and how it is later used as a weapon and control against the woman.
wife says no to sex, a husband grabs laptop, does porn in bed next to her, and inevitably she has sex. he brags he knows how to get sex. she, what? resents it.
a wife that doesnt care, later has a calendar of womans legs spread in kitchen to shame and control her with little kids wandering around. divorced.
a wife that is into it, her and hubby fighting, he pulls some out to jab at her, with me sitting there and then when hubby comes into room, throws at him to have him be a part of his game. hubby is pissed.
a very young woman who swears she loves porn and going to strip club with hubby, never reaches orgasm, is commanded to bj him when she walks into house (down on knees b*tch), and has no respect in a relationship they have had for years. totally messed up
my niece, very young, married to a young man, totally addicted to porn. participated with him until she couldnt figure out how she was supposed to get off watching gang rape (since she had been raped), and him nagging her to go to strip bars and watch him get off on other women. finding him getting up in mornings watching his porn to get off, without her. and her not getting it. totally turned her around on porn. she divorced him. after a separation he said he wouldnt use it. now he whines he has lost family. she refuses to date a man that does porn or goes to strip bars.
the only time porn has been brought into my life is when there has been issues with it. i am sure there are people that use it in a healthy, fun, mutual play. i dont know them. thumbs up to them. has it become a crutch for their sex life? a quick and easy getting off without connection? or just a fun and occasional form of stimulation?
that is not the point of the issue. not everyone and not every relationship is harmed by porn. a lot of them are. if we are going to talk about how ok porn is, surely we can address how it has become a big issue in relationships, marriages and individual lives.
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