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mzmolly

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6. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Reply to Mossfern (Original post)

Mon Sep 15, 2025, 06:11 PM

Sep 15

I had a similar situation recently with our beloved tabby. She passed away with what was thought a brain tumor. Her cat brother is mourning by being very clingy and her dog sister, looked for her and sniffs the spot where she rested before going to the ER.

I've been saying the name of our cat while talking to our pets. Letting them know that we understand they also miss her. The seem to pick up a bit and while it may sound crazy, they appear to understand that we know why their grieving.

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I'm coming here for advice/support, don't know where to turn [View all] Mossfern Sep 15 OP

I'm very sorry for your loss. LuckyCharms Sep 15 #1

Thank you Mossfern Sep 15 #7

So sorry montanacowboy Sep 15 #2

So very sorry for your loss. quaint Sep 15 #3

Give Broccoli (and yourself) time. But make sure he is drinking water and eating at least a little Attilatheblond Sep 15 #4

Thank you for giving me such understanding advice. Mossfern Sep 15 #9

Your inner wisdom is serving you and the cat kids well Attilatheblond Sep 15 #19

Cats usually homegirl Sep 15 #22

Another kitty? That's what I'd do and let them eventually bond.. chouchou Sep 15 #5

I'm so sorry for your loss. mzmolly Sep 15 #6

Broccoli and I have been having conversations about it. Mossfern Sep 15 #11

Has he viewed the body ? That seems to help them understand that their friend is "gone", in a different way ... eppur_se_muova Sep 15 #8

He was present before we went to the vet Mossfern Sep 15 #10

Even humans do not always accept a death until they attend the funeral. Animals may show the same behavior. eppur_se_muova Sep 15 #12

Gus was euthanized at the vet Mossfern Sep 15 #13

Seems to be some mistunderstanding -- I'm just suggesting he be allowed to view the body. eppur_se_muova Sep 15 #14

My kitty Samson suffered mightily when his littermate BMO died. Nanuke Sep 15 #15

I'm so sorry about Gus. Solly Mack Sep 15 #16

Animals grieve Keepthesoulalive Sep 15 #17

You can find calming cat music on You Tube Marthe48 Sep 15 #18

You can't rush grief or mitigate it. LuvLoogie Sep 15 #20

I'm sorry cate94 Sep 15 #21

Deeply sorry for your loss. AltairIV Sep 15 #23

Know how you feel...just lost my kitty a couple of weeks ago. I'm the "cat lady" allegorical oracle Sep 15 #24

My answer would be "time." My cats are still mourning the loss of my GS and it has been a year. nt in2herbs Sep 15 #25

Just Let The Kitty Mourn ProfessorGAC Sep 15 #26

I am so sorry for the loss of Gus. LoisB Sep 15 #27

We had a Tom-like cat who fathered 3 kittens Jarqui Sep 15 #28

So sorry for the loss you and your fur babies are going thru, Mossfern. pazzyanne Sep 15 #29

I'm so sorry that you lost Gus Wicked Blue Sep 15 #30

Do you have any video recordings of Gus? Or would that make things worse? xuplate Sep 15 #31

My kids are compiling a photo album Mossfern Sep 15 #33

I'm sorry for your loss, Mossfern. I don't have any advice for you. 70sEraVet Sep 15 #32

Thank you for posting your sad story. I am so sorry for your tragic loss. Fla Dem Sep 16 #34

I never grieved so damn hard as I did when my beloved Marvy died. CTyankee Sep 16 #35

Gus 😿 Clouds Passing Sep 16 #36