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Mental Health Support

exboyfil

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6. Intellectually she understands it

Reply to Skittles (Reply #3)

Wed Feb 2, 2022, 07:33 AM

Feb 2022

She is into reality television and she does watch the hoarders shows. Emotionally on the other hand - I can't answer that. My youngest who is a mental health nurse has some thoughts on it, and it goes back to how she was treated by her family growing up (fourth out of four). I admit I wasn't the best husband to her early in our marriage (I grew up in a violent and abusive family, but I have never physically struck or grabbed my wife). I have always been faithful to her, and I do my best not to gossip and criticize her to others.

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My wife is a major hoarder and I need suggestions on how to proceed [View all] exboyfil Feb 2022 OP

Help resources link FreepFryer Feb 2022 #1

I'll just add - hope you two can read, educate and start to make a change - together. FreepFryer Feb 2022 #2

I am doing my best to not be confrontational or play the blame game exboyfil Feb 2022 #4

It sounds like it - it's impossible to be without negative feelings, honesty & communication is key FreepFryer Feb 2022 #7

it's a mental disorder Skittles Feb 2022 #3

Intellectually she understands it exboyfil Feb 2022 #6

it is very hard on children not to be able to have friends over Skittles Feb 2022 #8

That's rough--I don't have much to offer beyond sympathy, and hoping you can Wingus Dingus Feb 2022 #5

Seek couples therapy SheltieLover Feb 2022 #9

So sorry sfdennis1 Feb 2022 #10

If there were a couple of YouTube videos you personally found particularly helpful & you have time.. hlthe2b Feb 2022 #12

I'm not a hoarder but I do have issues with getting rid of those things with memories... hlthe2b Feb 2022 #11

I wonder how much depression is part of this. 3Hotdogs Feb 2022 #13

make a rule every time you leave the house something has to leave with you Blues Heron Feb 2022 #14