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In reply to the discussion: So last night I told my oldest sister not to contact me anymore [View all]Hekate
(90,740 posts)>Sigh<
My sister, who does not like being a go-between in quarrels, told me that as a cautionary tale a number of years ago. Our youngest brother hurt me badly when our mother died 6 years ago -- I mean staying up all night weeping in a motel room badly -- and because we live 200 miles from each other, it's not like we could gradually get used to seeing each other again at the grocery store and gas station. At one point I told my sister I'd tried 6 times by my count to reconnect and had been rebuffed, and I could name each time. That's when she told me about Irish Alzheimer's. Big flashing warning sign for me.
We finally did have a reconnect at my son's wedding last fall, and I now hope things will be much better in the future.
I never dream about my family, but just before my brother's 56th birthday this month I dreamed of him. (We were at an open house, and he looked preoccupied.) I decided to send him an email birthday card, and said something like, I hope you and your family are well, and I dreamed about you last night. He wrote back and said that the night I dreamed of him he came very close to wrecking his car, but that he was okay... I got chills; I just got them again.
Let it go, Lion Heart. She needs to come to her senses -- you are right. Let that temper of yours cool off, and just vow that you and she are not going to discuss politics any more. At all. Family, on the whole, is too important.
It may take years, but just make sure you don't get Irish Alzheimer's in the meantime.
Hekate
PS: Have a lovely wedding!