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OldBaldy1701E

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12. I am always told I am 'too nice'.

Reply to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Mon Nov 6, 2023, 09:43 PM

Nov 2023

And, it is true. The day I decide that my SOP is to not be nice to other people is the day I truly weep for the death of humanity and decency in myself and in the world. I have never seen it as being too nice. I guess it goes like this: Either you behave in a nice way to everyone until they give you reason not to, or you treat everyone like a piece of shit until they prove their worthiness to be recognized by you. The second one goes against the way I was raised. Unfortunately, it does not seem to go against the way some people were raised.

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Anyone people-please? [View all] XanaDUer2 Nov 2023 OP

Everybody wants to please others and seek approval. We are hardwired that way. flying_wahini Nov 2023 #1

I went no contact XanaDUer2 Nov 2023 #4

Congrats! ggma Nov 2023 #2

Congrats XanaDUer2 Nov 2023 #6

You've turned into Larry David. Frasier Balzov Nov 2023 #3

Not sure what that means XanaDUer2 Nov 2023 #5

Sorry, I meant the character he plays. Frasier Balzov Nov 2023 #8

Bravo on your insight Qutzupalotl Nov 2023 #7

Ty for responding! Nt XanaDUer2 Nov 2023 #9

Aw hell yes. A lot of therapy & time irisblue Nov 2023 #10

I went no contact XanaDUer2 Nov 2023 #11

I am always told I am 'too nice'. OldBaldy1701E Nov 2023 #12