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[elleng]

damn

Court tomorrow, and just received more nastiness from 'stranged' husb, BAD Scorpio (kind of like Wisc Gov walker I think), so won't have settlement until who knows when. Fuming and angry and anxious at the moment. The matter's been pending for 2+ years, he owes me, and continues to manipulate.

:mad:

[OneGrassRoot]

1. Just saw this...

and wanted to send some supportive hugs, elleng.

So sorry this whole mess is still lingering....

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Sienna86]

2. More of the same

I'm sorry you have to go through more of his bad behavior. But my thought in reading your note was this: Yes, it's more of the same. It's nasty and angry. So, what can you do to make it different for you? You have no control over him and his choice of behavior, but you do have a choice over how you will handle it.

[MorningGlow]

3. Oh no...

So sorry, Ellen. That sucks. x( Sending you energy so you come out of this with the best possible result. :hug:

[LiberalEsto]

4. sending hugs

:hug:

[findrskeep]

5. Sorry to hear this Ellen...

This is what came to mind as I read your post. One day this WILL be over, try and project yourself to that place mentally...if even for a little while. I hope this helps. Hang in there.

[elleng]

6. Thanks, ALL, for your responses.

As to what can I do, depends on the moment in time. General nastiness wouldn't be AS bad if it didn't include complete loss of my nest-egg due to his behavior, so daily 'handicapped' as to what I can afford to do. NOT impoverished, but at 66 would like to be able to plan simple things like movies, concerts, some travel, and inabilty to plan really gets me down.

And as to general nastiness, can't NOT think about fact that he lies, has lied, and continues to lie, especially to our daughters, about my/his situation, so they continue to believe he's just a fine and dandy father/husband. I also suspect he's lied to his family/my in-laws as to reason for our split-up. I left because he hurt me physically, tho I should have left during the years when the hurt was 'merely' emotional. So will see family at daughter's wedding in September, and among other things I lose sleep over thoughts about explaining the 'true' facts to them.

Rick has help me try to refocus, but its not so easy.

Thanks

:hi:

[Ricochet21]

7. What did the court say?

Any results?

[elleng]

8. No results, just more delay.

Said go back for another round of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR,) hoping for Agreement which would result in Consent Order and avoid need for Trial. He also said his next available trial date would be October. Last time after ADR (November) we had an Agreement, but 'husb' refused to agree to my attorney's draft of such and also didn't 'correct' it. Finally, few days before hearing last week, 'husb' presented us with adjusted Agreement along with 'Statement of Facts,' which contained numerous points with which I don't agree.

During hearing my attorney mentioned 'difficulty' arriving at agreed Statement of Facts, and judge noted, kind of laughing, that he's noticed that in Domestic Relations Court, to which he's new (He had been hearing 'Civil' cases) he's noticed that sometimes the parties can't even agree on their names, and he thinks Statements of Facts in these matters aren't so important. I was happy to hear that!

Judge said, as we suggested I want increase in Alimony Pending Litigation, that we need to file a Motion for same before he can entertain it.

Have written to 'husb' about moving along with these things, and I expect no response from him >>> more delay.

Thanks for asking.

[Ricochet21]

11. I think

it will be forced to resolution by April 1 when Mars joins Uranus in Aries
I hope I'm right. I'll be writing about this globally.

Hang in there :hug:

[elleng]

12. Thanks; so hope you're right.

Sending p.m.

[japple]

9. Hugs to you Ellen. I ask the Universe to give you strength and

endurance and whatever else you need to sustain yourself during this legal process. Sending peaceful, calming energies in your direction. Do you have some project that you can work on at this time? Volunteer work or something that will shift your focus?

[elleng]

10. Thanks, japple.

I do have a couple 'projects' cooking, but its still a 'one day at a time' thing, unfortunately.