HELP!!! I'm going on a date!

[TrogL]

I finally got up the gumption and kicked my partner out.

A friend heard about somebody about my age whose partner just kinda up and disappeared so she's going to match us up probably this weekend.

All my other relationships I pretty much got into by accident and the "first date" was a train wreck of misunderstandings and miscommunications.

Um....

What do I wear, what do I do, what do I say?

All I know is that he's about my age, smaller than me (no, I'm not exactly sure what that means or how she knows), with an offbeat sense of humour, and he knows about American politics so at least we'll have something to talk about.

[Bluerthanblue]

1. Dear TrogL

my very best advice- (wisdom comes through pain and failure more often than not) is to just BE YOU as completely as you are able. We all 'put on' selves (to some degree) in order to 'be' what we think will make us acceptable to other people. Even if all you are seeking is a 'good friend'- you will want to be free to be who your are, and not pretend, if you want a relationship with any value.

If this person is someone who 'fits' - and you like him too, then you've saved yourself alot of potential misery- (if he's being genuine with you as well). Life is too short, and too precious to waste on false faces, and meaningless, mindless relationships. (in my opinion)

As for 'dressing'- it sure would help to know what you guys are going to be doin. Dress to please yourself, both in comfort, and style, given the situation. Unless you are planning to transform yourself into someone new- (a difficult if not impossible task, in the long term)you'll know that if you want to get to know each other better, you are being true to yourself. And that IS 'good enough'- more than 'good enough' for the person who is meant for you-

I'm excited for you- hope you have a great time. A sense of humor is probably the most important asset a person can have (imo again) as long as its not sarcastic, or cruel, disguised as humor- like *'s-
Be yourself- you ARE 'worthy, special, and enough'.

blu

[EFerrari]

2. Have fun and keep it in perspective.

Be excited and nervous and all that stuff but remember, it's okay to have a good time for a few hours. The world won't explode no matter what you wear, say or do.

When I feel scared of something, I try to remember what a very wee bit of the whole picture I really am.

Good luck and I hope you enjoy. :hi:

[TrogL]

3. He's a complete idiot

Dumber than a sack of hammers.

Oh, well.

[Bluerthanblue]

4. sorry TrogL, there is

someone out there- likely several 'someone's
Don't stop being open-

Even when it hurts-

blu

[TrogL]

5. Ok, my life just got completely strange

I'm going out on a "date" with my ex-wife on Wednesday.

Her mother is jumping with joy.

I am soooooooooooooooooo confused.

[TrogL]

6. Fizzle

She figures she can muddle along.