Women Speak Drastically Less When They’re Surrounded by Dudes. And That’s Bad.

[MadrasT]

2. Women who speak out are still disliked and shunned.

Told we're arrogant, bossy, have poor "people skills", need to learn to "get along" better (which basically means sit down and shut up like a good little girl).

It takes an enormous amount of energy to speak out and to continue to speak out when we continually receive negative feedback for doing so.

A woman who doesn't just smile, remain relatively silent (unless she is agreeing or "being supportive" like a proper female), and not make waves is NOT NICE and a NOT NICE woman is a pariah.

I have worked in heavily male-dominated fields all my life, been there, done that, and am unapologetically "NOT NICE". It gets exhausting sometimes, but I am physiologically incapable of sitting down and shutting up, especially when someone expects me to sit down and shut up.

Whatever. I am not on earth to participate in a popularity contest. Thank heaven I am an introvert and don't require much in the way of human interaction to be happy. It would be hell on an extravert.

These days I pick my battles carefully. Sometimes it just isn't worth it. Sometimes it is.