light work. SheltieLover Yesterday #13

Or everyone go to a restaurant. Then each pays their share. Wednesdays Yesterday #24

An excellent idea. One year, friends and I went to a T-Day buffet. It was niyad Yesterday #26

Hubby and I aren't with family this year Tree Lady 17 hrs ago #44

Sounds absolutely lovely. Looking forward to pics! niyad 7 hrs ago #46

100% nothing wrong with that, my sister has done that for a few years obamanut2012 Yesterday #9

In lean years, we've done a potluck. Everyone pitch in and bring something to share. Greybnk48 Yesterday #12

Charging your guest is a shitty thing to do. Omnipresent Yesterday #14

Your words are true. chouchou Yesterday #19

If they are being charged, they are customers, not guests. niyad Yesterday #22

Exactly! Omnipresent Yesterday #30

I'd die in my chair if my husband wanted to charge for Thanksgiving dinner. chouchou Yesterday #17

Thankfully, this will be our 32nd year of rejecting Thanksgiving. And, 35 years of booting XMAS. RedWhiteBlueIsRacist Yesterday #18

AMERICA IS GREAT AGAIN Blue Owl Yesterday #20

ok ok ok ...i've got a plan!!! ret5hd Yesterday #23

Brilliant!!! niyad Yesterday #28

Now, why am I thinking of Trump boasting about affordability? Norrrm Yesterday #25

I would think that asking guests to bring a dish would WhiteTara Yesterday #27

Dear Nattering Nabobs of Negativism. Things have never been better. Just compare. usonian Yesterday #29

Ah, spiro. He almost seems normal compared to the current bunch. niyad 7 hrs ago #47

That is rude, rude, rude. mwmisses4289 Yesterday #34

I read about this for wedding receptions too! forthemiddle Yesterday #36

A belated HAPPY 24th DUnniversary to you! niyad 23 hrs ago #38

It IS tacky. If you cannot afford a big wedding dinner, don't do it. niyad 23 hrs ago #41

We did ours for $1200 total. SomewhereInTheMiddle 9 hrs ago #45

Oh I agree PatSeg 4 hrs ago #52

I prefer the old and tried method of cooking a few of the main dishes, and then have everyone bring their special dishes SWBTATTReg 23 hrs ago #37

How absolutely cool is that!!! niyad 23 hrs ago #39

I don't invite people over for events and then charge them. BlueTsunami2018 23 hrs ago #40

If you can't afford the meal Bettie 5 hrs ago #48

If push came to shove, I'd go the potluck route as well. Miles Archer 5 hrs ago #49

Yep, I would be Bettie 4 hrs ago #53

What? rzemanfl 4 hrs ago #51

To me, it's all about the phrasing and the approach. Wednesdays 2 hrs ago #54

It's the Trump Tax NameAlreadyTaken 2 hrs ago #55