Tonight I have an overwhelming sense of not fitting in anywhere.

[Ladyhawk]

I'm lonely. I left my religion and the right wing and those people don't accept me anymore. Now some things have happened in my local peace group and on DU that make me think a lot of people here don't accept me, either. My mind tells me it's over something stupid, but my emotions aren't falling in line.

I'm being overwhelmed by these emotions and I don't know what to do.

[Droopy]

1. I'll accept you, Ladyhawk

Why is it that you feel that people here don't like you? I've seen your posts elsewhere and it seems like you get along with everybody just fine.

[undergroundpanther]

2. Ladyhawke

I think you Rawk!

And not many people on this shitty EARTH rawk in my mind..They are not as with it as you are.
And franlky I accept very few people as worth it in my mind. For most joe blow kinda people,I find I can't trust 'em, I don't like'em and most of the bullk of"normal" "mainsteam"humanity is,sadly a waste of my time or just pathetic,boring and limited.

If I lived in California around where you are and Not on the East coast,a billion miles away,I really think we would have hooked up,and been freinds already.. even without finding each other on DU.

Panthery Purry Furry Hugs to the feathery fluffy birdie ladyhawke!

And helll Yess I accept you,

[DemExpat]

3. It is such a scary feeling to not feel supported...

Being an expat I have had to learn to deal with this state of being most of my life.

I truly do not fit into any group except for the growing number of people who have moved around so much that only the earth can be called "home"....

Hope you feel better soon, Ladyhawk.

These feelings for me come and go in cycles.

:hug:

DemEx

[mopinko]

4. all people owned by parrots

are at least mostly good. that is just a fact. (ok, maybe the snake cancels some of that out, i dunno.)
hope you feel better soon, dear one. i know that feeling of a veil of black over everything. it can be quite a barrier to forming and keeping the relationships that we all need. it sucks. take care of yourself.

[ernstbass]

5. Ladyhawk I look for your posts

bacause you always have valuable things to say. I know that feeling of not fitting in but I'm pulling for you!

[Nikia]

6. Supportive people are very helpful

Going to my eating disorder support group and feeling great while I am there and right after makes me think that, for some of us, that having supportive people might be key to our recovery or remaining ill if we don't. We need people who we can feel safe with and who are on side. For various reasons, our families or even our So's (if we have them) might not be those people.
For me it is good to be on DU and everything, but I don't feel connected with people here as much as I can in person.
I want to make more friends in real life, but I am not sure that I even want to stay in this area. One thing is for sure, the people at work are not safe people for me and I want to leave.
As for you, Ladyhawk, I am sorry that you are having problems with people in your local group. As far as DU, there are many different people here. Some you will get along with and others you won't. I think that is true of anyone. I know that it is hard not to have the people supporting you that you grew up with supporting you too.
My wish is for you, myself, and others that we can find people out there who will be supportive of us and who we can feel good about supporting in return. It is scary joining groups and meeting people when you have many people let you down in the past or have had trouble connecting with new people. Good luck.

[Lorien]

7. Do you have any friends nearby who you could get together with?

Go see a movie, drinks afterward, that sort of thing? Maybe the antidote is to be with the people that DO accept you.

I think that you are very well liked and respected here on DU. I don't know what incident you are speaking of, but I find that nearly every time I wade into the lounge or GD I get piled on and flamed and end up pretty pissed and disgusted-but then I realize that this is mostly due to the fact that most of the people in the lounge see me as an "interloper" butting into their cliques, and others just come to DU to pick fights because they don't feel important/heard/valuable in "real life"-so I don't take it personally. It's them, not you, Ladyhawk. You're a perfectly reasonable and delightful person, but you live in a crap area of the country and you're surrounded by RW whack jobs. I can relate; I live in Florida. I KNOW another life is possible, though, because I grew up a Yankee in a liberal town and I've traveled through Europe and Britain; there ARE better places to be, places that are much healthier for your psyche. It's just a matter of finally saying "ENOUGH"! and making the Big Move (tough when funds are tight, I know).

:hug: