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Jarqui

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28. We had a Tom-like cat who fathered 3 kittens

Mon Sep 15, 2025, 08:20 PM

Sep 15

We wound up keeping one of the kittens
They became very close.

One day, a neighbor beat the young cat, his son, to death because it left a little bit of its fur on their basement windowsill.
We let his father see him before getting him cremated. We felt it was important - that he just not disappear and leave the father wondering and looking.

The father went beside our house outside and howled all day for 2-3 weeks. I never expected that nor had realized the extent of the bond they had.

Eventually, we tried to get another kitten as a companion to fill the void but it wasn't the same. They didn't get along that well. We eventually had to get rid of that young cat as it became hostile to our young children.

We did everything we could but the father never really got completely over it - just like people.
Having said that, I'm sure our efforts helped some to ease his emotional pain.

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I'm coming here for advice/support, don't know where to turn [View all] Mossfern Sep 15 OP

I'm very sorry for your loss. LuckyCharms Sep 15 #1

Thank you Mossfern Sep 15 #7

So sorry montanacowboy Sep 15 #2

So very sorry for your loss. quaint Sep 15 #3

Give Broccoli (and yourself) time. But make sure he is drinking water and eating at least a little Attilatheblond Sep 15 #4

Thank you for giving me such understanding advice. Mossfern Sep 15 #9

Your inner wisdom is serving you and the cat kids well Attilatheblond Sep 15 #19

Cats usually homegirl Sep 15 #22

Another kitty? That's what I'd do and let them eventually bond.. chouchou Sep 15 #5

I'm so sorry for your loss. mzmolly Sep 15 #6

Broccoli and I have been having conversations about it. Mossfern Sep 15 #11

Has he viewed the body ? That seems to help them understand that their friend is "gone", in a different way ... eppur_se_muova Sep 15 #8

He was present before we went to the vet Mossfern Sep 15 #10

Even humans do not always accept a death until they attend the funeral. Animals may show the same behavior. eppur_se_muova Sep 15 #12

Gus was euthanized at the vet Mossfern Sep 15 #13

Seems to be some mistunderstanding -- I'm just suggesting he be allowed to view the body. eppur_se_muova Sep 15 #14

My kitty Samson suffered mightily when his littermate BMO died. Nanuke Sep 15 #15

I'm so sorry about Gus. Solly Mack Sep 15 #16

Animals grieve Keepthesoulalive Sep 15 #17

You can find calming cat music on You Tube Marthe48 Sep 15 #18

You can't rush grief or mitigate it. LuvLoogie Sep 15 #20

I'm sorry cate94 Sep 15 #21

Deeply sorry for your loss. AltairIV Sep 15 #23

Know how you feel...just lost my kitty a couple of weeks ago. I'm the "cat lady" allegorical oracle Sep 15 #24

My answer would be "time." My cats are still mourning the loss of my GS and it has been a year. nt in2herbs Sep 15 #25

Just Let The Kitty Mourn ProfessorGAC Sep 15 #26

I am so sorry for the loss of Gus. LoisB Sep 15 #27

We had a Tom-like cat who fathered 3 kittens Jarqui Sep 15 #28

So sorry for the loss you and your fur babies are going thru, Mossfern. pazzyanne Sep 15 #29

I'm so sorry that you lost Gus Wicked Blue Sep 15 #30

Do you have any video recordings of Gus? Or would that make things worse? xuplate Sep 15 #31

My kids are compiling a photo album Mossfern Sep 15 #33

I'm sorry for your loss, Mossfern. I don't have any advice for you. 70sEraVet Sep 15 #32

Thank you for posting your sad story. I am so sorry for your tragic loss. Fla Dem Sep 16 #34

I never grieved so damn hard as I did when my beloved Marvy died. CTyankee Sep 16 #35

Gus 😿 Clouds Passing Sep 16 #36