John Mayer: A black woman responds (Salon.com)

[Blue_Tires]

John Mayer: A black woman responds
Thursday, Feb 11, 2010 11:30 EST

Your infamous interview made millions of black women snap shut their legs -- and turn off your music

By La Toya Tooles

John Mayer, I had been listening to your music for four hours straight when I heard your now-famous comments about not being attracted to black women, how your "dick is sort of like a white supremacist."

That’s fine John, because millions of black legs everywhere just snapped shut. They are closed to you. Drape your penis in a white pillowcase for all we care.

The comment is only one of the offensive things you said in your Playboy interview -- like calling Jessica Simpson "sexual napalm" and casually tossing off the n-word -- but it's your joke that you have a "Benetton heart and a David Duke" dick that I want to address now. See, I don't begrudge you your sexual preferences; it's your right to screw as many cheerleaders as you want. What bothers me is that you're not the only guy who feels or acts this way. Sometimes, when I stand in a room of white men, I feel unfeminine and unsexual, no matter the strappy heels, the makeup, the dress. I know there are white men out there who find black women attractive, but you, John Mayer -- the guy down enough to be on"Chappelle's Show," the guy so sensitive he writes love songs -- now represent the ones who don't. Maybe you should think a little bit about that.

I doubt you have any idea what it feels like to be invisible, to come to a party looking for a little sexual validation and have white men look through you like you're wearing sweats. I doubt you know what it's like to feel the weight of cultural expectations every time you stand on a dance floor, knowing that your dance card will be empty since you won't play the freak. I doubt you know what it's like to question everything about yourself -- how you stood, how you dressed, how you smiled, trying to figure out what you did so wrong that men simply stayed away? I'm not ignorant enough to think my color is the only reason men would dismiss me, but when that happens enough times, it's hard to ignore the common factor. Do you know what it's like to be ignored in a roomful of romantic partners your age? Well, multiply that by 300 years of servitude.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=389x7696398

http://www.salon.com/news/race/index.html?story=/mwt/broadsheet/feature/2010/02/11/john_mayer_black_women

[Number23]

1. She needs a Coke and a smile

And to stop worrying about being validated by ANY man, let alone white ones.

This is the dumbest and yet, saddest thing I've read all week.

[noiretextatique]

23. she needs some self-esteem

standing around waiting for white men to find her sexually attractive :puke: truly pathetic.

[jmm]

2. How do I boycott somebody I'd never listen to?

:shrug:

I won't shed a tear or lose any sleep knowing this is not attracted to me-








Seriously though, she needs help. Yes there are people who let prejudices and stereotypes influence their sexuality but this article says more about her than him. True validation has to come from within. No man is ever worth developing a complex over especially John Mayer.

[Number23]

3. **PIERCING SCREAM**

My eyes!! My EYES!!

Is there any vinegar or Clorox in the AAIG medicine cabinet I can use to disinfect my retinas??!!?!

[FrenchieCat]

4. That's a naked clown, isn't it? Never seen one of those!

Quite weird and goofy looking! :rofl:

[AspenRose]

7. There there, 23.

:rofl:

[Number23]

9. Damn! That will do nicely!!

((Wiping the slobber off of my chin))

[Fire1]

13. THAT'S my baby!!!! He's just as pretty in person. INSIDE and

OUT!!! Beautiful man!!

[butterfly77]

14. I know what you mean..

:blush:

[bliss_eternal]

19. oh.my. gawd.

:wow:

as salt and pepa said, "...whatta man, whatta man, whatta...." well you know how it goes. :P

[Raineyb]

21. Much much better. n/t

[Fire1]

11. ROFLMAO!!!!!!! Stop!!!!! Stop it!!!!! My side hyrts! I can't ntype!!

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[AspenRose]

6. !

:wow:






















Please tell me that's a photoshop.


Lord, have mercy.

!

In all seriousness though, I think he has a mood disorder or latent mental illness that needs to be checked out. His interview sounded manic to me.

[RoyGBiv]

8. What the flippin!!!!

... dayglow streak of bastard hellspawn is THAT!!!

Ohholychrist ...

Well, that does it. My brain finally liquefied.

[bliss_eternal]

18. aaaaauuuuuuugh!

:wow:

worst photo op EVER! Yuck!

oh, and i totally agree w/your comments on the article, jmm.
:(

[Raineyb]

20. Must...find...brain...scrub!

That makes me want to pull my eyes out of their sockets.

[Brewman_Jax]

5. That was sad

and another reason not to bother with John Mayer. :eyes:

That was one sad article. :( You've got to be you, no matter what. No one needs validation from anyone else--period.

[Fire1]

17. Ditto!! n/t

[Number23]

10. Y'all have GOT to read this response from a sista in GD on this

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=389x7698272#7698591

"You'd have to be this big (imagine, y'all) to ride this ride. I've seen the pic of you in the yellow swimsuit. When you start packin' like you're blackin', you *might* get some sisters to talk to you. We wait..."

I laughed. I cried. But I mostly laughed until I cried... :)

[Fire1]

12. Girlfriend was tellin it!!! True dat!! n/t

[Number23]

15. lol! Although I have to admit, seeing that photo of Mayer "full frontal"

in that post almost made me lose my breakfast. :(

:rofl:

[Fire1]

16. Girl, I laughed so hard at your post up thread, tears were

rollin down my face! LOL!!! It's still funny as hell!!:rofl: :rofl:

[Cha]

22. Oh Gawd! What a..yi yi..he does have an unfiltered mouth

..this is probably the most stupid thing that has come out of it.