I'm angry right now

[SPKrazy]

several things on my mind

then I come on DU and find out that I've been accused of something by someone and it really, really hacks me the fuck off.

It isn't true either btw.

I now feel like the person who spread this around probably wanted me to feel.

Like "everyone knows"

But you know what?

I can look myself in the mirror and ask myself the question "is this bullshit, or is this true?"

and the answer is that it is bullshit

and SPK is really a good guy no matter what the hell anyone here on DU thinks.

Most importantly, I didn't EVEN think of having a drink over it.

Like I said, there are so many other issues much more pressing and important for me to deal with.

It just surprised me to find a PM saying that I had been accused of something.

Thanks

:hi:

[varkam]

1. Are you going to drink the poison?

Because that is what resentment is -- you drinking the poison and waiting for the other person to die. It makes no sense, and it does us no favors in the long run. I was stabbed in the back a few months ago by a person who I thought was a good friend. At first I was resentful, pissed off, angry - and rightfully so. Give yourself time to be pissed off, but remember to let it go.

:pals:

[SPKrazy]

2. no i'm not

i'm pissed

but not resentful

i'm even going to pray for those who are saying these things

no, not just pray that they get what's coming to them

but pray that they can find peace of mind because they obviously don't

i want that for myself and i refuse to let this eat my lunch

i just hope it disappears really

it just seems to keep popping back up with no rhyme or reason

hell i even went to look at my "sent" pm's to see if someone had hacked my account.

while some of my pm's are very personal, i'm not afraid to have the whole damned batch examined if that is what it takes

:pals:

[NMDemDist2]

3. ...

I'm not your only man I'm just your lover
Not your only man just another
Open up your eyes and realise
I'm gonna take what I can like any other
Cause it don't mean a thing to me

Well
You lie down with dogs you fall in with thieves
You're gonna catch something but you do as you please
You're scratchin' an itch that nothing can ease
You lie down with dogs you get up with fleas

Get out and find yourself another lover
Why don't you find yourself another lover
Open up your eyes and realize
You don't mean nothing to me I'm not your mother
You gave me all that you had to give
But there's a whole lotta fish in the sea

Well
You lie down with dogs you fall in with thieves
You're gonna catch something but you do as you please
You're scratchin' an itch that nothing can ease
You lie down with dogs you get up with fleas


:hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

4. thanks for the reminder

:hug:

[FloridaJudy]

5. This too shall pass

Give yourself permission to be pissed - and a time limit. That's what I do, and believe me the last few years have given me plenty of reason to be pissed. Despite what some say, anger is not a sin, but stewing in it is a really bad idea.

The Dalai Lama said that you learn more from your enemies than your friends. I figure if he can forgive the Chinese for what they did to Tibet, I can forgive those who've merely spread malicious rumors about me - and those who believed them. One of them cost me my job and a hell of a lot of money, but those are merely things. I still have my friends and family, and I know where my next meal is coming from. So many others are worse off than I am, I'd be crazy to stew in my problems.

[SPKrazy]

7. I realize that this isn't

reality here at DU

and you're right, i have to be willing to forgive those who spread gossip and innuendo and downright libelous ideas about me because my life depends on not letting it control me. Anger is not a sin, and I will stand up for myself. I will not let the bad guys steal my serenity though.

Thanks

:hi:

[Justpat]

6. I learned to look at all of my life the way I learned to in AA.

Always, in every aspect of your life, stick with the winners.

The kind of behavior you are talking about is childish and destructive.
It serves no useful purpose.

You are much loved here. OB

[SPKrazy]

8. Yeah, good advice

the winners is where i need to be

:hi:

[Kajsa]

9. You know it's BS- keep reminding yourself

of it. It serves no purpose except to upset you and that
seems to be what these people ( person) want.

I had the same thing happen to me a little over a month ago.
I was accused of being a racist, the exact opposite of who I am,
by someone I thought was intelligent and knowledgeable here on DU.
Man was I wrong on all counts!

It hurt like hell, but I had to remind myself that it was BS.

That's what you need to do.

THEY have the problem, not the other way around.

Hang in there,

It WILL get better.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

10. it is total b.s.

it is just amazing to me that it is so pervasive and the person continues apparently to spread malicious rumor around the lounge and I find myself in the position of saying "I hope you don't really believe it", it is like Richard Jewell, once you say bullshit about someone, it doesn't matter if it is true, a percentage of people are going to believe it as I've already found out by posting on DU and having someone attack me with allegations that make no sense at all to me.

Thanks

I'm sorry about your experience, I remember you wrote me about it and I may not have taken it as seriously as I should have. Gawd knows you aren't a racist.

:hug: :hug:

it will get better, but it sure as hell just keeps getting worse on here. I will get better I think.

And people will either believe me or they will believe the other person.

[Kajsa]

11. It will get better, or at least

this too shall pass.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

12. you are right

now I've read the pm (someone forwarded it to me) I really am looking at it like "this is a sick person, how can I help them" and less at just being angry about it.

This too shall pass, and I will actually feel prayerful towards this person now.

:hug:

thanks

[ejbr]

13. I don't know you from Adam,

and I don't really "know" other posters here at DU, although I have been here, off and on, for a few years. That being said, if someone were to tell me something negative about someone here on the site, I would be extremely suspicious of their motives. Not only would I wonder if there were some sour grapes, but I would also be insulted by the insinuation that I am incapable of having good judgment about people on this site without their input.

Lastly, the quote you have in your signature line should assuage any concerns about your good nature.

[SPKrazy]

14. thanks

i appreciate it

:pals: