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In reply to the discussion: Game of Thrones 7.3 "The Queen's Justice" (spoiler alert) [View all]politicat
(9,808 posts)Which works on a lot of people, but is the absolute wrong tactic in this case. She's always done this, back to S1, but once she's comfortable with someone, she unwinds, but she's extremely well aware that most men will take anything other than full dominance as complete submission, and take hundreds of miles for the fraction of an inch of concession offered.
It's a not uncommon coping strategy for women in general. Culturally, we notice it and call it arrogance when we see a woman doing it, but don't do the same when it's a dude. And dudes do do it -- it's the war cry of the entitled white man: Don't you know who I am?!?!
In this specific case, she would have been far better off meeting Jon and Davos in a small room, without all the trappings, and start laying out cards, but she had no way of knowing that. So she behaved as expected and in the way that has served her best. And she learned from it -- she knew it was failing even as she was doing it, and shifting strategies. The second meeting went far better; she didn't do the one followup she should have. When he gave her that relieved and grateful thank you, her followup should have been okay, we're having supper, and you're going to explain everything you know. This is your opportunity to convince me.