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3. The best therapy is helping others

because helping others lets you see the fault lines in your own reality, helps them and shows you are worth consideration and admiration.

Now spot the fault line in your post.

Firstly, doubt; unnecessary doubt. You have tried to help to the best of your ability and that is good no matter how great or small that ability. The "rightness" or "wrongness" of your action is not down to you it is down to the other accepting or not accepting help.

Second, negativity; where you say you cannot fix your own mess. You don't have to fix it all on your own, there are people who offer help, just as you have offered help.

Thirdly, over regretfulness; I'd love to do many things in my life over again - but I cannot, it is past. All I can do is to try not to make those same mistakes again and not dwell on them to the detriment of my life.

Fourth, fearing the future; if your correspondent is aided, if they respond, that is your doing. If they are not helped, if they do not respond that is their choice - not yours.

You have done a good thing for yourself and for your correspondent.