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oldtime dfl_er

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15. I am SO SORRY
Wed Feb 9, 2022, 11:14 PM
Feb 2022

And yes, it's absolutely normal to want to sleep. You are truly exhausted, and it's the exhausted brain much more than the body, that needs rest. Take your time, take all the time you need, and slowly a sense of something approaching a semblance of a new normality will begin to take shape.

The lack of joy -- or even just balancing positive news -- is a constant in my life too. Every day for the last five years, I wake up to some new horror, either on a national or a personal level. So I have started to try to find smiles in little places. I start my morning by watching Jimmy Kimmel's monologue from the night before. I watch that Yukon Sikh dancing every day. I look for tiny moments, really that's all there is -- little moments -- of humor, joy or happiness. There's no balance, that's for sure. Five years of the insanity of the GQP, plus the pandemic, plus the personal tragedies that you're experiencing, are real issues that take a real slamming toll.

I hope fervently that with time you will feel better. I hope that for all of us.

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I am so sorry for your pain and grief. MLAA Feb 2022 #1
Thank you, MLAA Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #2
It's ok for you to be sad right now, you loved your brother, it's understandable. cayugafalls Feb 2022 #3
You're right. Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #4
It is. Drum Feb 2022 #5
Thanks, Drum Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #6
Virtual Hugs to you. Srkdqltr Feb 2022 #7
You are so right Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #8
A lot on your plate.. Deuxcents Feb 2022 #9
It's normal to feel low for a while. Haggard Celine Feb 2022 #10
Sending hugs & good energy your way. KarenS Feb 2022 #11
Blue, I am so sorry for your loss questionseverything Feb 2022 #12
Of course it's normal to feel exhausted SheltieLover Feb 2022 #13
It might be leighbythesea2 Feb 2022 #14
I am SO SORRY oldtime dfl_er Feb 2022 #15
I'm sorry for your pain and loss ybbor Feb 2022 #16
I'm sorry. JoeOtterbein Feb 2022 #17
I'm so sorry. Chellee Feb 2022 #18
I lost my wife last February 14 of 2021, so I know how you feel.... William Gustafson Feb 2022 #19
So many good responses from your friends here on DU..... Hulk Feb 2022 #20
You answered your own question in the first line. You are mentally and emotionally worn out. LoisB Feb 2022 #21
Sending virtual hugs and vibes for strength and healing and endurance for you niyad Feb 2022 #22
So sorry for your pain cally Feb 2022 #23
As the Buddhists say, this too will pass. gab13by13 Feb 2022 #24
It really hurts losing a sibling.... Dan Feb 2022 #25
I feel you. I haven't been able to work for weeks. CaptainTruth Feb 2022 #26
I so understand that grief induced exhaustion Farmer-Rick Feb 2022 #33
My Sympathies... GB_RN Feb 2022 #27
A death announcement on Facebook is not an invitation to call you. Call your friend. SunSeeker Feb 2022 #28
I agree with SunSeeker. A facebook announcement may not be enough. Many of us don't know how to ratchiweenie Feb 2022 #34
So true! SunSeeker Feb 2022 #36
So sorry you are going through this Tree Lady Feb 2022 #29
Give yourself permission to grieve Bayard Feb 2022 #30
As others have said: you are exhausted by your losses. Take time. Do call Hospice & see if ... Hekate Feb 2022 #31
Grieving is such hard work. BadgerMom Feb 2022 #32
Yes, it's normal. hippywife Feb 2022 #35
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