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FakeNoose

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34. I don't want to sound judgmental but ...

Reply to bif (Original post)

Fri Nov 28, 2025, 05:13 PM

Friday

... shouldn't your wife have taken some of the responsibility in seeing that her family was kept under control? For that matter, the two of you could have discussed it ahead of time and planned on a course of action. I'm guessing she must realize the difficulty this family get-together is for you. Maybe there's a way you can ask her to be your partner so that the burden is not all on you.

I'm sorry you had to go through this. It couldn't have been enjoyable for you. However you did succeed in getting through it with your resolve intact.

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Thanksgiving was tougher that I thought it would be [View all] bif Friday OP

Can't believe your family would do that! jmbar2 Friday #1

Sorry you had a difficult day yesterday democrank Friday #2

You did it! Proud of you! ZDU Friday #3

Congratulations, well done, in a difficult situation. enough Friday #4

I'm proud of you, Bif, for your awareness & for removing yourself SheltieLover Friday #5

You showed great courage keeping yourself apart from it. Diamond_Dog Friday #6

Well done. NewHendoLib Friday #7

Excellent! mdbl Friday #8

Good job not drinking Farmer-Rick Friday #9

You did well WmChris Friday #10

My hat is off to you. Hope22 Friday #11

You showed incredible strength and resolve Grim Chieftain Friday #12

So glad you got thru it. My addiction was cigarettes Joinfortmill Friday #13

Congratulations Big, JMCKUSICK Friday #14

... Clouds Passing Friday #15

The real point is that you shouldn't have had to. justaprogressive Friday #16

My friend's uncle had to really put his foot down over this. cab67 Friday #19

I have such empathy for you in that situation because I've been there. llmart Friday #17

That last sentence really hit home for me, too. Collimator Friday #25

Congratulations!!! We'll be in that situation at Christmas w/ my husband's family for the first time ever. RamblingRose Friday #18

I stopped cold turkey on February 17, 1995. 634-5789 Friday #20

Stay encouraged, bif. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Friday #21

Good for you! Yah, that's got to be difficult. nt Exp Friday #22

There's no way I'm going to tell people not to drink bif Friday #23

I came to love NA beer for things like this IbogaProject Friday #24

I did have a Good Times IPA last night bif Friday #26

Anything except O'Douls and Bud Zero are ok to good IbogaProject Friday #27

Heinekin Zero is also excellent bif Friday #28

My sister died of alcoholism pfitz59 Friday #29

Congratulations on making it through that bif. I'm sure KPN Friday #30

My BF's son is having an alcohol problem right now AKwannabe Friday #31

It's sad that holidays require you to be a superhero soldierant Friday #32

The single most important thing to remember is that you didn't drink. MissouriDem47 Friday #33

I don't want to sound judgmental but ... FakeNoose Friday #34

I don't think that's what he wants. LisaM Friday #35

The "alcohol gene" seems to be a real disposition to becoming adicted. I hope more is researched. RFK will be on it. Evolve Dammit Friday #36

I must have the mirror image of that gene DFW Saturday #43

It's great you never missed it! Evolve Dammit Saturday #44

I Recently Joined A Group For Help In Recovery. I Commend You... ColoringFool Friday #37

This message was self-deleted by its author Stacey Grove Friday #38

Congratulations on getting through Thanksgiving. Keep taking those timeouts. SunSeeker Friday #39

Kudos to you MustLoveBeagles Friday #40

You did the right thing, getting away from it, even if only for brief periods. calimary Friday #41

hey you did great Skittles Saturday #42

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