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Attilatheblond

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4. Give Broccoli (and yourself) time. But make sure he is drinking water and eating at least a little
Mon Sep 15, 2025, 06:04 PM
Sep 15

Might be good to have several water bowls around the house, especially in your bedroom if that is where he is spending most of his time. Keep food bowl away from water bowl is the advice I always got re cats, and it does seem like they will drink more water when the water is not where their food bowl is.

Just keep an eye on him. Lots of loves, which will help both of you. Some cats do grieve, they have feelings, but most come around after a bit. Just make sure he is drinking water and at least nibbling some food. Talk to him, let him know you are sad too. Pamper him a little, and be VERY kind to yourself. After all the time you lavished excellent care on sweet Gus, it's a big loss for you. Don't feel guilty about Gus' passing. It happens and throwing a clot would not give any warning, there was nothing you could have done to save sweet Gus.

They don't live long enough and they leave with part of our hearts. Sending you cyber hugs and pats for Broccoli and Violet. If there was a blanket or such that Gus spent time on, keep it available to Broccoli. The scent of his brother may help ease the transition of life without him.

But make sure he's drinking water. That is really important. A little chicken broth, low sodium type, might be good if you see he isn't drinking as much as usual.

Keep us posted. Lots of people here care. Know we would share your pain if we could so you wouldn't feel so much right now.

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I'm very sorry for your loss. LuckyCharms Sep 15 #1
Thank you Mossfern Sep 15 #7
So sorry montanacowboy Sep 15 #2
So very sorry for your loss. quaint Sep 15 #3
Give Broccoli (and yourself) time. But make sure he is drinking water and eating at least a little Attilatheblond Sep 15 #4
Thank you for giving me such understanding advice. Mossfern Sep 15 #9
Your inner wisdom is serving you and the cat kids well Attilatheblond Sep 15 #19
Cats usually homegirl Sep 15 #22
Another kitty? That's what I'd do and let them eventually bond.. chouchou Sep 15 #5
I'm so sorry for your loss. mzmolly Sep 15 #6
Broccoli and I have been having conversations about it. Mossfern Sep 15 #11
Has he viewed the body ? That seems to help them understand that their friend is "gone", in a different way ... eppur_se_muova Sep 15 #8
He was present before we went to the vet Mossfern Sep 15 #10
Even humans do not always accept a death until they attend the funeral. Animals may show the same behavior. eppur_se_muova Sep 15 #12
Gus was euthanized at the vet Mossfern Sep 15 #13
Seems to be some mistunderstanding -- I'm just suggesting he be allowed to view the body. eppur_se_muova Sep 15 #14
My kitty Samson suffered mightily when his littermate BMO died. Nanuke Sep 15 #15
I'm so sorry about Gus. Solly Mack Sep 15 #16
Animals grieve Keepthesoulalive Sep 15 #17
You can find calming cat music on You Tube Marthe48 Sep 15 #18
You can't rush grief or mitigate it. LuvLoogie Sep 15 #20
I'm sorry cate94 Sep 15 #21
Deeply sorry for your loss. AltairIV Sep 15 #23
Know how you feel...just lost my kitty a couple of weeks ago. I'm the "cat lady" allegorical oracle Sep 15 #24
My answer would be "time." My cats are still mourning the loss of my GS and it has been a year. nt in2herbs Sep 15 #25
Just Let The Kitty Mourn ProfessorGAC Sep 15 #26
I am so sorry for the loss of Gus. LoisB Sep 15 #27
We had a Tom-like cat who fathered 3 kittens Jarqui Sep 15 #28
So sorry for the loss you and your fur babies are going thru, Mossfern. pazzyanne Sep 15 #29
I'm so sorry that you lost Gus Wicked Blue Sep 15 #30
Do you have any video recordings of Gus? Or would that make things worse? xuplate Sep 15 #31
My kids are compiling a photo album Mossfern Sep 15 #33
I'm sorry for your loss, Mossfern. I don't have any advice for you. 70sEraVet Sep 15 #32
Thank you for posting your sad story. I am so sorry for your tragic loss. Fla Dem Sep 16 #34
I never grieved so damn hard as I did when my beloved Marvy died. CTyankee Sep 16 #35
Gus 😿 Clouds Passing Sep 16 #36
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