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akbacchus_BC

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30. Good advice, but unfortunately, it does not work for everyone!

Wed Apr 29, 2015, 12:39 AM

Apr 2015

I know from first hand and this is the first time I will share this on DU. My son, he will always be my son but he is my son-in-law, took his life on December 2, 2014 and none of us saw that coming.

The thing is, young people these days think they can solve all their problems and never tell their parents how they are feeling. To me, we have to tell our children that no matter how you are feeling, you can talk to your parents. But they don't.

And we feel guilty as you wonder what were the signs, but there were no signs. Which makes it even worst!

Everyday, you try to be normal but you could never be normal because the pain of losing a loved one is so huge.

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If you are feeling suicidal..... [View all] steve2470 Apr 2015 OP

Always a worthwhile message - thanks for sharing - nt el_bryanto Apr 2015 #1

my pleasure! nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #70

Off to the greatest page. KMOD Apr 2015 #2

K&R Terra Alta Apr 2015 #3

While this is generally good advice, HeiressofBickworth Apr 2015 #4

yes, of course steve2470 Apr 2015 #5

I interpret the OP, "if you are feeling suicidal" SheilaT Apr 2015 #18

yes, exactly steve2470 Apr 2015 #20

Wish I could Rec this a million times. NuclearDem Apr 2015 #6

thanks :) nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #66

it is highly unlikely that you will be "locked up" mopinko Apr 2015 #7

excellent post, thank you nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #8

I lost my brother to suicide. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #9

........ steve2470 Apr 2015 #10

Thank you so very much, steve. sheshe2 Apr 2015 #13

I hope that nevers happens to you again and... steve2470 Apr 2015 #15

You know something steve... sheshe2 Apr 2015 #16

God bless his soul... steve2470 Apr 2015 #21

So sorry to hear that, she treestar Apr 2015 #75

Sheshe, am so sorry for your loss! akbacchus_BC Apr 2015 #32

akbacchus... sheshe2 Apr 2015 #34

ok, I was not a shrink but.... steve2470 Apr 2015 #11

I've been having some suicidal ideation lately. It's very low level and as of right now I feel Ed Suspicious Apr 2015 #12

yes, please get help asap nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #14

Are there any circumstances where someone would admit to having a thought, no matter how fleeting, Ed Suspicious Apr 2015 #17

nope steve2470 Apr 2015 #19

O.K. Thank you. I'll schedule something. It can't hurt. I'm trying to decide if I should delete Ed Suspicious Apr 2015 #23

please leave them, they will help someone else, trust me steve2470 Apr 2015 #24

Ed, even if you cannot afford counselling, try to talk akbacchus_BC Apr 2015 #35

Ed, you still there? akbacchus_BC Apr 2015 #46

I'm here and I'm fine. Thank you though for the kindness and the generosity. Ed Suspicious Apr 2015 #83

It will become a serious problem if you have a plan on how, where and when you are going to StarzGuy Apr 2015 #40

excellent post, thank you nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #64

It is my understanding, although this may vary from state to state, SheilaT Apr 2015 #22

I hope he will go talk to a professional steve2470 Apr 2015 #25

I told him that. I told him that his father and I can help out financially. SheilaT Apr 2015 #31

I wish your son the very best steve2470 Apr 2015 #67

K&R Quackers Apr 2015 #26

yes, correct, hope you are doing well nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #27

Thank you Quackers Apr 2015 #28

I've had years to think about 'checking out.' xfundy Apr 2015 #29

Being old and sick is quite different. SheilaT Apr 2015 #33

Old and sick are relative terms. xfundy Apr 2015 #37

Good advice, but unfortunately, it does not work for everyone! akbacchus_BC Apr 2015 #30

So many of us go through life without ever telling anyone SheilaT Apr 2015 #36

Dear Sheila, Thank you so much for your kind words. akbacchus_BC Apr 2015 #42

Thank you for sharing. Lobo27 Apr 2015 #39

Thank you for sharing your tragedy with me. akbacchus_BC Apr 2015 #43

so sorry to hear, and sadly enough, your situation is very typical steve2470 Apr 2015 #85

.......... steve2470 Apr 2015 #68

Suicide is so horrible. I wish we could help everyone who was leaning towards it. Lobo27 Apr 2015 #38

The pain is unimaginable. xfundy Apr 2015 #41

It is really unimaginable regarding the pain! akbacchus_BC Apr 2015 #44

I'm talking about the pain of depression. xfundy Apr 2015 #49

I think getting a hobby or passion can help ErikJ Apr 2015 #45

Erik, maybe am reading you wrong, but how akbacchus_BC Apr 2015 #47

Volunteering? ErikJ Apr 2015 #48

A hobby?!? xfundy Apr 2015 #50

Yes, might sound trivial but outside passions can work. ErikJ Apr 2015 #56

It's a crutch. jeff47 Apr 2015 #76

Having some sort of interest outside of yourself SheilaT Apr 2015 #79

there are many reasons for and many facets of suicide Duppers Apr 2015 #81

This thread exemplifies why survivors rarely get it. xfundy Apr 2015 #51

I get it steve2470 Apr 2015 #58

Last time I was honest about such feelings I was locked up Dragonfli Apr 2015 #52

+100000000 xfundy Apr 2015 #54

best wishes to you! nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #65

thank for this thread gwheezie Apr 2015 #53

What if your home was taken from you? xfundy Apr 2015 #55

most of the people I see are homeless gwheezie Apr 2015 #69

I am really glad you came to this thread steve2470 Apr 2015 #71

excellent post, thank you! nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #57

Your children are more likely to commit DiverDave Apr 2015 #59

thank you for this info, hope you are well nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #60

Yes, better DiverDave Apr 2015 #61

Three generations on my husband's side... ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #72

since you are acutely aware of this, I think your son will be ok steve2470 Apr 2015 #77

I find this a good page: woo me with science Apr 2015 #62

good page, thanks! nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #63

I used to tell my husband to call me/tell me no matter what... ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #73

Not just a good thread. A potentially LIFE-SAVING thread. calimary Apr 2015 #74

thanks :) nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #78

very last bump nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #80

K&R! smirkymonkey Apr 2015 #82

kick Liberal_in_LA Apr 2015 #84