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Mental Health Support

FreepFryer

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2. I'll just add - hope you two can read, educate and start to make a change - together.

Reply to FreepFryer (Reply #1)

Wed Feb 2, 2022, 06:56 AM

Feb 2022

It’s more than just her in this, you are a couple - so make sure to take equal responsibility for the solution throughout and not isolate or resent her for what you may feel is her fault or condition alone.

Whatever the reality, “We need help with this” is much more likely to result in you two being able to accomplish a change than “You need help with this.”

Good luck!

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My wife is a major hoarder and I need suggestions on how to proceed [View all] exboyfil Feb 2022 OP

Help resources link FreepFryer Feb 2022 #1

I'll just add - hope you two can read, educate and start to make a change - together. FreepFryer Feb 2022 #2

I am doing my best to not be confrontational or play the blame game exboyfil Feb 2022 #4

It sounds like it - it's impossible to be without negative feelings, honesty & communication is key FreepFryer Feb 2022 #7

it's a mental disorder Skittles Feb 2022 #3

Intellectually she understands it exboyfil Feb 2022 #6

it is very hard on children not to be able to have friends over Skittles Feb 2022 #8

That's rough--I don't have much to offer beyond sympathy, and hoping you can Wingus Dingus Feb 2022 #5

Seek couples therapy SheltieLover Feb 2022 #9

So sorry sfdennis1 Feb 2022 #10

If there were a couple of YouTube videos you personally found particularly helpful & you have time.. hlthe2b Feb 2022 #12

I'm not a hoarder but I do have issues with getting rid of those things with memories... hlthe2b Feb 2022 #11

I wonder how much depression is part of this. 3Hotdogs Feb 2022 #13

make a rule every time you leave the house something has to leave with you Blues Heron Feb 2022 #14