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LakeArenal

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23. My dad moved to assisted living because he couldn't drive anymore.

Reply to left-of-center2012 (Original post)

Tue Jul 6, 2021, 08:38 PM

Jul 2021

He thought he’d hate it. Instead he liked it very much. I won’t say loved because he thought everyone was too intrusive. Still he played bridge and went to some dances.

He moved there at 90. Died there at 93. Never had to go to a nursing home.

We bless them for the care he was given.

Even if he didn’t eat much, at least we knew he was eating.

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I am moving [View all] left-of-center2012 Jul 2021 OP

I hope that this is a good move for you! MontanaMama Jul 2021 #1

Good for you! leftieNanner Jul 2021 #2

This is very interesting. Tell us how this goes. Scrivener7 Jul 2021 #3

Probably a good idea. Tomconroy Jul 2021 #4

Tommy, you're just the guy I've been wanting to learn from. Specifically about the younger wife plan 3Hotdogs Jul 2021 #21

I just got really lucky. Tomconroy Jul 2021 #24

I hope this goes really well for you. We will look forward to informational reports! Shrike47 Jul 2021 #5

Excellent move! My mother found one of those and for the last 10 years of her life she had... TreasonousBastard Jul 2021 #6

I'm thinking a senior hippie commune might be fun. n/t ariadne0614 Jul 2021 #7

IDEAL! MuseRider Jul 2021 #11

Me too! ariadne0614 Jul 2021 #16

Intentional Communities Lydiarose Oct 2021 #40

Good advice. I will try it. Thanks! n/t ariadne0614 Oct 2021 #43

This message was self-deleted by its author Lydiarose Oct 2021 #44

being 79 and very isolated chillfactor Jul 2021 #8

Good luck! Sounds like an adventure. Desert grandma Jul 2021 #9

It is so scary knowing this is coming. MuseRider Jul 2021 #10

All Faux pas Jul 2021 #12

My mom lived in a place like that for over 15 years and sinkingfeeling Jul 2021 #13

I wish there was a place I_UndergroundPanther Jul 2021 #14

There is an ideal solution, Tomconroy Jul 2021 #17

Again I_UndergroundPanther Jul 2021 #22

"Active Senior Community". Or 55+ Community. marybourg Jul 2021 #38

Attitude is everythiing Sucha NastyWoman Jul 2021 #15

Great advice Sucha MOMFUDSKI Jul 2021 #18

Additude I_UndergroundPanther Jul 2021 #36

I am happy for you! Trueblue Texan Jul 2021 #19

Many years ago my grandmother moved to a place like that. Phoenix61 Jul 2021 #20

My dad moved to assisted living because he couldn't drive anymore. LakeArenal Jul 2021 #23

The trouble with assisted living Tomconroy Jul 2021 #26

We used a company that helps place seniors. LakeArenal Jul 2021 #30

Name of Company? Lydiarose Oct 2021 #39

Don't remember. His lawyer suggested them. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #41

Waaaait for it ... marble falls Oct 2021 #42

Hope it all goes well for you! madamesilverspurs Jul 2021 #25

I'm a 79 yo. gay man so wish me luck in finding a place to move. trickyguy Jul 2021 #27

I just googled 'gay retirement homes'. Tomconroy Jul 2021 #29

It will be a new adventure! Now, before you sign ANYTHING, be sure they have... FailureToCommunicate Jul 2021 #28

You are going to become very popular jmbar2 Jul 2021 #31

Keep us posted.... most of us will be going through this... we need to know!!!! Karadeniz Jul 2021 #32

How wonderful! PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2021 #33

Mom had to go to a Memory Care Unit a few months ago. slightlv Jul 2021 #34

That sounds like a wonderful idea, I hope it will improve your happiness and allow you to feel LiberalLoner Jul 2021 #35

My grandmother also moved to a retirement community Rhiannon12866 Jul 2021 #37