Book or website suggestions on co-dependence, family dynamics, verbal abuse

[Shallah Kali]

I am going through some family issues right now and figuring out why I overreact the way I do to certain actions by others. I have been reading 'The Dance of Anger' by Harriet Lerner on the advice of my therapist and it is very enlightening but I want more info. As I make changes I am getting change back messages and behaviors from my Mother whom I live with. The main thing I have to fix is me but it is disheartening and discouraging to see my normally very supportive and caring Mother have these reactions. I want to figure out how to not react to her reactions or at least not let it bug me so that it I allow it to hinder me as I have been doing.

Thank you in advance!

Shallah