I'm angry at my friends and at myself!

[Cassandra]

On Friday I went to a friend's apartment; a bunch of us were going to order in and I was planning on a salmon dish with some steamed veggies on the side. Instead the hostess decided that she was going to order from the Italian place her husband used to be the chef at. There was sauteed chicken, cheese ravioli and pasta and a salad. Before dinner she was pushing spanakopita, cream cheese on celery, olives and cheese on us and after dinner there were cookies and ice cream. I had some grapes, 3 small, flat chicken cutlets, two ravioli and some salad, two cookies but no ice cream. The whole time the hostess, who is somewhat overweight and diabetic, kept urging us to eat more and after a while one can feel a bit churlish saying no or worse. The total when I counted the points up was way over what I was expecting dinner to be that day (the cookies were packaged and much higher in fat than I thought). Today I went to a New Year's Day party at a friend's and she had the usual party food; deviled eggs, franks in blankets, some veggies, fondue, yogurt cake and cookies and mimosas. I didn't think I'd had that much but it added up to so much that I don't think I can spare the points to have dinner.
I know that the only one who put this stuff in my mouth is me but I'm still pissed, at them for having food they know I shouldn't eat (particularly the first one), at myself for eating some of it and at life for making it so that even eating "normally" puts me over for the day. ARRRRRGGGHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!
I not only have to be nearly perfect the rest of the week, which I hate, but I will probably end up having to throw out food I bought for myself, expecting to have the points to eat it this week before it goes bad. Being this angry doesn't make me want to go on a binge or anything but I've just been really furious since I got home. I feel betrayed.
The only humorous note is that I stopped in B&N on the way home and saw the special deals tables covered with diet and healthy eating books. They sure don't waste any time.

[rox63]

1. You can't undo what is already done

But you can forgive yourself for doing it. Beating yourself up over yesterday will only make you feel worse about yourself, which is likely to lead to more overeating. Why not try to just put it in the past, and make today as good a food day as possible. No one can do this (weight-loss) perfectly, since we are all human beings, and thus imperfect.

I went off my plan at times over the holidays. But I gave myself permission to do so, as long as I didn't go nuts with it. Yes, my weight loss has been a bit stalled over the last couple of weeks. But I haven't gained either, and I got through the holidays without really feeling deprived.

Now it's time to get serious again. I've lost nearly 60 lbs since last July, and I've got another 60 to go to reach my goal. I will get there, even though it may not be a straight line from start to finish.

Good luck on your journey, as you follow it into the new year.

[auntAgonist]

2. Cassandra;

No one is perfect and the expectation of perfection is why a lot (maybe most)people are unable to stick to a 'diet'.

Your friends splurged on holiday foods. I'm sure they don't eat like that all the time. Your dietary needs were probably never even considered.

Today is a new day. Forget yesterday and the holiday feasting season. Guilt will not help you to lose weight, as a matter of fact it will probably discourage you from succeeding in the weeks to come. Take today as the first day once again and do your best to eat healthily.

Don't beat yourself up. Don't hold any hard feelings towards your friends. Life isn't going to change in the outside world just because 'we' eat differently.


Best of luck to you and Happy New Year!!!

:hug:

aA

[Cassandra]

3. Thank you both.

I probably could have managed the week more easily with only one of those two occasions. It was probably the first one that was more annoying because it was unexpected and so unnecessary; we would all have been happy to order individually and that was the plan. I'm pissed because I essentially handed control of my week over to other people.
I ended up having an orange (because it took a while to eat) and a wasa crispbread and am kind of back on track today (may be a point or two over what I'd like for today, maybe not). I'm going for a two hour walk later to pick up my healthy food (my version of hunter-gatherer).