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Thu Apr-07-05 12:09 PM
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I've been around DU for over two years now and over the past year many people have heard me whine at various times about my less-than-ideal marital situation. At one point, we very much loved one another, but, as many of you know from your own experiences, sometimes being apart ultimately ends up being better than staying, fighting, and being miserable for the rest of one's life (and passing along that dysfunctional legacy to one's children). Once we came to this decision last Summer (after counseling, soul-searching and beyond), it took quite awhile to get all the practical stuff in order (legally, financially, and arrangements with our children), but I'm there at last. The dark tunnel is almost done. I move in 9 days and I'm very, very at peace right now. :)
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Thu Apr-07-05 12:10 PM
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Thu Apr-07-05 12:12 PM
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I know you've been through some tough times. I'm glad you now have something to look forward to.
You could hold off moving until the Boston DU gathering, and then have us all help you move.... lol
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:29 PM
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39. I don't know if I have enough money for beer LOL. |
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Thu Apr-07-05 12:16 PM
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When my ex-wife and I split, it was really difficult, but signing my lease and moving out was such a relieving moment. We are really good friends now (which is how things started in the first place), and we share a little boy that is growing up in two happy houses instead of one angry, mean, and hurtful one.
Wishing you the best, and congrats! :toast: KJ
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:27 PM
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36. That's what I'm hoping for. |
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They love us both and I want them to have happy, loving parents, not ones in this tension-filled Hellish limbo. I know it'll be a change, but ultimately, I think it's been long overdue and positive for both of us.
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Thu Apr-07-05 12:17 PM
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4. I wish you Good Luck in your new life... |
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and glad you are at peace. I'm not good at giving anyone comforting advice so, I'll pass along a little something that was said to me in the service,"two gun, don't sweat the small shit". Sorry. Best I can do for ya.
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:25 PM
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Something to remember when I often find myself in positions of sweating the small stuff. :)
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Thu Apr-07-05 12:31 PM
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Congratulations! :bounce:
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Thu Apr-07-05 01:16 PM
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Glad you were able to make it mutual. My wife and I split ten years ago, and it my decision. But it was definitely the right thing and we have been able to stay on pretty good terms and raise our daughter together.
To coin a phrase, today is the first day of the rest of your life. A lot of people never get over that hump. You've shown courage in being able to take that step.
:toast:
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:24 PM
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30. It'd be nice to be friends again someday. |
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I hope as time goes on, we're able to do that.
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Thu Apr-07-05 04:30 PM
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8. And I ordered my Mac mini with a Superdrive. |
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I'm throwing away money like it's going out of style today, but I'm happy!
:woohoo:
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Thu Apr-07-05 04:31 PM
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He sounded kinda scary, frankly. Especially that part about the personals ad.
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:23 PM
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29. Yeah, he has his issues. |
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Hopefully, he'll continue along his own path of awareness and find that peace within himself. I'll always care for him on a human level and want him to be happy in life. I can't meet his needs, but hopefully he'll find that someday.
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Thu Apr-07-05 04:35 PM
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10. yay for you ! I hope the good continues for you ! nt |
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Thu Apr-07-05 04:40 PM
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11. That's wonderful news, SarahBelle!! |
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Enjoy the rest of your life. You've come out the other side of this heroically. :thumbsup:
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:21 PM
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27. I'm not sure where life is going to take me. |
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I'm glad though I did things the right way, tried to be a decent, responsible parent (my ex too- lousy husband, but great dad), and wherever life takes me, I know I can handle anything that is thrown my way. Barriers? Ha, I eat barriers for breakfast! :D
Congrats too by the way on you recent move. It must be beyond wonderful to be together. :)
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Thu Apr-07-05 04:45 PM
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12. 9 is the number associated with completion |
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In 9 days you will move on to a new journey :toast: May it be one filled with joy :woohoo:
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:18 PM
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What a great day too. So many good things. It's nice. :)
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Fri Apr-08-05 05:10 PM
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44. *sigh* It's always good to hear wonderful news. |
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Thu Apr-07-05 04:48 PM
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just so you know, being single doesn't suck. have fun.
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:17 PM
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25. I don't think it will. |
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Sometimes it might even be fun. Even sucking isn't so bad if it's done correctly. :7
Ooops, did I just say that? Hee hee!
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Thu Apr-07-05 04:57 PM
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14. Congratulations SarahBelle |
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I know you've been through some very trying times with this - I'm so glad to hear that you'll soon have your own space. What a difference that makes!
I was married and a mom at nineteen and before that, had only lived either at home or with a roommate. It wasn't until I divorced my second husband that I finally had a place that was MINE, my own, with no one else but my kids to share it with. It was so cool. I realized that I had been compromising and giving in for so long that I had no real idea of what I liked and wanted around me. It was a true voyage of discovery at the age of 35.
I'm really happy for you. :hug: :bounce: :party:
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:15 PM
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Married at 19, first kid at 20. Before that right from parents to roommate to husband. I'm rather looking forward to my own space for awhile. :)
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Thu Apr-07-05 05:14 PM
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I'm happy for you that you have found yourself and peace. I'm sure it has been hard but now that you know where your are in things you will find out where your going. Good luck!!!
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:11 PM
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I feel like I did everything right and it finally is all falling into place. I'm feel very lucky at the moment. :D
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:06 PM
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16. And my dad got a full-time job today! |
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Edited on Thu Apr-07-05 09:08 PM by SarahBelle
One of those great Karma days I guess, so if anyone wants to spoil my mood and tell me bad news, please don't. Just tell me life is amazingly wonderful and so am I.
Anyway, my dad's an attorney who has spent his whole career not getting rich, but doing law for non-profit human service agencies, planning and zoning for building of residences for developmentally delayed people, etc. and was laid off several years ago (in part due to some issues surrounding our weasel ex-governor/convicted felon Roland) and since has only been able to work part time and doing consulting work. He finally got something full time in his field, which at the age of 59, in this economy no less, is something we all all very thankful for. My dad sometimes drives me nuts, but he is the one person in my life who always loves me unconditionally, so if you will bear with me a moment, please give another happy toast to my dad- :toast: who proves that, yes, there are ethical attorneys and I'm proud one of them is him. We may not be rich, but we have our values and our integrity and there's something to be said for that in the end.
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:07 PM
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:toast: :hug: :loveya: Here's to your new life!
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:09 PM
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:loveya: :pals: :hug: :bounce: :party:
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:10 PM
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:woohoo: :woohoo: :woohoo: :woohoo:
Seriously, though. I've been following your saga all this time and I really respect the courage you have to both do this and to post so candidly about it.
The very best future to you, my dear.
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:13 PM
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21. Sometimes, this place has been my lifeline. |
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I mean, I've met a number of from DU, but in some way, I feel safe to express myself at times when I needed to. I tend to be a person who isolates when I feel down and it's not always healthy. It's kind of gotten me out of that pattern in general in my life (even offline :P) which is a very good thing.
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:14 PM
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Glad things are going well. I know you'll enjoy your new space.
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:16 PM
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I appreciate that! :toast:
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:26 PM
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34. When can I come over for a visit? |
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:28 PM
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:32 PM
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41. ooo... Mrs Belle you're trying to seduce me |
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:40 PM
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I'm one of those be-careful-what-you-ask for kinda women. It's not a mere seduction with me, it's an experience in of itself. :evilgrin:
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:47 PM
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43. I'm going for a cold shower now |
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:26 PM
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Glad you found a place that will work for you, and give you some peace and space of your own!
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Thu Apr-07-05 09:28 PM
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Fri Apr-08-05 05:20 PM
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know you've been looking fwd to this! took some serious balls to go through all the hassle.
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Fri Apr-08-05 06:55 PM
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47. Ovaries, baby, ovaries. |
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Fri Apr-08-05 05:21 PM
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I'll let you bask for a few days and then we can talk about all the shit the apartment people will try to pull on you. :)
Seriously though, congrats on getting your own space. :hug:
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Fri Apr-08-05 06:58 PM
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48. I'm lucky as far as that. |
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I'm renting a condo from someone who lives out of state, so there's more freedom. Plus, it's a townhouse, so no one is below me or above me. I can squeak anything I want and no complaints either. :7
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And just because he looks so cool, I'm reposting his pic.
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Fri Apr-08-05 07:02 PM
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51. I'm really happy for you Sarah! |
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I think you guys made the right decision.:hug:
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Fri Apr-08-05 07:04 PM
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I said in another thread that my marriage was like Terri Shiavo. All but dead for years and it was about damned time someone pulled the tube. :7
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