Destroyed

[varkam]

I'm pretty low, right now. This morning I was told by my fiance that she thinks that she is a lesbian, and that we might break off our engagement (we've been together over three years now). I've always known that she was bi-sexual (or at least thought, I guess) and have no problem with her being attracted to other women, just so long as she is also attracted to me. But she's saying that she hasn't been attracted to men for the past several months, and doesn't know what our future is.

I'm destroyed, right now. She's my best friend and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I love her deeply, and I know that she loves me too.

I have no idea what to do. I just need someone to talk to, I guess.

[hunter]

1. I'm so sorry.

I got run over by that truck many years ago.

If the two of you can remain friends you'll be doing a lot better than I did.

The last time I crossed paths with my ex it was a PTSD break-out-in-a-sweat-feeling-a-knife-in-my-gut-kind of reaction, and we avoided one another entirely.

Intellectually we both know what happened (especially the role her family's religion and my mental health issues played!!!) but somehow that doesn't heal anything.

It might not make you feel any better today for me to tell you this, but my ex married one of her girlfriends and they are happy and successful, and I'm happily married too.

[hedgehog]

2. I don't know what to say. I wish I could make you feel better.

I'm sorry that you have to feel so devestated right now. I know better times are coming for both of you whether you stay on the same path or seperate.

[TZ]

3. I'm sorry, varkam

I wish I had some good advice for you. But since I can't even manage the dating thing let alone the relationship thing nothing I say would be particularly helpful. But I do know the fact that you are very good friends is a good thing and it might just be the foundation of helping you get through this crisis.....:hug:

[SPKrazy]

4. wow friend

that's a hard one and I don't know what to tell you except that you are still friends and who knows what will happen...

:hug:

[Larissa238]

5. If you want, you can PM me

You can ask for my number if you wish. I'm in the opposite arrangement in a way. I'm in the same spot as your fiance, except it was the other way around. I don't want to go into too much detail because I'm at work, but feel free to PM me if you want to talk on the phone later.

*hugs*