Is anyone here familiar with Anne Sheffield?

[zanne]

I just started reading her book "Depression Fallout--The Impact of Depression on Couples". This book describes my life down to a "T". I have chronic depressive disorder and so does my husband, but it affects us in different ways. My husband can be caring, fun and sweet one day and cold, uncaring and grouchy the next. I used to wonder what I was doing wrong--it took awhile to realize that he sufferred from depression too, though that didn't make it any easier to live with. I love my husband and I've never been successful in leaving him, even when it made my situation worse. I'm working on trying to separate his depression from mine (kind of an egg yolk and egg white thing).
Anyway, if anybody else has found themselves in this situation, please check in, OK? We can compare notes.

[mzteris]

1. hmmmm -

sounds like a familiar pattern.

I"ve been trying for 17 years to get my husband into therapy. No go.

Well, he did leave - me, that is. Just a few months ago.

Of course I'm the one who's "crazy".

I told him last week, "yeah, but at least I KNOW I am. You won't admit it!"

I don't think there's any salvaging the marriage, but I'd like to salvage something since we have kids.

[Larissa238]

2. If he is throwing "crazy" in your face...

maybe it's better that he's a bit away (I know you have kids and want them to be able to see him). Someone throwing that in your face could be a sign of manipulation. I had an ex that was great at it. They would throw a fit, and then somehow blame it all on me, because I was "crazy". Not someone I miss being with.