Or did you decide to distance yourself?
Will understand whatever you decided. :hug:
I'm so sorry you had to learn this about someone you considered a friend.
Regarding your recent comment...so true.
They will eventually reveal themselves. No matter what. :( :grr::mad:
It's one of the reasons I find comments on line (penned by those lacking pigment) about "what constitutes racism" ridiculous, and frequently laughable. Lately I've grown fond of calling such comments "white world's permission slips" of what we are allowed to deem as racism.
There are still these notions that one can't possess levels of unawareness, and in the process express some "insensitivity" regarding ethnic issues. Some still believe if people don't have skinned heads, white robes or look like some stereotypical bigoted cariacature on tv--then it isn't racist/racism.
Case in point,
the prop 8 aftermath. I saw members that have routinely spoken out against various forms of ethnic discrimination say some incredibly insensitive things. Was some of it racist? Yes. And I was surpised. But given the source and having seen them speak out against racial bigotry in the past, I was willing to cut some slack and merely go with "racially insensitive."
But, when I saw the same called on their comments by members...whoa! "...how dare you call me a racist. You don't know what you're talking about! How dare you?!" lol! ;)
When all was said and done, people of color were still dictated to by caucasians (even those that identify as another minority group) as to what they were "allowed" to be offended by. The proof is in the threads from that period, linked in this forum (no matter how much some may want to re-write what happened, after the fact).
Interesting example in this sub-thread (thread concerning evidence that prop 8 stats were "overblown"):
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=132&topic_id=8069057#8069721specific example shown in sub-thread beginning w/post 94.
Point continues on through 128/118 (and comments by kwassa).
Note how post #97 is soon after contradicted by # 128.