in the morning and night to dress or bathe. The reason is it costs the government way more to have seniors living in nursing care facilities than it does to keep people at home and help them a bit. Maybe there is a like program in California.
Also if your wife is going to need a nursing home in the future keep a diary of the ambulance calls. That may bump your wife's priority on a wait list to a nursing home. Ambulance cost the government a lot.
Also there are companies who can put grab bars and poles at strategic places. A bath chair too. A commode. If your wife had a pole to grab onto would she be able to get up from the toilet?
I found I was more catastrophizing than one of our healthcare aides showed up at my parent's hotel (the whole senior's care residence was evacuated due to a fire in a hardware store almost next door - the city evacuated their building because of the toxic chemicals in the hardware store burning). Anyhow I was fussing about Ihow I was going to get my parents into bed from a walker when the mattresses were really high in the hotel room, and then how were they going to get breakfast. I could see all kinds of difficult situations and the health care worker breezed into the hotel room and took over with confidence and ease. I tried to be more like her when i was with my parents.. I belly breathed more.
My sister was the one who solved problems with my parents at the senior living facility. When my mom died and my dad moved into a nursing home, all the problems were solved. I mean there was a solution for any situation that came up. Dad actually enjoyed the nursing home when he moved in. He lived there for 7 years. I had a grandmother who lived in a nursing home for 20 years.
Hope this helps.
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