Can we discuss the issue of boycotts of states?

[theHandpuppet]

I'm still torn on the matter of the Olympic boycott (purely from the standpoint of what would be the most effective way to protest) but that's not the type of boycott I want to discuss in this thread.
For years I've advocated boycotting states that pass gay-hating legislation and instead rewarding those which have shown support for equality. It's been quite some time since I actually brought up the subject, because the last time I did (on GD) I was literally ripped up one side and down the other as if I were a raw steak among a pack of pit bulls. I was going to direct folks to the thread in question but it appears the advance search feature is overloaded at the moment. Anyway...
My partner and I have decided, after 23 years together, to marry. I guess she's had long enough time to change her mind. <grin> We'll be travelling to New Hampshire next year, where we plan to also spend time exploring the state and its surrounds, for we may wish to also retire there. We had hoped to retire to Ohio to be close to family, but Ohio's gay-hating laws make that simply impossible.
Being frugal in preparation for retirement, we have for years deprived ourselves of vacations and mutually agreed that when the time came we would only spend our money in a state that was GLBT-friendly. When we have free time we take leisurely drives to Maryland (very GLBT-friendly) but for our very-belated honeymoon we'd like to visit New England.
I'd like to know if any of you here boycott states hostile to its GLBT citizens and if you don't, why? I believe in economically supporting our allies and I'd rather set my hair on fire than spend a penny of vacation money in some gay-hating state, many of which are considered traditional vacation spots.
I have to tell you honestly, it's really hard for me to reconcile asking young people to boycott the Moscow Olympics if we in the GLBT community aren't willing to boycott right here at home.