History of Feminism
In reply to the discussion: "Feminists are not responsible for educating men" [View all]calimary
(81,920 posts)And how long has THAT been going on?
More work for women. Sigh...
After we get finished cleaning, cooking, washing, picking up after the piggy people we live with, herding children, babysitting and diapering, teaching them everything from potty-training to manners and other civilizing habits, driving the carpool, going to the teachers' meetings, going to the principal's office, working in the Mother's Club meetings or PTA or whatever, trying to be active at their school, trying to be active at the church, and that's just in the home. When she's juggling a job, too, there's a whole 'nother level of workload piled onto the shoulders of women. Whether we're secretaries or CEOs, the manager or the cleaning lady.
I would like to know what actually might NOT be our share of the workload for a change. Since the division of labor for women versus men always and forever seems to break down to a ratio of about 90/10. WHEN do the men start stepping up? I keep reminding the young men around me (quite a few of them because of my son's band) - as I consider them boy-by-boy, each of them has grown up with a mom who works. Their own, and now, when they're around our house on band matters - ME. Several of them have female sibs - they're out working and trying to make ends meet, too. I hope they have absorbed some of that. But in this day and age, they actually have pals who were idiots in the bedroom, and now find themselves with a girlfriend who has a bun in the oven. And I don't know HOW OFTEN I personally have preached to them about loving carefully, wearing the "love glove," using condoms, being cautions (NOT ONE OF YOU IS ENTITLED TO MAKE ME A GRANDMOTHER YET, DO YOU HEAR ME????!?!?!?!?!?!?!?) One of 'em actually believed that if he used protection most of the time, it'd be okay. And he could plan ahead and finish school and get a better job in the industry he dreamed about and ... Well, now he's stuck. His whole life - which had been his own - is now redirected and dictated by that ONE fun little unprotected quickie he had, which - um - sprouted. In THIS day and age. With all the preaching we and other mothers have done, and supposedly all the sex education they've all (supposedly) had... That news was VERY sobering to the rest of the boys, believe me. Maybe they're teaching each other (well, MAYBE, although I wouldn't bet my house on it)...
Men...