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Buddyzbuddy

(2,519 posts)
71. You couldn't possibly have failed her.
Wed Mar 18, 2026, 07:26 PM
Wednesday

Not the person that took her in 10 years ago with the silent promise to take care of her to the best of their ability with the limited knowledge to do so and the person that wrote "But she was the most sweatest, loving little dog one could ever hope to have."

Like most of us who have rescued dogs, unless you're an animal vet, your knowledge is limited by your experiences and advice.
Don't get me started on how many horrendous mistakes I've made with our pet companions but I've learned from each experience that helps each rescued companion that has followed to live a better, happier life. But like you, I carry the guilt of those mistakes and mourned the deep loss of our companions.

I feel great sorrow for the loss you and your family are experiencing.
When the emotional pain has lessened with time, know that Peanut was loved and cared for and knew it. Peanut is the reason you will be better with any future rescues. Thank you for passing on your suggestion. Thank you, Peanut.
Be well, AZ8theist.

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My deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Wednesday #1
I am so sorry for your loss. BlueKota Wednesday #2
My deepest sympathies and condolences. AltairIV Wednesday #3
Dogs are good people Zelda_Orchid Wednesday #4
The best Dave says Wednesday #22
Oh AZ8theist, you didn't fail her. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. femmedem Wednesday #5
You did not fail her malaise Wednesday #6
Dear Peanut, cross gently over the Rainbow Bridge FakeNoose Wednesday #7
Crossing The Rainbow Bridge by Stella Violano George McGovern Wednesday #8
I LOVE that!! 70sEraVet Wednesday #10
Oh WOW. What a beautiful painting! Tears beginning ..... Diamond_Dog Wednesday #26
I, too, deal with guilt over the death of my last dog. 70sEraVet Wednesday #9
Rest gently Peanut lonely bird Wednesday #11
I'm so sorry AZ8theist, please be kind to yourself today. JMCKUSICK Wednesday #12
I'm so sorry mountain grammy Wednesday #13
My sympathies to you and your clan. Swede Wednesday #14
I am so so very sorry for your loss. irisblue Wednesday #15
I am so sorry. LoisB Wednesday #16
Lady of the Beasts, please take your little Peanut gently home in Your niyad Wednesday #17
Condolences gademocrat7 Wednesday #18
I'm so sorry for your loss. You did not fail her. Phoenix61 Wednesday #19
I am so sorry get the red out Wednesday #20
Sorry for your loss. Americanme Wednesday #21
You did the right thing you stopped your friend from hurting but that doesn't stop you from feeling the hurt 2. Botany Wednesday #23
What a beautiful girl. StarryNite Wednesday #24
So sorry for your loss. FalloutShelter Wednesday #25
You did not fail her. kellytore Wednesday #27
You gave Peanut a loving home for ten years. That counts for everything. Diamond_Dog Wednesday #28
I'm sorry AZ8theist 😥 Aw Peanut Clouds Passing Wednesday #29
Deepest condolences on the loss of Peanut. virgdem Wednesday #30
My profound condolences to you. kairos12 Wednesday #31
So sorry for your loss, AZ8theist. democrank Wednesday #32
It is hard saying goodbye to a family member LetMyPeopleVote Wednesday #33
So sorry about Peanut. But you didn't fail her. Bluepinky Wednesday #34
Thank you for saying this, Bluepinky EuterpeThelo Wednesday #76
I love everything about your response. Bluepinky Yesterday #81
You may not be a "believer" Mme. Defarge Wednesday #35
My dear AZ8theist, you absolutely, positively did NOT fail your beloved Peanut! First of all, you rescued her! Second, LaMouffette Wednesday #36
Love this, LM. Thanks for sharing and I hope it brings some comfort to the OP. EuterpeThelo Wednesday #77
My deepest condolences for the loss of your husband, EuterpeThelo. I had a visit from my mom the same night she passed. LaMouffette 19 hrs ago #84
Thanks, LM. EuterpeThelo 18 hrs ago #85
Very sorry for your loss of Peanut. Prairie_Seagull Wednesday #37
I am so sorry, AZ8theist. My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope Wednesday #38
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Such a sweet face PatSeg Wednesday #41
Peanut was beautiful dog 🐕😍 MustLoveBeagles Wednesday #42
Dear AZ8theist, You did not fail Peanut Grim Chieftain Wednesday #43
rest in peace peanut. i am so sorry for the loss of your fur baby az8theist dawn5651 Wednesday #44
Oh, AZ8theist, the sorrow and overwhelming loss you are feeling is the sure sign that your Peanut had the best and KitFox Wednesday #45
I am so sorry for you Scubamatt Wednesday #46
My heart goes out to you. chowder66 Wednesday #47
Good advice. And same for humans. Dental health affects the rest of the body... CousinIT Wednesday #48
So sorry for your loss - TBF Wednesday #49
We've been there! Lulu KC Wednesday #50
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Wednesday #51
I'm so sorry. area51 Wednesday #52
I'm so sorry for your loss of sweet Peanut. My sympathy livetohike Wednesday #53
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I am so sorry cate94 Wednesday #55
Oh no leftstreet Wednesday #56
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I'm So Sorry NEOH Wednesday #63
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I'm so sorry! redwitch Wednesday #66
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Nothing prepares us for the loss of a loved one. 💧💔 littlemissmartypants Wednesday #68
I am so sorry for your loss! debsy Wednesday #69
You loved her, you didn't fail her Raine Wednesday #70
You couldn't possibly have failed her. Buddyzbuddy Wednesday #71
I am so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Wednesday #72
This was a big help to me the last time we went through this. Abolishinist Wednesday #73
I spent $4,000 on my Chihuahua's teeth BigmanPigman Wednesday #74
I'm so sorry, AZ8theist. We are still not over missing our little guy, Buddy. He was the best. summer_in_TX Wednesday #75
It's normal tp blame yourself in your grief. soldierant Wednesday #78
You loved that dog, you didn't fail it. Give yourself a break, losing a dog is tough enough. dem4decades Wednesday #79
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Very sad Old Crank Yesterday #82
I'm so sorry for your loss wendyb-NC 21 hrs ago #83
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