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Tue Mar-29-05 12:56 AM
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Poll question: The use of endearments: Sweety, Dear, Honey, etcetera... |
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I am the World's worst about this and don't mean to offend anyone...
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Tue Mar-29-05 12:56 AM
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1. I have no problem with it! |
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Edited on Tue Mar-29-05 12:59 AM by progmom
Sweetie pie!
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:02 AM
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6. Thank you, Sweety. I use such as that all the time in R/L. :-) |
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Tue Mar-29-05 12:57 AM
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2. I'd prefer being called PartyPooper. |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:03 AM
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10. Okay, I wouldn't call you anything else without knowing you better. :-) |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:00 AM
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3. I find it endearing most of the time. |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:05 AM
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:00 AM
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:06 AM
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12. Oh, I've already seen how you are, my Friend! :-) |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:01 AM
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5. It depends on the situation.... |
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I take offense when it's done in a patronizing fashion. But there are other times when it's fine.
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:07 AM
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14. Thank you, I feel the same way. :-) |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:02 AM
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7. It depends on the situation. |
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I have a tendency to call my friends "Sweetie" from time to time, but not strangers or casual acquaintances.
I'm usually not offended by strangers addressing me with endearments now and then, because I figure it's a result of their upbringing, but if I ask someone to stop and they don't, then I get offended.
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:10 AM
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15. Hmm, yes, I was raised by a Southern Mom, who did it all the time. |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:03 AM
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Hugely useful when you do not remember the person's NAME....Why, hello, DEAR....!
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:11 AM
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17. Way cool. That's the way I am. :-) |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:14 AM
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19. Thanks for the great idea! |
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I can hide my senility for a few more years! :beer:
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:18 AM
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:23 AM
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23. For your tough guy fellows, you can call them |
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"Champ" or "Sport." People always like a well-placed endearment--it makes them feel special (and hides a tempermental memory!).
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:26 AM
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24. Yep, if done right it can be a boost. :-) |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:03 AM
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I use these words sincerely and affectionately with people all the time.
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:13 AM
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18. A Lady I can agree with. :-) |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:06 AM
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13. Doesn't bother me in the least. |
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Whenever I use them it's sincere and meant as a symbol of caring.
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:17 AM
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20. Uh huh, Sweety, and you are from Texas as am I. :-) |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:10 AM
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Mostly on who is saying. A close friend or family member it is usually okay. From a boss, not so much.
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:20 AM
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22. Yes, you don't want it to be condescending, am I correct? |
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Tue Mar-29-05 11:06 AM
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34. well I was thinking it could amount to sexual harrassment |
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if it came from a boss or even a co-worker. Just inappropriate actually.
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:06 PM
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35. Possibly for the workplace. I never got familiar with a female... |
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...coworker unless I'd known them for years.
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:29 AM
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25. Radical Activist hates it when I call him sunshine or sugarbear |
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:07 PM
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36. ROFLMFBO! Good for you! :-) |
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Tue Mar-29-05 01:36 AM
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26. it beats being called shit for brains or dude |
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call me snookums or hon anyday,sugar booger is nice along with meat puppet ,stud muffin and love god.
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Tue Mar-29-05 08:37 PM
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:08 AM
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27. I got too old for people to call me "son" |
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Except for my dad who still does. I don't hear people being called "chief" or "buster" much anymore. Or "Pud" either. "Darling" seems kind of obsolete now also.
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Tue Mar-29-05 10:06 PM
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56. I call several of my closest young Friends and Nephews Son,... |
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but it's because I think of them as such. Otherwise I think that too can be used condescendingly.
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:36 AM
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I've lived in Chicago for 13 years but you can't take ALL of me out of the south....
Cool for friends and loved ones. Not so cool for strangers, although of course ladies of a certain age get a free pass.
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Tue Mar-29-05 03:08 AM
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29. oh love em! even better if nonsensical or in alliteration. |
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aka. oh come here, my beloved bellicose babushka. smoochie, woochie, oochums! go get sweet lil' stubby toe so i can go gooshy mushy on sugar snookems. aww there's a beautiful booby bear, what a doll...
i'm gonna love my senile years. :-p
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Tue Mar-29-05 03:09 AM
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30. I like it most of the time |
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It's a common thing here. I especially like it when elderly ladies, who are just dripping with sugar, call me sweety or honey. It's just so damn cute. :)
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Tue Mar-29-05 03:28 AM
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Tue Mar-29-05 03:34 AM
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32. world's BEST, darlin', stay positive! |
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Edited on Tue Mar-29-05 03:36 AM by fleabert
'sweetcheeks' is my fave...along with 'hot-pants'.
(and I was born in TX, btw, honey pot.)
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Tue Mar-29-05 03:58 PM
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53. Hee hee hee! Thank you, Dear. :-) |
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Tue Mar-29-05 03:38 AM
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33. Try some Madeira, my dear. |
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:09 PM
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37. No, my first name is not "baby.... |
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...it's Janet, Miss Jackson if you're nasty."
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:40 PM
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:13 PM
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38. Depends on the context, but being from the south, I |
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don't bat an eye at it.
I'll never forget a teacher I once worked with. She was from New Hampshire or Connecticut or one of those little New Englandey states, and she told me one time "I cannot BELIEVE these teachers call the students 'sweetie' and 'honey' and stuff." She was INCENSED. She said it was totally inappropriate. I was sort of bowled over. I never noticed it. Heck, I probably did it without even thinking. Everyone's sweetie or hon.
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:26 PM
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41. Yes'm, and it rolls right out of our mouths without ever meaning... |
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:14 PM
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39. "Hun" is one of the best things about life in the South! n/t |
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:27 PM
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:20 PM
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40. i once knew someone who hid a lot of vinegar behind the words "sweetie", |
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and so, having experienced the incongruence, i often wonder what is really behind, "Sweety", "Dear", "Honey", etc.
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:29 PM
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43. Those types can never carry it off! ;-( |
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Tue Mar-29-05 10:31 PM
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58. I'm aiming at you, lover. |
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Not so endearing. -The Lady from Shanghai. Orson Welles flick.
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:29 PM
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44. It all depends on the tone. |
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If I'm in a debate with someone who holds a dim view of my position, and he or she uses the word "sweetie" or "honey", I will assume a patronizing tone.
If I post that I broke a finger by smashing it in a car door, and someone uses the word "sweetie" or "honey", I will assume a sympathetic, caring tone.
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:32 PM
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45. I have no problem with it.... |
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I have far greater problems with people who don't make exceptions for others' upbringing and culture and get offended at it, or worse, become bellicose or vituperative over it. The reaction is usually far out of proportion to the offense, in that the offense is innocent, well-meaning and a cultural artifact, while the response is often quite abusive and rude.
I tend to put those who react so coarsely on ignore, be it literal in the Web world, or figurative, in the real world. If such little things are going to set them off, why do I want to continue to communicate with them? Who knows what other things will put them in a rage?
And condescension can come without terms of affection. In my life, it usually doesn't involved terms of affection; it involves posture, body language and expressions.
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:36 PM
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46. I've done business with a gentleman in the UK who called me "love". |
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as in "How are you, love?"
Being that he was British with that ability to not take things toooo seriously, I took no offense. In fact, I'd end the calls with "Ta Ta" !!
:evilgrin:
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:37 PM
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47. I do it here all the time. |
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I'm sorry if it offends anyone. I've never used it to be condescending, though.
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:43 PM
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49. Yes'm, and you come off natural doing it. One more reason you're a... |
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:57 PM
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52. That picture is making me hungry! |
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Thanks for the kind words :* and :hug:
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Tue Mar-29-05 11:09 PM
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59. You're welcome, Jazz. :-) |
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Those honeybuns are pretty good with coffee or milk. :)
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Tue Mar-29-05 02:55 PM
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51. I don't want to hear that ... |
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... from anyone I'm not married to. It is an unwelcomed level of familiarity from strangers. Not everyone in the world is my friend and that is no insult, just a fact. It is rude to talk to strangers or customers etc. as though they were friends. I find the assumed use of first names, or worse, nicknames, to be insulting.
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Tue Mar-29-05 08:38 PM
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55. I use them with people I know |
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all the time! I don't mind if people use them while speaking to me either.
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Tue Mar-29-05 11:26 PM
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60. I never thought "sweetheart" or "Dear" were particularly endearing - |
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And honey or "hon" sounded like I was talking to a child. In fact, I thought they sounded downright awkward to use with a "boyfriend" and didn't really feel comfortable saying or hearing them - until I met my husband.
Seemed those words fit him and our relationship.
Strange.
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Tue Mar-29-05 11:27 PM
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61. Well, MrG calls me "hon" when he really pissed at me so... |
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I don't know what to think, babycakes. :hi:
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Especially if you don't know the person. Seems kind of forced to me. But I'm weird.
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