If Trump is truly a narcissist, he cannot "lose"

[nadine_mn]

I have been reading a lot of articles on Trump - from people who know him, worked with him, got sued by him. At first, when he ran, I thought Trump was just performance art a la Herman Cain - that he had to know he was working a con.

A lot of arm chair diagnoses of Trump being a narcissist - which seems obvious. But having actual Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a real thing and if he does have it (like many suspect, including me) in his fucked up mind, "Trump" can't lose.

He is already setting this up with talks of rigged elections and cheating. He isn't just talking out of his ass, he truly believes it.

My mom has NPD and it has taken years of therapy to come to terms with the fact that she really cannot experience "normal" emotions. Every time I think she would be devastated by bad news - loss of a job, divorce, her family not visiting her in the hospital even though they live 20 min away and she was in neuro ICU for 6 weeks, facing long term disability at age 64 - absolutely nothing seemed to affect her. And this wasn't a case of putting on a brave face or being strong - she really has a distorted reality that nothing is her fault, everyone adores her and she deserves special treatment because she is such a unique person.

You cannot expect empathy from a narcissist - they are completely incapable. And this isn't a willful choice (IMO), it's just not something they can experience.

This is why no amount of 'interventions' will work on Trump. He will always feel like he is a victim - you hear it in his language when he talks about the press or other candidates "being mean" to him or saying "not so nice things" - he doesn't have to change jack shit in his mind because he is not the problem, it's everyone else.

This is also why he will continue to do and say outlandish stuff to get attention. It isn't because he is hoping to get kicked out by the RNC, he feeds off of attention. It doesn't matter if it is good or bad - as long as everyone is talking about him. It's called narcissistic supply - and his supporters and critics give him plenty. The worst possible thing for him is to be ignored, for no one to talk about him.

Insulting him (about his finances, his little hands, his intelligence) is just as much fuel as praising him. He will make himself out to be the victim, his supporters will rally and he continues his distorted reality.

Obviously, you can see why this would be a disaster in foreign affairs if he became president - a war he starts would be the ultimate source of attention. But if (hopefully when) he loses, of course it won't be his fault.

I think this will be a disaster as well - for Americans in our country. He has support, like it or not - people truly fucking believe in him. And these people have lots of energy. They will believe he was cheated, the election was rigged and they will lose their damn minds trying to prove it. Republicans have to distance themselves - otherwise they will get caught up in trying to prove fake instances of cheating etc.

I want the GOP to implode as much as the next person. But as my mom's daughter, I fully believed in all her crazy lies, distortions etc. She used me to create so much drama in our family by feeding me lies and half-truths that I completely believed - and holy balls, hell hath no fury like an angry daughter trying to "protect" her mom. If Trump supporters have half the loyalty I did for my mom, they will stop at nothing for "justice" and to me that is scary is hell.

Ok - if you are still reading, you may be saying that I clearly still have "issues" with my mom and that I am projecting my experiences on to strangers. You may even think I am full of shit. Eh, you are probably right. However, I know first hand what it is like to get sucked in by a narcissist, to support them 100 % even in the face of facts, and no matter how shittily I am treated. It's why Trump can insult his supporters and they don't care, it's why you can list fact after fact, show evidence of Trump's lies and still his supporters will not waver.

But IF Trump has NPD (and I don't know, and it's almost impossible to have a narcissist go to the Dr to get evaluated for a mental illness because that would be admitting something is wrong with them) - then this whole nightmare will not be over after election day or even if by some chance the GOP replaces him with someone else.

His supporters will continue to divide us as much as they can. And because many in the GOP are craven assholes, they will suck up that support. The best thing is to ignore Trump, to cut off that supply - but the MSM is making too much $$ to see that they are truly hurting America by feeding him.

All of this is just my opinion, based on my experiences and from my interpretation of articles and interviews I have read/watched about Trump. But if just a little bit of what I think is true, things will get worse before they get better, and that is hard to imagine.