With the prognosis was greater than 6 months to 5 years lifespan and that she would continue to recover and was in no danger of suddenly dying. 3 days later she did. I had called a family meeting to meeting with 2 hours notice including the clinic physician colleague on call and argued that Mom was not strong enough to be moved that day, (with very, very good reasons, I had been with her all morning) and I was told I was being unreasonable.
The family clinic found out that Mom had died when I wrote my "I told you so letter, please do better for other families" letter. A week later I received directions from the hospital what I would have needed to do that day to keep my Mom an extra couple days to regain strength. The transpiration company had come early and the attendants was pacing outside the door waiting to take Mom to the nursing home while we were discussing Mom's move and my family not having been personally involved in end of life decisions thought it was awfully rude and presumptuous of me to argue with a doctor (who had seen Mom for the first time that day.)
My family apologized. The hospital and clinic did not.
I am glad that my Mom did not suffer but she still had plans and the rest of the family felt they had been denied the chance to spend time with Mom at the end because of a disconnected system of treat them and street them.
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