losing my mom was bad enough . . .

[Sarah Ibarruri]

10. Your brother sounds like a narcissist.

Get yourself some counseling to deal with your feelings about this, and move on. You have no choice but to do what it takes to move on. Me, I'd get counseling, AND write them a letter explaining to them everything that they, as the sons of your mom, should have done for her, and didn't do. One doesn't have to live next door to do for one's parents the maximum one can do. They didn't even do the MINIMUM!

Also, food for thought. If they treated their own mom this way, do you expect them to treat you, their sister, any better? I think not!!!!.

Get counseling so you don't end up suffering from unnecessary guilt feelings. They are the ones that should be feeling guilty and ashamed of their behavior toward their mom in her last years of life, and it's clearly they don't care a rat's ass about what they did and failed to do.