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MadrasT

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5. If a compliment is freely offered,

Reply to Tuesday Afternoon (Original post)

Mon Aug 25, 2014, 11:49 AM

Aug 2014

then the person offering the compliment does not get OFFENDED if the recipient of the compliment doesn't act the way they expect.

If you get OFFENDED because someone doesn't receive your "compliment" graciously enough, then the compliment was never actually intended to make the other person feel good. It was for you to use to score points with that person. Which is the wrong use of a compliment.

I have a friend who continually gets pissy if you don't react with enough gratitude to their compliments. Which seems very fucking weird to me. It makes me feel he thinks I am a vending machine. "Insert compliment, receive gratitude."

Transactional relationships suck.

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Know The Difference ... [View all] Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 OP

Well that should get the point across brer cat Aug 2014 #1

... lol ... Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #2

How about someone insisting on buying you things, redqueen Aug 2014 #3

I agree and understand. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #4

If a compliment is freely offered, MadrasT Aug 2014 #5

I agree - transactional relationships suck. redqueen Aug 2014 #6

even sadder to me was the one that was willing to pay for a hug. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #7

Conditioning boys not to appear weak or vulnerable has a price. redqueen Aug 2014 #8

Stoicism (and I understand what you saying) crosses genders. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #9

Most men do not buy sex to get hugs. redqueen Aug 2014 #10

It is not a need, I agree with that and, using it to rationalize/justify their actions is Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #11

Power and Control. littlemissmartypants Aug 2014 #12