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BainsBane

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5. Exactly

Reply to hrmjustin (Reply #4)

Sun Jul 13, 2014, 08:01 PM

Jul 2014

Diminishing the experience of rape victims is part of the propagation of rape culture.

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How would you feel? [View all] BainsBane Jul 2014 OP

Also today someone posted about disheartening it is to not be able to get djean111 Jul 2014 #1

Yep, that's exactly the sort of thing BainsBane Jul 2014 #2

My take-away was that not being happy about one's job situation reflects poorly on djean111 Jul 2014 #3

I just read it and it pissed me off! hrmjustin Jul 2014 #4

Exactly BainsBane Jul 2014 #5

It remind me of this winter when a new member of my congregation confided in me her story. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #6

true that. true... that. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #14

Just a few BainsBane Jul 2014 #48

Men want to diminish the impact of sexual crimes against women. MohRokTah Jul 2014 #7

Please define "many" with a percentage you bulieve to be true. HERVEPA Jul 2014 #28

Really? F4lconF16 Jul 2014 #31

Yeh, really. HERVEPA Jul 2014 #42

Google it BainsBane Jul 2014 #43

Bullshit on my not knowing what's being discussed. HERVEPA Jul 2014 #44

I thought I'd give you the benefit of the doubt. BainsBane Jul 2014 #45

Doesn't that qualify as "language policing?" Does "language policing" only happen when feminists Squinch Jul 2014 #52

I think we know the criies about censorship BainsBane Jul 2014 #72

Which must be censored. Squinch Jul 2014 #73

Absolutely BainsBane Jul 2014 #74

Ugh. I know. And this makes me absolutely sick. smirkymonkey Jul 2014 #36

k&r. While perhaps gross numbers are down, it demeans individuals when that is posted in stories uppityperson Jul 2014 #8

One victim is one victim too many. dawg Jul 2014 #9

Well said BainsBane Jul 2014 #10

That's how I feel about hot car deaths of children and pets... Phentex Jul 2014 #57

Thank you for articulating why certain posts in that thread made me (and others) uncomfortable. n/t nomorenomore08 Jul 2014 #11

If you're going to get all meta, how about including a link? Link here. Electric Monk Jul 2014 #12

You've seen it plenty of times in gun threads BainsBane Jul 2014 #15

Yes, I see the similarities too, and both examples show someones true agenda. Electric Monk Jul 2014 #18

You know I couldn't do that BainsBane Jul 2014 #19

it is addressing rape, rape culture, and how discussion on rape culture is derailed. seabeyond Jul 2014 #16

I don't think you know what meta means, but you sure like to throw jabs. Electric Monk Jul 2014 #17

i dont want to play so i will leave it at, thank you for the welcome back. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #20

It happens repeatedly. sheshe2 Jul 2014 #23

Here is how I interpret such responses. DURHAM D Jul 2014 #13

I guess it is also alert worthy FreedRadical Jul 2014 #21

It would depend on whether or not the incident is also an argument for el_bryanto Jul 2014 #22

"What you do to them you do to me." J rickyhall Jul 2014 #24

You clarified this perfectly for me earlier when you said in reference to something else: freshwest Jul 2014 #25

Yes, and I think that is especially relevant to the rape issue BainsBane Jul 2014 #41

+1 JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #56

+1 redqueen Jul 2014 #58

"There is nothing progressive or liberal about it" AMEN Number23 Jul 2014 #70

At least annoyed. elleng Jul 2014 #26

It's arrogant and rude to diminish someone's LibDemAlways Jul 2014 #27

Sorry that you had to experience that. conservaphobe Jul 2014 #29

Unfortunately, it happens virtually every time BainsBane Jul 2014 #49

F*** Statistics! MarianJack Jul 2014 #30

Not to mention that the "statistics" referenced F4lconF16 Jul 2014 #33

This is, of course, completely true. But the other point about the statistics is that we all Squinch Jul 2014 #55

Maybe she was asking for it, the way impoverished families are asking for it. Orrex Jul 2014 #32

And the way 6-year-olds from central and south America are asking for it by crossing our borders Squinch Jul 2014 #54

Exactly! Orrex Jul 2014 #59

People like that pull out numbers when it suits them. liberalmuse Jul 2014 #34

Isn't that the truth BainsBane Jul 2014 #35

+1000 smirkymonkey Jul 2014 #37

K&R! smirkymonkey Jul 2014 #38

I live in Louisiana... New Orleans Strong Jul 2014 #39

I'm so sorry BainsBane Jul 2014 #40

Another side of this is ideology that diminishes the desperation of those who seek solutions. freshwest Jul 2014 #46

Good point BainsBane Jul 2014 #47

kick BainsBane Jul 2014 #50

kick & recommended. William769 Jul 2014 #51

The percentages are down, and yet STILL one in four women is assaulted in her lifetime. Squinch Jul 2014 #53

Not to mention rape statistics are notoriously unreliable BainsBane Jul 2014 #60

That's true. And 'domestic violence' has literally been de-criminalized in some states. freshwest Jul 2014 #63

Seriously, this makes me feel nauseous. When people talk about how feminists are too Squinch Jul 2014 #71

is this analogous to science diminishing the personal anecdote ... ? Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #61

Can you give an example? BainsBane Jul 2014 #62

I rather think you just did. If, I am understanding correctly what is happening here. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #64

Yes, I guess you're right BainsBane Jul 2014 #67

and this kinds of feeds of itself because we doubt the numerical truth of the stats Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #68

No. /nt yardwork Jul 2014 #65

indubitably. eom Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #66

On an inter-personal level, what I describe in the OP is what therapists call BainsBane Jul 2014 #69